Things people have said to you.

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I am 10 weeks pregnant with my second. I have a little boy who is 14 months. Everyone knows I am pregnant`. Recently I have been told/asked all these things.

"Why are you having another?"

"Why didn't you wait?"

"I suppose you want a girl"

"I think you are having twins" - said by someone I work with despite me having an early scan which showed 1 baby.

"X told me you were having twins"

"Why don't you call this one Freda"(DS is called Freddie)

I have got about 30 weeks to go and I am sick of it already.

What have people said to you about your pregnancy.

Lucy10 - apparently it is not good for the environment (according to the two separate people who have said exactly those words). Cannot type my reply as I am feeling polite tonight . Some people are so thoughtless in what they say aren't they?.

Every time I see the MW she seems to find a way of telling me I am going to have an awful body and terrible sex life. Anything I mention with regards to this pregnancy (such as head not engaged this time) is down to terrible muscle tone seemingly . I wouldn't mind but my MW this time has 3 children looks pretty fit to me!

My HV is the real harbinger of doom though - incredible!

I'm 23 weeks with db2 and so far I've had:

Oh no not again - from my dad when i told him i was pregnant (he's thrilled now thought)

God you're huge. You sure it's not twins?

God you're tiny. I was much bigger than that.

Was it planned?

You must be mad to have 2 so close together (exactly 2 years between them)

How will you cope?

You're really going to struggle

I want a grandson. It had better be a boy (from mil)

I'm 25 weeks and I don't think I've had any bad comments, well i've had the 'you're looking big' and 'you're looking small' within 2mins of eachother but that's just an observation, I find it hard to get annoyed at that.

From my mother I've had:

'I haven't been able to sleep for 2 nights because of you, I think you're going to die during labour'. (This was 3 days after I told her I was pregnant).

'You must watch your weight, you're overweight and overweight people can't breastfeed because their breasts are too big, you won't be able to breastfeed.'

Because I decided not to go to a rave with my DP she said 'you should've gone, you're coming across as a wet blanket, he'll dump you and go out with someone more fun'.

She's also said to my dad: 'Stop eating that will you, you'll soon be as big as Fat Belly over there (pointing at me)'.

She's said plenty of other things about me being 'fat' - no, I've got a f*cking baby growing inside me you old witch! She also had the audacity to deny ever saying any of these things when I finally sent an email telling her she was upsetting me and to pack it in.

Why is it that I have only come up with bad things said by my own mother??

lollipop - are you sure we don't have the same mother?

Worst one for me was from MIL who told me that I was thoughtless and selfish for getting pregnant again when SIL was still trying for her first with no success, as if I'd personally gone out of my way to make her feel bad (and actually I did feel awful about it, so didn't need to be told so)

Everyone (well, seemed like everyone!) presumes and asks "Is this it after this one?". Errr.... no. I am only 22! No idea why people get it into their heads that people just have 2 kids, full stop.

Sweetkitty If we do have the same mother I feel for you, at times I wouldn't wish my mother on anyone, she can be nice but God can she be hurtful too. I feel I need therapy just to get over the last 6 months worth of comments but actually I think she's only got mildly worse than normal and it's my hormones that have made me more susceptible to it all.

Hi everyone, enjoyed the thread. i haven't got any strange comments yet as I haven't told anyone I am pregnant but expecting some good ones as i am 42 and have a 16 month old baby, ( plus a 13 and 11 ) all girls. Dreading telling my mother and sister!, both wonderful people but super opinionated.While pregnant with last DD was told by neighbour ' don't worry my brother had kids late in life and they didn't turn out stupid or anything'

are you sure there is only one in there?

when did you say you were due again? okay so I was huge with a good size babe.

oh and being pregnant with no3 and already had two girls - I guess you tried for your boy, I guess you were after a boy, I guess you want a boy this time?!?!

LadyofWaffle, I have got the same too. I'm only 22 and we'd like 4 but everyone has said to stop after this one.

