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Just got back from Hong Kong exhausted but so happy - baby is fine! It was a superquick scan - the doctor I went to had some kind of super-duper gear and what had taken 30-49 ninutes last time was all over in about 10 and I was sent away with a DVD! Good omen babycakes - told you i'd try. Keeping everything crossed.

Went to my doc afterwards and finally agreed to submit to internal (I'm totally phobic about the speculum). He confirmed cervical erosion and has commanded only slightly less aggressive resting - sigh. He says it puts me at a small increased risk for premature labour. Need to do a bit of non-scary research to understand.

Congratulations joireland. And wow at at getting pregnant on once a month!

On the money thing- I never had a hang-up about that. When I gave up my job to follow the boy to Egypt we'd been together ten years. We earned more or less the same at that stage and we went through the pros and cons of the move, did the sums and decided it was the right move for us. We'd had a joint account since we'd moved in together and were too lazy to also run separate accounts so nothing really changed except the size of the balance! We do have the same ideas about what we like to spend on and what we don't though, so that makes it easier.

I did then say we'd better get married though as in leaving my job I also left my pension, my private health insurance, my death in service benefit etc etc. Fortunately he though I had a good point! How's that for a romantic story.

I would definately recommend NCT sales too got loads of stuff for DS too, the newborn stuff is hardly worn. Just be careful about the seasons you have to work out how old the LO will be when the summer/winter stuff is needed and buy accordingly.
I went back to work when my ds was a year and so have my own money but I'm not sure if I will be able to do it with 2. The idea of being dependent on my DH for money is just weird, I'm quite happy to spend his money though . anyway I have a long time to decide on that.
An hour to go I'm stating to feel sick again (I've already been sick once today - always a sign I am stressed)

MrsJ - you are as rommantic as we are. the reason we got married was in case of death so our ds would be in the best position (well the best he could be given the circumstances IYSWIM)

HURRAH! mrsj a great scan...AND a DVD...how fab

Blimey..who says romance is dead eh?! Although DP reckons you get maried when you run out of things to say........! we're still talking....so no ring for me then

hedgepig you WILL be fine (look into my eyes whilst I do the magic hand movements...) We've all been where you are; scared, anxious, frightened, excited!

Once you lie on the couch and see bubs on the screen doing a merry little dance, sticking two fingers up at you and sucking a thumb, you'll foget all the worries you had in the waiting room. I didn't sleep for at least 2 nights previous to mine. Came out of scan room cuddling my print

GOOD LUCK! Not that you'll need it.

Well done mrsjupiter on your scan too. Glad LO is doing good and the bleeding is only cervical erosion. I say 'only' as they questioned my bleeding at 17 weeks for the same thing. Turns out after the dreaded internal it wasn't and still remains a mystery to this day forward........

As for washing the grown up children's dirty laundry I do it without even thinking tbh. It's probably years and years of doing things for the kids that even though they're all late teens/early twenties, I still call them 'my children' which confuses the hell out of my DH.

I forgot to mention that 10 minutes after DD left her washing with me, DS#1 rang me to ask if I'd deposit £140 into his account (that very moment of course) as his car was having it's MOT today.

I hope you ladies are paying attention and taking notes as this is what the baby books fail to tell you - the stuff that happens when they grow up and subscribe to the bank of mum and dad

jeanjeannie how's the pelvis holding up today? You're final clinic visit this Thursday or is it next week?

How you feeling - apart from large?

Hello joireland and welcome.

Great news mrsjupiter - just what we all like to hear. Hopefully you can relax a bit more with all your relaxing .

As for romance I think the only time my DH was romantic was the night he proposed. 1st we were in NY. 2nd he told me I looked beautiful (I should have known something was up then ) and 3rd he went down on bended knee on Brooklyn Bridge after we'd eaten a beautiful dinner and said all the right things. It was melting. However, since then, nothing. He says the only day he has to be romantic is Valentine's Day, though this year he worked late and came home with a bunch of flowers bought from Tesco on his route back. Still in the Tesco bag. Ah well. No matter.

pwcbird you get flowers?

My DH never got on one knee - only time he does that is to either tie his laces or pick up money. I think we had a vague discussion about getting married whilst out in the Comedy Store and the next day I started organising it. He just showed up on the day.

Oh and btw, he thinks making me a cup of tea is romantic. And I don't get that very often!

I can't wait for hedgepig to come back and tell us all about her lovely scan

johnworf I'm holding up thanks - just. Had a 'funny turn' in the town centre yesterday - fled with pram into a Costa before I passed out. Had to have an almond croissant....think blood pressure and sugar levels all plummeted (PMT - pre-meal tension). Staff in Costa all looked very concerned.....but not enough to give me a free croissant Final midwife app this Thurs....OOOOoooo...!

Hahaha your DC sound a hoot...washing AND money for car....it's what I'm expecting. Are you going to call upon them to return the favours with next dc....? You know - babysitting duties etc?

pwcbird now THAT's a romantic proposal. Reckon that is a lifetime's worth of slush there. This valentines DP wanted to take me to a talk on.....bricks Needless to say I said no......instead....we stayed in....

