Things people have said to you.

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I am 10 weeks pregnant with my second. I have a little boy who is 14 months. Everyone knows I am pregnant`. Recently I have been told/asked all these things.

"Why are you having another?"

"Why didn't you wait?"

"I suppose you want a girl"

"I think you are having twins" - said by someone I work with despite me having an early scan which showed 1 baby.

"X told me you were having twins"

"Why don't you call this one Freda"(DS is called Freddie)

I have got about 30 weeks to go and I am sick of it already.

What have people said to you about your pregnancy.

thanks mrs tittlemouse and takenoprisoners.i must admit though - this is the exponential growth period. what was a decent bump last week seems to be mahoosive today!

Enjoying this thread!
Have had all the comments about being 'big', 'small', 'having twins' - ha ha and girl/boy predictions.

But have to say that one of the most annoying for me is people who are already parents (I am a first-timer) telling us how hard and awful it is wih a new baby and how exhausting / tiring we are going to find it.

I always want to reply and say:

'Oh my God, I had no idea that babies cry, want feeding at all times of the day and night and that my life might change in the slightest from the cozy exisitance we enjoy now!!' - Idiots! Who the hell has a baby and hasn't really considered all this? Seriously does anyone have a baby for an easy life?? grrrr

Also mum (who is normally very supportive) saying in the last couple of weeks (I am now 40+2) 'Well I don't remember ever being that big' - thanks!

I don't remember any bad comments and I was huge with Ds and small with Dd. I did get 'where is it then'? at about 5 months with her...

If I was going for number 3 I'd answer the ' are you trying for a girl/boy(different sex to others)' question with ' No, we are trying for one of each' confuse them into silence! hope that makes sense...

Essie you look fab! It's lovely to have photo's of yourself when pg. I have virtually none of me and really regret that...didn't feel able to ask anyone to take any

i am greeted with 'alright fatty' or hello fatty how u doin?' by EVERYONE. i was a size 10/12 b4 conception im now a size 12 (maternity), 28 weeks pregnant and 28 cm bump! CHARMING!

i have pics on profile!

I love this tread, mine:

my dad on being told the news: "oh. ehm... what do you think of this 10p tax rate business?"

my mum: "am I getting a granddaughter? me: "no its a boy" mum: "oh dear, shame"

my mum again "oh god you won't be inviting me to a christening will you?" (because she can't be arsed) me: "no, as you know mum we are atheists" mum : "oh but you have to have it christened"

my boss just sighed and rolled his eyes at the news.

my boss again when I told him I wd be taking meternity leave four weeks before I am due (i.e. in August) because I have to walk to work and suffer badly in the heat.He said "oh no you don't - you have to work right til the end so you can have all the time with your baby - that's what my wife did - she worked right up until she was rushed into hospital with high blood pressure" Ehm.. ok.

So far the comments have been as follows...

Younger sister " you cant keep you legs shut... slapper" I particually liked that one.

Grandma " Oh god what have you gone and bloody done that for, you do realise you have ruined your life"

Godmother "better sort yourself out with some decent contraception next time"

Various people have given me the "oooh a girl, now you'll have one of each no need for any more". Actually i fully intend to have about 5 or 6 children!

I have found alot of people treat me like i have just told them i have terminal cancer rather that WOOOO HOOOO Excitement Im having a baby!!!! YAY!!!

Me too. I could definitely count the number of congratulations I've had on one hand.

TJuice, you have a Halo...solo bows very low!

On hearing I was pg for the first time, and baby is due in September, little sister (mum of 2) "You stupid cow, you'll be huge at the hottest time of year".

Had all the usual 'god you're huge!' and 'ooh, you're really waddling now, aren't you?' comments.

Female relatives seem to be the worst - my sister just said 'hmm, thought you were' and left it at that. After no contact for a few weeks, I got a snotty email from her, saying how annoyed she was I hadn't sent over her birthday present. She did almost exactly the same when I was pregnant with DS.

My SIL is pretty amazing though - we work together so see each other every day, and she's yet to make a remark on my pregnancy (I'm 38+5). Seriously - she has yet to make a single reference to it in any way. Amazing!

Mrsboogie Wonder why your boss' wife was rushed to hospital with high blood pressure at the end? Might have been because your boss was behind her with a cracking whip shouting 'You will make it to 40 weeks!'!! .

my worse comment, wen we told mil i was pregnant, got pregnant after 2 months of beign married
" id rather it was ur SIL who was pregnant"

" DH is smart, i thought he was going to wait" said my mil sis

oh and nwo the baby might have some chromsone problems mil " dnt worry we wont blame you"

WTFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF

I hate it when people say "oh you can barely even notice". I am usually very conscientious about my weight and have definitely gained over the past 5 months... looking quite a different shape than normal. I hate that comment because then I know they are thinking that I just look fat.

An elderly lady in front of me when i was getting groceries about a week ago bumped into me, then upon looking me over, put BOTH of her hands on my bump and felt around (like a midwife would) asking me if I knew if it is a boy or a girl!! I was totally frozen.

