Tell me off! I keep touching my cervix. 5 weeks pregnant.

[Saxfie2021]

5 weeks + 1 day preggo.

Had an early scan today (previous unknown location pregnancy). Everything was perfect. I had my HCG tests done last week… again, perfect.

HOWEVER. I touch my cervix at least twice a day to see if it’s low & hard. Is it? I don’t know, I think so… not sure what I’m basing that off though. It feels hard and low when I’m sitting down. When I’m standing, I guess it’s higher?

anyway, I’m so anxious about miscarrying that I want to check to see if my cervix is open… it’s my paranoia I know but it was when I was start to miscarry my last baby.

everything this time round is so different but I can’t help but worry.

will my cervix at 5 weeks tell me much? Please tell me why I should stop checking it because I don’t want to do it anymore and every time I want to check it, I need someone’s advice to come into my head to stop me.

pregnancy after loss sucks.

did anyone else have a low cervix at 5 weeks? When do they go high? Does it tell me if I’m going to miscarry or not?

when I was about to miscarry, I checked it the day before and I had pink cervical mucus ( I check for this now too ) and it was low and open.

Eugh… I just want my baby to be okay.

You need to speak to gp / midwife / a therapist asap x

Wasn’t even aware my cervix was doing anything while pregnant.

Doesnt really work like that tbh

OP hasn't bothered to reply.

Probably not a good idea to share similar stories.

OP the nhs has been scanning my cervix since 16 week to check if it’s closed and long (because of a prior EMCS risk). Can you ask for something similar if your this anxious?

It's where the "show" forms, to plug the uterus shut and protect the baby.

And its position alters throughout the menstrual cycle.

Me too I don’t get this at all and in fact the thoughts of touching my cervix makes me squeam.

I could touch my cervix easily even pre pregnancy and it feels completely different to vaginal wall - there is no way you could confuse the two!

^^This, OP. Please don’t!

Whilst I full understand the worry of miscarriage when you’ve already had one (I’m 10 weeks pregnant now and still worry so much after my first pretended in miscarriage), you really need to stop this. It isn’t healthy and you are risking infection. Take each day as it comes telling yourself that today you are okay and still pregnant, but stop touching your cervix!

You know the penis doesn't actually slam into the cervix during sex right? And if it is, it hurts...you know about it. Poking the cervix with your finger is completely different to having sex.

It definitely does more damage than a slight touch with a finger that’s how sex irritates the cervix causing it to bleed.
The vaginal canal is not that long so it definitely slams against the cervix.

Why you touching it? You can cause a miscarriage. Please stop and get a scan instead if you’re worried.go every 2 weeks privately If your paranoid. You need to speak to your gp or midwife and they need to refer you to a therapist to help you

jeez… leave well alone you’ll give yourself and/or baby an infection.

If you were to spot something worrying, what would you do? Im ot sure knowing will help the situation.

Jesus Christ

I’m fully aware of the anatomy of sex thank you. The cervix is frequently touched by the penis during sex. ‘Pushed against’ would be a more anatomically correct explanation as no the penis does not actively slam ‘into’ the cervix but there is certainly rather vigorous contact during sex. Far FAR more so than a gentle finger pressing against it .

I suffered with ectropians for a long time (cells from the uterus growing on the opening of the cervix) and would occasionally bleed slightly following sex. Not a lot but enough to check with several medical experts over the years (gyne, midwives, sexual health…etc) all said the same ‘normal and just caused by all the routine bashing against the cervix that happens during sex)

You are all posting to a brick wall. OP has not responded and I doubt they will. Not a good idea to post anything too personal I think.

I've had miscarriages, one traumatic and late. But I have never ever felt the need to do this.

You are risking infection and it's not even benefiting you? For my late miscarriage, I was checked at a hosp and everything was fine, 2 days later I lost the baby.

You need to get a handle on your anxiety. You can't control the outcome.

Pregnancy after loss is extremely difficult, we know how you feel. Sounds to me like you’re trying to prepare yourself for another miscarriage and I completely understand that and that’s natural given what you’ve gone through.

But you are pregnant and right now you’re a mum to that little life growing inside you, so you have to look after yourself and protect that area.

As everyone has stated above, you are risking bacteria entering your cervix and that’s not what you want to do.

Take one day at a time. Give yourself love, talk to those close around you or reach out like you have. Anxiety makes you do all sorts of things but we have to pull ourselves back when things get unhealthy.

Sending you a hug xx