Pregnant mums I need help

[Mum2025]

Hi mums I need some help/ advice

So I'm 24+3 weeks and I'm FTM and I'm only feeling what I think is movements every so often and not constantly like other mums . I want to get another ultrasound so I can see with my own eyes that baby is moving and everything is fine however no one will listen to me medical wise .. I cannot afford private so that's not an option .

No one will listen to me and ease my anxiety . I've even ended up with panic attacks over worry

How do you guys get people to listen to you ??? Or what do you say for people to actually give scan .

Please if anyone sees this please let me know .
Anxious first time mum over here

Guys sorry if my post is confusing you all I have adhd and I'm not the best at typing things . So as mentioned In op my movements are not all the time but I still feel sometimes however the last time I felt movement was 3 days ago . I'm sure 3 days is normal. Again apologised I add that late .

Thankyou so much

But that's different from your OP where you say you feel some movement.

You're changing the narrative because you don't like the answers you're getting. I'm sorry you're so anxious but a scan is the last thing you need.

I didn't forget I literally said I don't feel all the time

Thankyou

Thanks

No your OP never stated 3 days, it is NORMAL to not feel movement all the time hence why midwives are not taking it seriously. As I said, the level of anxiety is going to do you no good so maybe speak to someone about that instead

I do have pregnant friends as well . Also please don't be rude in your comments. I do actually have a disability as well and you are leaving me stressed . I didn't think I'd have to mention how many days when I mentioned I don't feel all the time

Thankyou for your help

In Oxford they basically do after 18 weeks. If you are at all concerned about reduced movements they will very happily run tests.

I didn't think I'd have to mention how many days when I mentioned I don't feel all the time

Don't be silly. That's exactly the question you'll be asked in hospital, if you do go in with reduced movements.

And someone like you, with extreme anxiety, would have stated clearly in her OP exactly what was happening.

I dont think this is fair at all... She is telling you exactly how it is and has actually even taught me things like how big and heavy a baby is at that point. I just dont think you like the advice given, but you posted it on MN for peoples advice.

I'm not at a hospital I'm on Mumsnet

Have you not read my comment where I have a disability as well

She's saying that they would ask you this question IF you went into hospital.

@LozC0411 I only say this because she's bullying me and I am a disabled adult so sorry if I'm not perfect by my post

As others have said they won’t scan for reduced movements. Depending on gestation they’ll either send you to your midwife to check the heartbeat with a doppler or send you to MAU for a CTG. At this stage it’s absolutely normal to have irregular movements but if it’s genuinely been 3 days with no movements at all I’d call medicom and get their advice/get it checked.

The one thing I will say, and I absolutely don’t say this to dissuade anyone genuinely concerned about reduced movements as these should never be ignored and should always be checked out, but I’d be cautious of letting your anxiety guide you too much in seeking reassurance if your movements are just irregular at this stage. I had horrendous anxiety in my first pregnancy and regularly went in for reduced movement. I can count on less than one hand the amount of times DD didn’t start her own personal internal disco the moment I set foot in the hospital. The number of incidences of reduced movement was later used as a justification for the hospital pushing me into an induction that I ultimately didn’t need, but as a horrifically anxious FTM was too afraid to say no to.

@LozC0411 I know what they will ask at the hospital but this is Mumsnet . I didn't think I'd have to share my private patient info to stop people from leaving rude comments . I did not want to disclose how many days it's been and now I'm left feeling upset

Thankyou lovely

Saying its been 3 days isn't really private patient info? It's us wanting to know so we can help, which im assuming is why you posted this

I'm disabled too, OP.

I am so sorry if you felt bullied.

@Mum2025 the 3 day thing is very relevant because if it really has been 3 days and the midwives/hospital are refusing to see you (for monitoring/doppler, not a scan) then that would be wrong and we would support you to advocate to be seen.

Have you told them it’s been three days since you felt the baby?

Do you carry a lot of weight around your middle? This can make it harder for a Doppler to pick up and apparently can make movements less obvious.

Im only 18 weeks but my midwife kindly listened to my baby’s heartbeat today after reduced movements following a serious illness- baby was actively kicking and you could hear them kicking at the Doppler but I couldn’t feel a thing- apparently baby had rolled closer to the placenta and was kicking the placenta as opposed to other parts so I went from regular movements to nothing…

Obviously listen to your body and baby - but as others have said, they will listen to the heartbeat and not offer a scan.