6 weeks post partum and pregnant again.

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Sums it up.

A friend of mines sons are 13 months apart, are now grown up and have the most fantastic bond. Some of the early years around sleep were tough on her and her DP. But they always played well together and now are brilliant friends.
good luck OP x

Like PP, I was still bleeding at 6 weeks.

My vagina was so not ready for sex for 6 months, and the first time was rather shaky and slow and hurt a bit...I couldn't take a pounding for at least one full year postpartum.

Granted, I was 38, so no idea if I'd have bounced back quicker had I been 18.

OP, how old are you? And if you just found out you're pregnant, you must have ovulated at the very most 3 weeks ago.

I can't imagine you let him in less than a month later...girl, you must have supervagina.

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Please speak to a midwife/doctor asap. Assuming a vaginal birth things could be ok but pregnancy after a c section could be quite dangerous to the scar tissue. I seriously doubt you need to be giving up bf if that’s what you’re doing. Sounds like advice from 1970.

Also like a few others have said you do have time to process/think though your options.

Wow! Tentative congratulations.
If by any chance you had a CS, please see your GP as you will need extra monitoring because of stress on a recent scar.

I'd be very anxious TBH. There was 14 months between me and my younger sister, and 18 between my older brother and me. My mother was absolutely vile to us, blaming us for being born. Basically. she was stressed beyond belief our whole lives, and held it against DH too. You will be terribly tired, my dear. Take care of yourself.

Mine are 16 months apart and the second time around I had twins so I had 3 under 2.

It's definitely busy but I'm so glad that I had them close together.

That happened to me. More than once! Miscarried though both times.
Some of the replies on here are amazingly obnoxious though. What immense misogyny at play.
Why should a woman be ashamed of herself for having sex with her husband?

Unlikey if OP has a 6 week old that is a baby born in April, the next baby will be due in midwinter ( January ish) no ?

Poor you! I found one of the joys of being pregnant and EBF was not having periods!

My friend had her first baby 2 days after her 40th birthday and her second 11 months later. The second one was a big child and everyone assumed they were twins when they were toddlers and beyond.

I know a Mum who had this - ‘Irish twins’ as it’s sometimes referred to. Definitely tough initially as both need a lot of attention but she’s survived - is back at work & kids are doing well.

I can only imagine it’s a lot to process but as I have twins I know it’s doable.

Hi OP!
this happened to me!!!
so….. I’m not going to lie, the early days are rough! But now mine are 4&5 and it’s lovely seeing them play together!
it’s like having twins but at slightly different developmental stages!!
so here’s a few words of advice if you’re thinking of continuing with your pregnancy (no judgment if not, you need to do what’s best for you)
you’ll need extra help during your pregnancy such as more iron tablets as your body won’t have recovered yet from your last birth.

please lean on family and friend and rest!

you’ll get people passing comments all the time, just ignore them!

look out of offers on a double pram, I got mine off of eBay and I sold the one I just bought to help pay for it!

a sling is really helpful

it is doable but don’t put too much pressure on yourself! a routine is key here. When changing nappies, change them both at the same time.

you’ve got this! What ever you decide to do!
good luck! Xx

What a load of irrelevant nonsense this post is! The OP is already pregnant, so what’s your experience of sex post birth got to do with anything?

Please speak to your doctor or midwife. Pregnancy so quickly after another can be very detrimental to your health, and not just in regards to a C-section. They should be able to gige a clearer picture of what this would mean for you

I have a friend who has this age gap between two of her 5 kids. It looked very challenging for her during the first year with a newborn and 1 year old but now they're older, it looks amazing as they are so good playing. Congratulations anyway! Even if it doesn't feel like it just now, everything will work out and this new little one was meant to be here for some reason :) xxx

Friend of mine has two that are 11 months apart. 4 and 3 now and they are hard work. They’re not really friends yet because of their ages and her eldest has SEND needs.

Do what you feel is right for your family. I don’t know what I’d have done in your situation as I would have hated such a small age gap but also know I couldn’t have gone through with a termination - I’ve been in the position where I had to make the decision so I know.

Hey, I got pregnant with my second 11 weeks after the birth of my first daughter. I was fully breastfeeding, my husband used the withdrawal method (hmmmm) and was also considered to have fertility issues. All in all, a second pregnancy seemed highly unlikely!!

When I went to my GP about bleeding a few weeks after the birth, she told me it couldn’t possibly be my period and was postpartum bleeding. More hmmmmms…

I was shocked (but also very happy) to be pregnant again - and when I came on here for advice, I was mainly made to feel silly that I had had sex at all, and hadn’t used contraception - I see you’ve had similar comments. Even a good friend trotted out the Irish twins line. I also got a lot of curious stares when I started to looked very pregnant and was lugging a nine-month old about!

But anyway, despite the chaotic madness of having a 1-year old and newborn, I’ve loved having two so close together. They were best buddies in their younger years (a bit more sibling rivalry now they’re teens but they’re still close), and they could enjoy the same activities. I love looking back at photos of them holding hands, playing together and basically entertaining each other! The downside I think will be that they may leave home within a year of each other - post A-levels - and I’ll find that tough.

A word of warning, especially if you’re breastfeeding. I continued to breastfeed throughout my pregnancy and then breastfed my second child too - and ended up getting very anaemic. It wasn’t picked up for a few years and it should have been - I felt so much better when I started taking iron.

Anyway, big congratulations on your pregnancy! And I hope everything works out for the best.

6 months…??!!! Wow poor you.

I had two-under-one. They're 10.5/11 months apart and now 7 & 6 years old. Honestly, if I had to do it all again I wouldn't change a thing. I was still in 'baby mode' when DC2 came along and she just slotted right in. There were probably more difficult days/nights but on the whole we had a very calm, very happy situation.
Now they're super close and I hope they remain that way.
I really wanted four children. If I go on to have two more I'd hope I could have two close together again!
Good luck with whatever you decide to do x

Less than a year between my 2nd and 3rd. Long and complicated reason why. It was a bit mad with 3 children under 3 and a husband who worked abroad (that wasn't in the plan, but maybe there was no plan!)

Now, I have adult children who've grown up together and I feel very very lucky.

My friend has 11 months between her two. She took a very long time to conceive the first one, they were looking into IVF etc, so wrongly assumed a second would be the same.

She found it very hard when they were babies, as the oldest had just started toddling when she had a newborn, but from about 2/3 it was much easier as they were into the same things etc.

Hi Op!

This must be a shock however to give another positive story this happened to my mum 30 years ago with my younger brothers, she literally went for her 6 weeks postpartum check with brother no.1 then found out the reason she was so tired! Growing up i used to ask the if they were twins and she would reply yes in a way!

It will be chaos but a good kind i can imagine i have no idea how my mum did it with my brothers then me as a toddler on top! Life was busy but the three of us were all close. I have a nearly 4 year age gap between my two but do look at friends and think they sussed it sometimes just getting it out of the way!

All the best

I know someone who this happened to, only it was twins. So she had 3 babies under 1. She coped well. I only know her via an online group but I never heard her saying she was drowning etc. Maybe she had a lot of help. She later had another set of twins when the 3 older DC were around 10 I guess.