Tell me off! I keep touching my cervix. 5 weeks pregnant.

[Saxfie2021]

5 weeks + 1 day preggo.

Had an early scan today (previous unknown location pregnancy). Everything was perfect. I had my HCG tests done last week… again, perfect.

HOWEVER. I touch my cervix at least twice a day to see if it’s low & hard. Is it? I don’t know, I think so… not sure what I’m basing that off though. It feels hard and low when I’m sitting down. When I’m standing, I guess it’s higher?

anyway, I’m so anxious about miscarrying that I want to check to see if my cervix is open… it’s my paranoia I know but it was when I was start to miscarry my last baby.

everything this time round is so different but I can’t help but worry.

will my cervix at 5 weeks tell me much? Please tell me why I should stop checking it because I don’t want to do it anymore and every time I want to check it, I need someone’s advice to come into my head to stop me.

pregnancy after loss sucks.

did anyone else have a low cervix at 5 weeks? When do they go high? Does it tell me if I’m going to miscarry or not?

when I was about to miscarry, I checked it the day before and I had pink cervical mucus ( I check for this now too ) and it was low and open.

Eugh… I just want my baby to be okay.

You risk introducing bacteria and infections at a very precarious stage of the pregnancy and setting in a health anxiety habit that will grow arms and legs unless you seek help right now.

This is not healthy - mentally or physically. I have had 3 children and never ever attempted to bodge my own cervix.

step away from the cervix. Book a GP appointment. Tomorrow.

Surely you have more chance of miscarrying if you get an infection from all the poking and prodding.

Exactly this. Stop it and get help.

I used to do this too. Sometimes it felt open and it constantly changed from hard to soft and low and high. I’m 17 weeks now so it’s pointless and wont tell you anything.

You are far more likely to cause a miscarriage than detect one coming, stop touching it! It’s bizarre and unhealthy, the cervix works to keep itself clean and you are putting bacteria on it twice a day

Honestly stop this now.

I'm really not sure how you think this is helping the situation.

You don't need telling off op you need to get some professional help, this isn't normal or healthy. Please promise to make an appointment with your midwife or GP tomorrow.

You could actually cause an infection and miscarriage by doing this OP.

checking your cervix isn’t going to stop you having a miscarriage. If you’re going to miscarry you’re going to miscarry whether you’ve checked your cervix or not.

I speak as someone who was hugely anxious during my pregnancies and actually used a Doppler every single day most days from 11w with number 1 and 8w with number 2.

please stop.

This!

Don’t touch it! Heaven forbid, if you develop a low-lying placenta you could precipitate a dangerous bleed when you prod the cervix.

Have you done your booking in form yet? I think it’s important you share this information with the midwives asap so you can receive specialist support. As others have said you are increasing the risks and I’d be concerned about health anxiety and rituals increasing as the pregnancy progresses.

I agree with a PP. You don’t need telling off. You need MH help to deal with the extreme anxiety you’re feeling.

Im totally intrigued to be honest, I wouldn’t have a clue what I was supposed to be feeling for and I’ve been pregnant twice.

I mean, whatever it is, it doesn’t sound like something you should carry on doing. Try and relax.

Sorry but this sounds weird

I didn't know you could reach it yourself!

I have never touched my cervix. Op why are you doing this?? You're causing more risk to your pregnancy and health

You can, I check mine but only as I have a coil and the strings are v short so I have to get right up there!

I knew you can do this but for fucks sake don’t!
there is NOTHING on the earth that can tell you if you will deliver a healthy baby in 8 months time I’m afraid. You just have to live with the fear and the hope.
it sounds like you are struggling with that. Totally understandable and common. But do ring your gp and chat it through.

I have absolutely no idea how I would even attempt this but the first thing that came to my mind is surely you are significantly increasing your risk of infection?

I’m honestly amazed that you’re able to reach your own cervix and would be surprised if it is actually your cervix you’re prodding. It sounds like you need some mental health support from your GP, you’re only adding risk by doing this.

I assume this isn't a particularly high infection risk, as sex is ok during pregnancy, so if a penis is OK I'm sure a finger must be!

However from an anxiety point of view it's obviously not a good sign, so I'd agree with chatting to your midwife or GP about how you're feeling.

All the best OP and congratulations on your pregnancy 💐

“Eugh… I just want my baby to be okay.”

So stop sticking your bacteria laden fingers up near the baby multiple times a day.

Unlikely that her partners penis is physically prodding her cervix at least twice a day every day, so it’s not really the same thing. (Penis doesn’t always touch the cervix during sex!)