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Anyone else have to pay to know the sex of your baby?

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Poohbah · 14/05/2008 14:41

Because at Shrewsbury hospital they won't tell you you have to arrange another scan and pay £70 to know.

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FrannyandZooey · 14/05/2008 14:42

they don't tell you here, you have to have a private scan which I believe is at least £100, but I don't want to know

leave it a surprise - why do you need to know?

MrsBadger · 14/05/2008 14:43

some areas with high populations of cultures who favour boys over girls won't tell you

if you need to know for medical reasons (haemophilia etc) then ask, but otherwise do you need to know?

asur · 14/05/2008 14:50

You don't have to pay to find out - if you wait till it arrives, it's usually quite obvious

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Poohbah · 14/05/2008 14:51

It's more a case of why should some random person albeit employed by a hospital know the sex of my baby yet I am charged for the priviledge. It's more about feeling ripped off as in London they simply told you if you wanted to know and they happened to notice.

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slinkiemalinki · 14/05/2008 15:02

Whether or not you choose to find out is a personal choice. Some people like to know, others don't. End of. I liked to find out and I do think it's unfair that different hospitals have different policies.

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Poohbah · 14/05/2008 15:09

But how many other hospitals have this policy, that's what I want to know and how much money are they "earning" from it??

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Tortington · 14/05/2008 15:14

its the money thing isn't it

as mentioned earlier, some cultures favour one sex over another - so the woman may feel culturally that she has to have a termination.

so paying for it won't make any sodding difference-

as a society we either say this [ractic is barbaric = and to save from the barbaric practice we institute a 'no tell' policy

not we insttute a policy - but you can pay to chance it

lets face it if you have three girls and dont have the finances to afford another one - then £70-100 is a bargain.

either tell or dont tell

charging for it is fucking stupid bastard shit wank. making light of peoples rights, and moral justice

it makes me puke

FrannyandZooey · 14/05/2008 15:18

my hospital won't tell you if you pay
they refuse to tell you
private scanning places, however, will
they're making the money, the hospital isn't

Tortington · 14/05/2008 15:19

oh thats good then - so it seems like there is a no tell policy in hospitals then?

Sunshinemummy · 14/05/2008 15:21

I believe they won't tell you at the hospitals in Barnsley, as my friend had her children there and wasn't allowed to know for either.

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Poohbah · 14/05/2008 15:21

Thanks Custardo, people around here are very nice and uncomplaining and sometimes I think I'm the only one venting my spleen.

I found out through a lawyer friend that hospitals can't really have a "no tell in this area in case you abort your baby" policy because it is actually quite a racist policy. Given that shrewsbury is predominently white and the ethnic minorities in the area wouldn't really be involved in this issue I really do feel it is just a money making scheme.

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Chequers · 14/05/2008 15:22

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Poohbah · 14/05/2008 15:23

It not private comapnies, it's the actual hospital. My friend has had 7 scans and finally the sonography let slip she is having a girl.

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FrannyandZooey · 14/05/2008 15:25

I heard the hospitals have also had a problem with people trying to sue after being told the wrong sex
I don't know if this is true

really don't see why the great rush to find out anyway

Tortington · 14/05/2008 15:25

it cant be racist unless you say "we wont tell people from xxxxx country" but we will tell everypne else

as long as everyone is treated the same.

so it is hospitals.

blimey

grrrrrrrrr

( this might seem weird but i am likening this to parking charges.)

slinkiemalinki · 14/05/2008 15:35

At Chelsea where I am they will tell you if they see. They will not tell you at 12 weeks.
Actually last pg my daughter had her legs tightly shut, they let me go off for a walk and a coke and squeezed me in for 5 mins after the next scan was over to look again (when they found out). So above and beyond really.
This time all my scans have been private so he has told me whatever I wanted to know at any stage.

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Poohbah · 14/05/2008 15:35

I really wanted to know the sex of my first baby as hubby was working 7000 miles away and if he couldn't be at the scans at least he could know if he was having a boy or girl. This time I would like to know for more practical reasons in that it is 30 miles to the shops which would be difficult to do with a toddler and I only have boy stuff so I would like to organise girl clothes in advance. Obviously alot of things are bought online but I would actually like to see whats available in RL aswell.

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hatrick · 14/05/2008 15:36

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FrannyandZooey · 14/05/2008 15:54

I can understand wanting to know, but I can't understand being peeved if your hosp won't tell you

but there you go

FrannyandZooey · 14/05/2008 15:55

lovely pic btw hatrick

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 14/05/2008 16:04

because plenty of people don't have the choice made for them by the hospital, it depends where you live, which is unfair, and the hospital makes you pay for the knowledge when they could tell you for free!

podglet · 14/05/2008 16:19

Here in Colchester, they won't tell you. After talking to my consultant about why not, he said it was because ALL the gynae / obstetric consultants had to agree to the sexing scans and currently there is ONE chap who won't agree.

My consultant thinks it is a jolly good idea.

Incidentally, we had a private scan for £100 in Ipswich at a clinic. Not so interested in the sex but in the 4d technology.

purpleflower · 14/05/2008 16:22

Thats funny podglet because when I asked the scanner with DS at colchester they told me it was in case they got sued!

I'm glad I couldn't find out though as it was so nice telling DP we had a DS when he was born. I would be very tempted this time around though but we can't afford a private scan.

BorgLady · 14/05/2008 16:51

I really wanted to know too and my hospital had a policy of not telling, despite the fact that I don't live in a very multicultural area at all.

I WAS annoyed, because I know that if I had lived 40 mins up the road, I would have had the choice to find out for free.

I know it's not exactly a life-or-death thing, and I didn't care if it was a boy or a girl, but speaking purely from a personal perspective, finding out the sex has really helped me to bond with my baby and think of him as a member of the family.

It helped me to go from thinking of him as a generic baby to an actual person, iyswim, though I've had LOADS of people completely incredulous that I wanted to find out!

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Poohbah · 14/05/2008 20:16

I agree Borglady, finding out really helped me bond with my baby too.

I think Franny that this is also about fairness, why should I be allowed to know the sex of my baby when I lived in London but not now I will be going to shrewsbury to have the scan.

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