6 weeks post partum and pregnant again.

[Saraahh]

Sums it up.

Which is not the case for every mother, as this thread shoes.

my first two were born14 months apart. Both c sections it wasn't raised as an issue to me. It was fine. I did give myself a hernia carrying the eldest sooner than I should after delivery of the second but that was my fault! Both of them are perfectly healthy, second born is 21, 6 foot 4 and in medical school so I don't see that the small age gap has negatively affected him. Congratulations op

*shows

How did you manage? Would you do it again?
Regarding termination, thank you! I never said I don't want this baby, I just wanted to hear other people's experiences!

Congratulations OP! I’ve known a number of people with similar gaps. I’m sure it will all be fine x

Did you have a c section last time? If so, you’ll be at increased risk of scar rupture as you won’t have healed properly by your due date. Worth exploring options for mode of delivery.

Are you sure you are actually pregnant? Because surely at 4 weeks you were likely still bleeding, not ovulating with a nice ripe endometrial lining ready for baby. I’d actually be concerned about the possibility of retained products or other issues which might be causing your hormone levels to stay high.

I was done with bleeding after 2 weeks both times. Not everybody bleeds for more than a month. It's entirely known for women to ovulate as little as 3 weeks after childbirth and conceive. There is a small possibility it's lingering HCG, but a larger one that it's a pregnancy, especially if OP has been having unprotected sex.

Do you mean xenophobic?

Pretty sure that my ancestors wouldn't have survived the shit they endured for centuries if they got upset about a term that has its root in a simple fact of their religion.

My uncle was born Jan 1965. My Mum is born October 1965 :) Nan mananged fine and enjoyed it! She had baby number 3 December 1967!

You're the only Irish person I've ever come across who's bothered by this. Most of us laugh at the outrage, (ususally English people outraged on our behalf). Do you still live in Ireland?

No doubt someone will be along soon (maybe I've missed it), to tell us Irish why we should be offended as if we don't know the history of what it means. We know, we're not bothered. It happens on every thread where this phrase is mentioned.

Congratulations @Saraahh

Just to tentatively add though, say if you had sex a few weeks after birth, your HCG levels can still be elevated, which would show up as a positive pregnancy.

I had c sections 14 months apart - recovery from the second was even easier than the first.

I remember being at a party and a woman commented that she and I both had children in adjacent grades (think it was 4th and 5th). I said yeah they are just over a year apart. She said "Oh Irish twins. We have lesbian twins" - she got pregnant with the first and her wife got pregnant almost immediately after with their second. I thought it quite funny. (I'm an irish woman who doesn't find the irish twin thing offensive)

Termination is a really bizarre suggestion when you never even asked advice about it.

My mum had me and my sibling almost exactly a year to the day apart (eg 11 April then 9th April following year). I can’t speak for how she managed but she never said anything one way or the other about it (so I assume it was fine).

You're quoting the wrong person here! 😅 I'm 10 years past menopause so my child bearing days are long behind me. 😁 There is 16 months between my elder two (mini pill failed), though that's not really comparable to the OP's situation. Wishing you all the best with it, OP. 🙏

when did she say she wanted a termination?

I had my first two 12 months apart. Same month birthdays. It was rather a shock to find out I was pregnant again as I was exclusively breast feeding and had no periods. I actually didn’t find out I was pregnant again until the first baby was 6 months old. I was very upset as the first birth was traumatic. It all turned out fine. They were great play mates and very close. Now in their thirties!

I have 2 cousins (brothers) born closely together who were in the same class as their youngest uncle. If my parents hadn't moved from my mother's home town before I started school I'd have been in the same class. 😂

I managed just fine OP, she is 17 now, 18 next week and is currently sat in a leaving cert exam.

I got pregnant again with my 3rd when she was 6 months old!

I would do it again in a heartbeat and I often say that.

I was married to a pig of a man and he robbed me of much of the enjoyment.

You will just fine op, especially of you have support.

I didn't have much and raised them alone since they were 5, 6 and 6.

Second birth was much easier to!

My children are fab people and honestly, that has been the biggest help.

You'll be just fine :)

OK but whats that got to do with this thread or the OP situation?

My husband bullied me into "it" before I'd left the hospital. He didn't care that he was splitting the stitches which was excruciating. So I ended up pregnant sooner than I had hoped (I had expressly stated I didn't want any more than 1 child).

The midwives all thought it was amusing I was having another baby so soon after the first and made little comments to each other right on front of me, thinking they were so clever. "Oh, I have a baby the same age as yours. I can't imagine having another one so soon!"

My sisIL is like that. 10 months between her and her sister! I've got 13 months between me and my Dsis

Ok I was just pointing out that the PP was talking about something totally irrelevant.

HTH

Holy Shit. I hope he's under the patio by now - the DH, not the baby!

To be honest its something I see often on MN and never have anywhere else (and I have been on multiple international pregnancy/parenting forum for the last 17 years).

Its like some people here are militant on telling everyone woman to have a termination, its some weird MN 'pro choice' virtue signalling (all though the opposite of choice if you are TELLING others what to do) but comes off far more offensive when theres not one ounce of suggestion from the OP that shes unhappy with being pregnant.

It can literally be like

'OMG I so happy, I have always dreamed of being a mum but we tried for years and never got pregnant even had 2 failed rounds of IVF. Now I'm 40 and me and DH have just downsized from a 3 bed family home to a little cottage because we thought it would never happen for us but just now found out I'm finally pregnant. I know its early and things can go wrong but its such a shock surprise, any cute ideas on how to tell DH when he gets in from work?'

and within 1 page of responses you'll have some twat say something like

'You should terminate, your poor DH didn't consent to this 'accident' baby (was it really an accident, babies don't just happen) and you clearly can't support a child in a small rural house plus you'll be nearly 60 by the time they go to Uni and what if they're disabled because your older, its just not feasible'

Its quite an amazing and uniquely MN phenomenon. Luckily I think most people who aren't first time posters know these are just random outliers that pop up to rock the boat and most responders are actually sane.