You're massive
You're tiny
It's a boy (random stranger)
It's a girl (man at homebase checkout)
SLEEP NOW!!!!!
Go to the cinema
Do everything you've ever wanted to do as your life is about to end...
You're blooming/radiant - does this just mean big??!! (still nice 'though)

And other little gems

Brilliant thread.

On hearing that I was pregnant, first thing my (childless) sister who had just bought a puppy said: ?Oh I know all about having babies, I?m toilet training the puppy?. This came before congratulations.

My mother insisted I was having twins (I'm not) as I was ?huge? at 11 weeks and she said she was never that big. What not even at full term?

From colleague: ?Gosh, my sister was your size when she gave birth?. I was 14 weeks and still in my size 8 skinny jeans.

From another colleague when discussing suitable holidays for me being 6 months pregnant: ?You should do something exciting as you?ll never be able to do anything interesting once you?ve had the baby. How about 2 weeks kayaking??

WTF????!!!!!

From my mum, who constantly told my sister that she was massive; "you're going to have a much bigger bump than your sister"

And on telling my nan (they seem to be the worst) - imgagine 80 yr old with head in hands adn after lots of swearing:

"Did you do this on purpose?"
"How are you going to afford it?"

DP and I both in early 30s with decent jobs, thanks nan.

I am going to be 18 weeks pregnant with baby #3 tomorrow and as I already have 2 sons I naturally get the "oh, did you try for a girl, I bet you want a girl or from the family "It better be a girl". As ds2 was born with heart disease, I always tell them I don't care what it is so long as it's healthy. No-one seems to believe me and MIL said oh yes, a girl first, healthy second . Then a visit from the in-laws just a few days ago, I answered the door and was greeted by "Hello fatty" from the MIL. I wouldn't mind but I haven't actually gained any weight yet, but always get a sizable bump as I am only 5ft tall and tend to have 8lb babies. I also can't stand the random belly rubs from anyone beside my dh & kids.

Had to hunt this thread down today as got a new one at work this afternoon:

"Someone said you were HUGE but you don't look that big to me"

I get "you're all out front, you must be carrying a girl" and then "you're all bump aren't you, must be boy" REALLY!!? Well, my stretchmarks are pink does, that mean it's a girl! IDIOTS!!

I also had a girl at work - one of these annoying people who has had one pregnancy and swallowed every book on the bloody subject - telling me the following: i told her at 14weeks that i could feel my baby move and it had actually kicked my OH the previous night when he had his hand on my bump (it felt like a bony little finger of a toddler so assuming it was a leg!), her reply was "hmm, i don't think so, you are only 14weeks" she then proceeded to SEND ME via email a link to a site where it told me all about a babies development at 14weeks!! GRRRR I was like "this is my 3rd baby, i know what i am feeling"

The best comment came from my DD who is 4 and a half and desperately wants a sister, she said to my neice (same age) "we're going to get a brown baby sister with pink hair" i said to her that we probably wouldn't (we are both very much pale white with blonde - me - and dark brown - OH - hair) and she said "I know mummy, we are white so we will have a white sister" sigh ha ha!!I didn't have the heart to tell her that pink is not a natural hair colour! (anyone know if you can dye newborn hair pink?!?!)

I have a very good gay male friend. I have known him for 15 years and have met his mum once, about 12 years ago. Met him for coffee yesterday and he said

"You're not very big. Mum said you're not the kind of person to get very big, even at the end".

Erm right, how does she know? I bet she doesn't even know what I look like! I hoep she's right though!

I don't recall much odd said to me this pregnancy - my third (although when I went to my 1st midwife appt at about 7 weeks - so not showing - the midwife said - 'you've lost a lot of weight' - seeing as she last saw mw 2 days after having a baby I should bloody well hope so!)

But with my first preganacy and at my most sensitive I remember my friend (who is an NHS employee) telling me a load of horror stories about birth - within 5 mins of telling her my news - she later went on to lecture me about vegetarian babies and children failing to thrive (I am veggie) - she had me in tears by the end of the evening. Which was nice I still can't bring myself to forgive her for that.

I'm due late December.

I had twins last time so my uterus has just ballooned to a bit of a bump straight away.

I can see I look more pregnant than I am. But I do expect people to believe me when I know full well when I last had a period, I've had a dating scan that puts me at nearly 12 weeks and my medical records say nearly 12 weeks.

But according to my hairdresser yesterday "Oh no, that's wrong. Look at the size of your bump. No, you're not due December. No, I'd say October at the latest you'll get to full term".

Is that with my time travel machine where I go full term 2 months before I'm due then?

I'd better ring the hospital and inform them I need to book myself in early then .

Someone I barely know, walked past my work with her newish baby, stuck her head in and announced that she "didnt think I was the type!!" upon seeing my bulging belly! What the hell did that mean!
Better still, a friend who's nearly 30 and having the baby on her own, told her employers, who looked very disapproving and announced that her grandparents must be VERY DISAPPOINTED!! How very rude, I couldnt believe it!!

My boss (on telling him): so.. you are leaving right?

eerr.. no, i;m just going to take my 6 months maternity leave and come back to my old job...why did he think i would leave?