4th FET, can I now share news with husband???

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Had my 4th FET transfer. Today is 9th day post transfer and pretty much since 5d post transfer been testing positive. The line progression is definitely there. (I'm testing with cheapie and then Super drug own brand early detection one - progression is obvious on both). I had a chemical before and than miscarriage a couple of years back. So as you can imagine even though I am delighted about the news at the same time I am very very cautious. I am thinking to test again this Friday (11 days post transfer) and then tell my husband. I haven't told anyone any of this so any words of wisdom/ support would be very welcome.

I am reluctant to tell him just yet as I want more certainty (it's enough me worried about it already, see no point both of getting flustered over this). Appreciate there will be no 100% certainty until the baby arrives but one step at the time.

Can't share photo just yet unfortunately.

@MelainesLaugh - I think we both would like to delay finding out. It's because we both would like a girl. Obviously, given how much we struggled to conceive we'll be happy as long as the baby is going to be healthy. But I think it is bit unfair to have a preference even before he/she is even born. When we finally get to meet it we'll fall in love regardless of the gender. I know there are practical things like name, nursery, clothes etc but neither of us are too bothered about the colours so will pick up something neutral when the time comes.

My mum wanted me to be a boy (thanks mum!) because my brother was first born and she thought it is easier with boys. He was also premature baby and the only boy in the wider family so I suppose my childhood trauma is affecting my preferences as well which isn't ideal :)

I know most parents find out in advance but I think we'll wait

@mushroomushroom - it looks like you have quite a lot stuff already! are you doing anything with your nursery (redecorating etc)? Given tat the baby has good chance of surviving now I think you are allowed to start actually touching things.

I'm reading a couple of books and talking to friends in terms of items that are needed and also maternity clothing. The book talks about 'nesting'. I grew up on a farm so saw mammal animals start preparing their nests when the date approaches. I suppose we are not that different at the end, haha. So I think our plan now is just to organise our home. Husband is determined to clear out the attic/storage and I need to sort out my office (that will be baby's room and my desk will move into spare bedroom/my room). So lots of paperwork and also my clothing etc. I would like to start getting things when we are back from holiday. just need to get husband to re-paint the walls in office/spare bedroom first. He's not too keen on DIY but really don't want to pay anyone to get this done.

4 months maternity is not ideal. But at least over there you won't be the only one. Will you just get some childcare organized afterwards? I agree you need to try and squeeze the most with the leave/holidays/doctor notes etc. I will have to go back after 6-7 months as need to be getting my salary since I'm teh main earner but husband will stay at home for 3months or so. I think this will be good for both of them.

Are you wearing any maternity clothes yet? I was looking into it and apparently women just buy bigger clothes to get them through it. I'll probably get few nicer items for work but otheriwse will just buy bigger or go second hand where possible.

I just finished my last IVF medication yesterday. Finally! I can feel your pain having to deal with needles yet again. But if everything is well managed I suppose its small price to pay. Plus you are already used to it!