6 weeks post partum and pregnant again.

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Sums it up.

I'm also wondering if residual pregnancy hormones have caused a positive test.

The sneering about other women’s sex lives is really quite unpleasant. When <you> wanted sex after birth is irrelevant and doesn’t mean it’s right for everyone else.

It happened to my mum and my best friend; sadly both miscarried.

These things happen. I see this as no different to having twins. I'm sure you will cope & the children will love growing up together. I'd be far more careful the next time though😊

Clearly they differ.

What’s unfair ? Everyone is different. Not once did I criticise the op. I wish I had been the same tbh.

I have think it might be an autocorrect for punani? 😅

We were taught that one of the reasons that intercourse should be avoided before six weeks is because of the risk, however slight, of embolism. I don't know if that advice has changed now, I'm talking over thirty years ago now.

I'm always amazed people can get pregnant so fast, I think I would have cut DH cock off if he came near me in the first 2 months after birth lol.

Congrats though, I always thought twins would be really cool and apparently its great as you get all the hard phases out the way at the same time (same with a super close age gap). It much easier to keep a 3 year old and 4 year old occupied together than to plan a fun family day out that meets the needs for both a 4 year old and 9 year old etc... we hit this issue with a 10 year gap, makes planning something impossible, teens don't want to do kid stuff and kids can't do teen stuff so everything feels like 'settling' on something someone won't enjoy. My younger 2 with a 2 year age gap can do loads together though.

My SIL had 2 in under a year (over 20 years ago) and both where complex C sections as well and her and the kids are all fine so even with complications it can be done without dramatic horror outcomes some people on mumsnet love to default to.

Why didn’t you go back on contraception/use condoms once baby was born?

not being cheeky genuinely curious. Did you want another baby ASAP?

Your children also will likely be in the same school year, another thing to think about. They will get lots of questions as they’re not twins.

Pre and post-natal yoga instructor here. (Not a physio, not a HV, but I do have many many of hours of training and years of experience.)
Make sure you crack on with some safe and dedicated exercises - pelvic floor especially but also your TA muscles will need quick super strengthening. Obviously more than that, but they’re the ones I’d say are your top priority. Back (multifidus) and diaphragm being the next most important.
If you can afford it maybe book a couple of one-on-one sessions with a physio (or yoga/pilates teacher) who comes recommended/ is especially trained in the field. Most - but not all - pre-natal exercises are safe post-natal and vice versa.
Little and often is key, 10mins a day on the floor, e.g. while baby has tummy time, singing, waiting for DC to fall asleep.

Congratulations on your new baby and your new pregnancy. Having two close together also comes with a lot of advantages, as many PPs have highlighted. You’ve got this!

Race doesn't exist it was a construct of white supremacy.

Ethnicity (which is what most people mean when saying Race) definitely is a thing and Irish is a very distinct subgroup with its own unique culture and even genetic traits. It even has smaller minority subgroups (such as 'travellers') which are legally protected ethnic subgroups.

The NHS advice says that you can have sex after a birth as soon as you feel ready.

FWIW, I had a class many years ago where I thought I had identical twins. Nope. Sisters who were less than a year apart.

They were lovely girls and both did very well at school. The only problem was that the older girl got fed up at the assumption that they were twins. I really couldn't tell them apart at first. (This was secondary school and the DOB didn't come up on the register unless you looked for it.)

They weren't the only children in the family and the entire family unit seemed very happy.

I know two families with 10 month age gap. Neither of them ever seemed to struggle. It’s like they were still in baby mode so it didn’t make any difference.

I know it’s not what most people would consider ideal but people cope with twins! And like others have said, the nappy stage, the school run stage etc will all be out of the way together!

Congratulations!

Wow….words fail me

Assuming you are in England at least they won't be in the same year at school. Good luck. There will be advantages. Just process and move forward.

My very strait laced traditional Irish FIL who never swore once said “Show me a father of Irish twins and I’ll show you a selfish, bullying bastard.”

I found out I was pregnant at my 6 week check up, you'll be fine.

OP has not suggested she wants a termination so why are posters suggesting that ffs.

@BodenCardiganNot here in Ireland, Irish twins is exactly what we call them, relax dear.

My consultant said even with a c-section I could get pregnant when I left hospital and it would be fine. I didn't and I would double check the advice, but please don't be worried if the delivery was a section.

There is 11 months between my nieces. SIL wanted a boy so went again straight away, planned. Girls are 14 and 15 now. I had three under four and it worked out for us. I wanted to have them close. Sister has a 6 year age gap between her two kids and they are basically only children. My niece is 20 and her brother is 14. Nothing in common and my nephew is very attached to my sister and is treated like an only child.

Also only 12 months between my DH and his brother. They are the closest out of four brothers.

My sister is a teacher in England and taught two girls born less than a year apart. They try and put them in diff groups in secondary but it’s very possible in primary

Not in this case though because OPs baby was born 6 weeks ago and school year ends 31st August.

What I meant was that as the OP gave birth 6 weeks ago, ie mid April,the second child can't be born before 31st August, so unless it is a small mixed age primary school they won't both be in the same year. I knew of a family who had one child in September and twins the following August. They went to a larger infant school so they could all be in separate classes.

How helpful..