My mother just asked me repeatedly how much weight I've put on. Apparently ALL mothers were advised to 'aim' for no more than a stone and a half! When I reminded her that her last child was born in 1976 and current guidelines are a little more revised she retorted "oh, I've only had 3, what would I know?".
She also has more or less told me that my home birth means I will bleed to death and my baby will die too "I just hope everything goes smoothly, for your sake". Nothing like your own mother to fill you with confidence eh?!!
Also had the "God, you're MASSIVE", "OMG, are you sure it's not twins" Er, at 33 weeks, don't you think I might know that small snippet of info? F*ckwits.

i work in advertising with a mainly male (twats). I have been called "blimpie", "fatty" - asked how the twins are, my dp was congratulated on the triplets etc etc ad naseum.

thank god i am on maternity leave now!

but worse then these young guys (who haven't been through it with anyone) a few days ago, my mum's boss (female) said "god you look like you are ready to drop at any minute" after seeing pic (on profile).

I just thought a mum of three would know better, you know what i mean? what happens, do you just give birth then lose your empathy with other women??

i may be more sensitive than most, because i have constantly struggled with my weight but jaysus! pregnancy gives people free reign over body scrutiny and tactless comments.

I have to add my great response for people who grab at your bump.
Just picture a shop, me queuing for my sandwich, complete random stranger rubs my stomach and says
'Aah, do you know what you are having?'

Me, coldly - 'I'm not pregnant'

complete random stranger legs it, and never does it again!

"Are you having twins? No? Ah, just a big baby in there then." This from a woman who looks like she's carrying quads and isn't pregnant.

TJuiice - you look lovely! I'm 34 weeks now and am very reassured to see my "twins" and "big baby" bump looks very like yours.

I think what someone else said earlier about how people forget what a heavily pregnant shape looks like towards the end is v true.

And, people are morons.

When I told my mum that i think this baby will be a boy (I have 2 boys and lost my dd 7 years ago)
Her reply, "Oh dear!"

You get people staring and pointing or saying "poor thing" if I am carrying anything large or awkward.

My MIL is the worst at saying the wrong thing, but thankfully not as bad as yours doctorswife

I'm American and she said our baby would be a "wee halfcast"

"Just another grandchild" about my mom, but I'm the only girl that has been pregnant in my family.

"you look at least a month ahead, much larger, quite big"

She's been on and on telling me about how horrible it's going to be with late night feedings and getting wee'd in the face and "you might be moaning now, but that baby will give you something to moan about when he gets here"

We had a bet going on the sex of the baby and I knew it was a boy, she was at the 20 week scan and the OB said it was a boy, showed us the penis, and still thinks it's a girl.

The woman needs a muzzle. It's no wonder that we are getting out of here as fast as we can.

Im 18 weeks pregnant with dc4 and dd3 is only 8 months so you can imagine the comments we get, "have you got a tele?" and i was last night at an old man telling me last night that i really must like sex!
MIl can always be counted on for support, after learning that dc3 was another dd she turned to us and said "oh well better luck next time!"

What really annoys me is people constantly saying I am 'small' and 'you don't look pregnant! Especially people who have never met me before, as if they knew what I was like before! I think to myself, are you saying this belly is just fat lol! I had this throughout my last pg and I have had enough now!

TJuice - I'm the same size as you and I'm not even half way yet! Your bump is lovely.

when pg with forth these are a few of the comments

"OMG you must be mad" thats not to bad

"OMG where are they all going to sleep" mind your own business

"perhaps you and dh should get a hobby"

"don't you have a TV?" oh yeah very funny ha ha

these were all from people I happened to be near (ie waiting at preschool, in the park etc) not friends. Some odd folk about.
The ones who make comments are the ones with 1 or 2 children. Ones with larger families are always delighted for you!

imum!! sorry but your quote takes the cake! How awful!
Not the same - i have a lot of boys and get the pitying looks when i say i assume it is a boy

Re bump size - i am 33 weeks and the amount of 'tiny' comments and shocked looks has been ridiculous.

Yesterday for some reason everyone reversed this into 'suddenly popped out comments' err no !!

we have a lot of children and the number of 'is this the last one' japes is never ending

I try to let it wash over me

ooh someone did say to me on thursday 'from the shoulders down you look fabulous but shoulders up....'

now that is an insult!

'dont you know what's causing it'?

HAR HAR HAR!..........

Man on phone: 'I've got a woman here who's near enough full-term pregnant...'

I was three months.

Didn't tell him because I didn't want to embarrass him or myself - but made the later questioning over my due date quite tricky!

everytime i talk to an old friend on msn the first thing she types is you still pregnant? as if i have lost it or been to the hospital!