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SIL told hubby shes expecting and not me - should I care?

54 replies

sarahmckenzie24 · 06/02/2025 20:29

she came over the house last night and i was at the gym, and told hubby shes expecting with her husband there too. She did not once mention to tell me, ask where I was, hasn't text me, my hubby just told me. Am I being petty to feel out the loop and not included? we have been texting december/jan about both trying to get pregnant, but kind of had a small small falling out but have spoke since in Jan. I feel a little left out, but I am trying not to take it personally, just would of liked to have been told by her herself. If roles were reversed, I would totally have the respect to tell her myself if I was having her niece/nephew/

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CaptainFuture · 06/02/2025 20:30

Did she tell him not to tell you? Or would (as most would) expect he'd tell you?

Obscurial · 06/02/2025 20:31

Is she his sister?
Do you generally get on?

Shrinkingrose · 06/02/2025 20:31

Is that his sister then?

Soontobe60 · 06/02/2025 20:33

Eh? shes told her brother, you weren’t there, she assumed he would tell you. It really isn’t all about you!

CaptainMyCaptain · 06/02/2025 20:33

She told her brother then? I'm sure she assumed he'd tell you anyway. I don't know why you need a personal announcement.

Savemefromwetdog · 06/02/2025 20:34

Yabu

PullTheBricksDown · 06/02/2025 20:34

No. She wasn't to know you would be out. As for asking your husband to tell you, she probably thought that would obviously happen! Why not text and say 'hey lovely news'?

Stealer · 06/02/2025 20:35

She told her brother, he told you. No drama here.

Hiccupsandteacups · 06/02/2025 20:35

I told my brother on the phone and my SIL was at work? Didn’t think she would care that much and obviously my brother would just tell her later that day??

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 06/02/2025 20:39

Wut?

tiffxxx · 06/02/2025 20:42

I think your all being a bit harsh she clearly felt a bit left out and your all being harsh

Fastingandhungry · 06/02/2025 20:42

You do sound as though you are seeking to create drama I’m afraid.

cherryontoppp · 06/02/2025 20:43

this is weird of you tbh

I'llBuyThatForADollar · 06/02/2025 20:44

Why not text her and say congratulations?

Stealer · 06/02/2025 20:45

Have you contacted her to congratulate her?

Dueanamechange2025 · 06/02/2025 20:46

As everyone else has said, she told her brother who she assumed would tell you. She’s probably wondering why you haven’t text her congratulations. Also could she be wondering how you would take it if you are both trying and she’s pregnant and you’re not.

Asterales · 06/02/2025 20:46

You're making this all about you which is weird and unnecessary. Just text her and say congratulations before an issue is created where there doesn't need to be one.

Justcallmebebes · 06/02/2025 20:46

tiffxxx · 06/02/2025 20:42

I think your all being a bit harsh she clearly felt a bit left out and your all being harsh

She was telling her brother she's pregnant, not announcing the second coming

JudgeBread · 06/02/2025 20:49

tiffxxx · 06/02/2025 20:42

I think your all being a bit harsh she clearly felt a bit left out and your all being harsh

Feeling left out of someone else's pregnancy is unreasonable though, it's not harsh to point that out.

Optimist2020 · 06/02/2025 20:51

@sarahmckenzie24 why would you be discussing with your sil your plans to get pregnant ? This is quite a naive thing to do, as you have no idea how long it may take to conceive. Is this about your Sil conceiving before you ? .

828Pax · 06/02/2025 20:55

She is probably wondering why you haven't text to congratulate her!

Olika · 06/02/2025 20:59

No you should not care. She told her brother, which is fine.

DeepFatFried · 06/02/2025 21:01

What?????

There shouldn’t have been time for her to text you… you should have contacted her IMMEDIATELY your DH told you!

From her pov, it was unfortunate you were out but she will have expected her brother to tell you and you to instantly congratulate her!

Emotionalsupporthamster · 06/02/2025 21:02

It could’ve been out of consideration for your feelings, given you’re trying too. Avoiding putting you on the spot with an announcement.

ginslinger · 06/02/2025 21:03

oh christ I thought we'd reached peak petty about 5 years ago