6 weeks post partum and pregnant again.

[Saraahh]

Sums it up.

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I couldn’t imagine letting anyone near me at that point but I know someone who was having sex almost immediately after giving birth. She said they just had to do it carefully! 😬😳

Bit extreme. What minimum gap would be acceptable in your books?

I was the same with my first but second time I only bled for 2 weeks!

I’m not defending it as it’s not a phrase I’m even familiar with and wouldn’t use, but there might be other countries who do, I mean we don’t know do we?

Hay op congratulations, you will be fine, yes busy busy, very tired but you'll have two very close, ( best friends) siblings, honestly try not to worry except maybe two years of very hard work but you'll reap the rewards as they grow, definitely have a supportive just one person family or good friend to call on in times of need, honestly that person will become your life line, feeding times, outdoor activities, or just your normal shopping nice to have a second pair of hands, bath times, godsend, some ironing, house work , I was that person for my daughter, we were a great tag team, little things like, bringing in some more nappies/ baby milk what ever was needed, sitting to have a cuppa which will be rear, but deffo get someone on board ,
I remember the going out honestly packing the baby bag, two carseats it was a military procedure,

When babies were ready to wean to food we batch cooked fresh products and froze, this was a lifeline for her, she would have 2 weeks worth of lunches and evening meals ready to go, keep this in mind,
No need to say good luck op, you can and will do it, don't be hard on yourself, take each day as it comes, except your doing your best, and yes h will return to work and that fine , but your days are caring for two little ones, so yes, nappies, feeding, winding, settling, doesn't matter about house work, great if it gets done but it won't, don't stress, find the time to grab a coffee and biscuit,

Enjoy them because they soon grow up,
We laugh now about the regime, watching old videos and pic of them both so little, their relationship growning up honestly would do it again in a heartbeat, 😄

A colleague at work had children ten months apart and in the same school year. He was the most boring man that you could ever imagine but this made us all wonder about what hidden depths he had....

My friend and her sister have 10 months difference between them. Best friends.

No. I’ve never used hormonal contraceptives. I couldn’t believe it when I had a period so soon, I thought the locchia must have restarted and the nurse at my check up was like ‘no, it’s a period!’ She was write because then they were back like clockwork (and am still bf 2.5 years on!)

I miss the laughing emoji. Darn you MN.

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> Providing these will be your only 2!
If OP&partner didn't use contraception this time, what makes you think they will next time?

This is a repulsive thing to say.

@Flashahah until this thread I wasn't aware that Mother Nature messed up quite so frequently, to be perfectly honest! The mind boggles.
Best wishes to the new mummy, it will all turn out all right in the end.

My mum was quite fertile and two or three times fell pregnant quite quickly after a birth (Catholic no contraception!) She was in her early 20s and fine - but I have heard since your womb not ready / rested there is an increased chance of the second baby being prem - and this was the case for my siblings who were born within a year of her last pregnancy ie these siblings were prem babies. So just take it as easy as possible

My parents did this - all turned out well

It’s unusual that you ovulated again so soon - I don’t mean to patronise you but are you sure?

Not unusual. We have one branch of the family who are Catholic and when I was young those in that branch would often have 2 children within the same year, used to be called Irish twins but probably not PC now? Was not uncommon at all. So, I had LOTS of cousins. The next gen did not continue this on though, they all had families of 2-3 kids with each spaced out by a few years so perhaps some shift in Catholic philosophy (no idea as I’m not Catholic)?

Obviously it’s entirely up to you but it’s amazing what you can handle some times. If you decide to go through with it, they’ll be so close but it will be hard on you.

I think it's a real shame in one sense. My maternity leave was the most enjoyable time of my life and to waste that time on morning sickness, midwife appointments etc I'd have mixed feelings. It's also meant to be the time for your body to recover and that's also compromised now.

My very strait laced traditional Irish FIL who never swore once said “Show me a father of Irish twins and I’ll show you a selfish, bullying bastard.”

Apparently we are extremely fertile just after giving birth, which is probably why there’s the contraception talk with the GP at the 6 weeks postnatal check up. I was still having lochea for quite a while plus an episiotomy wound so it wasn’t an option for me that early on. Did either of you use protection?

I was having sex regularly 6 weeks post c section both times and stopped bleeding after 2 weeks. I actually craved it 2 weeks after but didn't want to risk infection.

I think you will manage just fine. I’m a single parent and have two young dc close together. I’m very glad I had them young and close together. I’d much rather have a few tough years and then be able to focus on my career rather than have a large gap and have to restart the whole process again!

You won’t be the first or the last OP!
I know a lady who tried for years for a baby, finally conceived through IVF and had a third degree tear from delivery and pregnant naturally by her 6 week check up!

Why the focus on, did you use protection, does it matter, no ones business, don't ask,
Postnatal appointments can be from 6 weeks to 12 weeks now no deadline as many years ago,

Op is pregnant and that's it, whether she did or didn't doesn't matter now,
We females can reproduce our bodies are amazing, bloody hell how do 3th world countries do it without contraception and health services,

Omg OP! Allow yourself to panic for a bit, but then I think don't worry - it will be ok! It may be easier to get all the small baby stage done at the same time / within close succession! It may get tricky when they are both toddlers or mobile babies, but get a double buggy for crowd control, use a sling when newest is tiny, and make sure you take in all favours offered!
You've got this.

I do remember the few days after giving birth I was ridiculously horny! It was so strange! We didn't have sex but I definitely had the urge. They say you're more fertile soon after giving birth too. It's not as unusual as you think! I'm sure there'll be lots of people along to give advice from own experiences too!

So soon after giving birth - You're supposed to have at least six weeks after birth before having sex again. As in - are you okay? Did you actually have a say in this?

No rules say six weeks.