Oh jeanjeannie we're never allowed to go out on valentines. 'Too expensive.. rip-off' etc etc which I kind of agree with but usually means I end up cooking a nice meal, starters and all that, and then clearing it all up and it being a real slog. In return I force DH to watch a really slushy film, or even worse for him a costume drama (Merchant Ivory or the like) - which sometimes I may not be in the mood for myself but I make him suffer because I am evil and have to get my enjoyment somehow

OOOh jeanjeannie are you ok dear? Hope your funny turn has passed. Do you think it's an omen for labour?

Oh you'll have all the washing/money lending in a few years, don't worry. It's compulsory as a parent to have to do it!

I've raised the issue of babysitting duties as follows:-
DD says she'd rather get a pug as she only likes dogs and they're cuter than babies.

DS#1 says he doesn't like the noise they make but his g/f is dying to get her hands on a wickle baby so she'll do it.

DS#2 is ditto to DS#1 but he doesn't have a g/f so he says he'll just come and visit me 'occasionally'.

So all my hard work paid off

My DH doesn't believe in Christmas, birthdays, anniversaries, valentines day or anything else that involves spending money. He says it's all a marketing ploy. I agree to an extent but I do like the fuss. I had to drop 50,000,000 hints for my Tiffany bracelet last Valentine's day. In the end he told me to order it and he'd pay. It was really just to get me off his back and not a romantic gift

Woot!

I,m back it was all OK I'm so relieved . LO wasn't playing ball so I had to go for a walk to make he/she move then I got hung upside down on the bed but everyting was fine. Couldn't make much out on the scan looked very fuzzy too me but the sonographer was very positive so that is enough. Thanks for all of your good wishes.

Oh great news hedgepig - have been wondering how you were getting along. Hope you got some nice pics. Did you find out the sex? Now you can relax and enjoy the next weeks and positivly bloom until you get to the waddling stage

btw jeanjeannie apparently if your waters break in M&S they give you a free goodie bag! Maybe you should camp out there in the homeware dept (comfy sofas/beds - linen/towels available etc)....

pwcbird don't tell my DH that interesting snippet. He'll have me living in the slipper aisle until baby pops out!

So glad everything is ok hedgepig. I'll dispense with the 'I told you so' Another milestone reached. So what flavour are you having?

As for you comment re being hung upside down on the bed, I'm just remembering back to my dim and distant past .

Ok here is an age related thing I was thinking about this morning and I wanted to share, but brain has only just remembered it....

I was thinking today whilst listening to Radio 2 (as I always do), that I really am in love with Terry Wogan. How the years have improved him like a fine wine.

Honestly, I'm not kidding ladies. He's up there with Andrew Marr, Jeremy Paxman and Patrick Stewart. Can anyone else see where I'm coming from????? Or am I just a freak?

After a hard day's graft, I'm still in a bad mood from earlier!!! How is it that a man can spend £500 on a TV stand for his plasma, and then insist on the baby wearing 2nd hand clothes?

It's enough to send me to a sperm bank, except I don't need sperm now, I just need to win the lottery.

Seriously though, isn't dressing up the LO's all part of the fun? I was really looking forward to that bit, you know, choosing extra cute outfits. And then there's all his posh friends, I suppose we going to ask them for hand me downs? All my friends are broke and single so no use asking them.

I'm not too proud to wear second hand stuff myself, it's just that I was looking forward to the shopping part of this baby.

There has to be some reward for all the hard work of having a blob

BTW I think Terry Wogan is pushing it as a sex symbol. Put him in women's clothes and he reminds me of my grandma. Patrick Stewart on the other hand...phooar!

hedgepig BRILL news Shame they didn't give you a DVD like Mrsjupiter got ...would have been hilarious to see you hanging upside down off the bed.

johnworf feeling a bit better today thanks. I blinkin hope it's not onset of labour - still got a ridiculous amount of things to do. Reckon I'm still in denial as everytime I think about having two under two I put my fingers in my ears and go 'la la la la la..' and I find that helps [grins]

pwcbird that's a top tip..think I may hover between the cakes and linen. I was stopped the other day in Tesco by a random woman who turned out to be a midwife....she said she couldn't help noticing how far gone I was and that she'd be in there at least 40 mins should I need her...and that Tesco apparently also do a goody bag for in-store labour!!!

NO - NO - NO Terry Wogan is NOT a sex symbol!
Although I do enjoy his Eurovision commentary. We will be watching this weekend - it's from DPs 'fatherland' - Belgrade. Apparently the family have a magnificent mausoleum there...that just makes me wanna visit....

sorry johnworf terry is not a sex symbol maybe it is your hormones . I do find it really amusing how Radio 2 plays stuff they would never have played 1st time around, ie Punk stuff.
MrsJ I am fascinated by the DVD idea I couldn't make out anything so for me it would be like just watching a out of tune TV.

I quite think Terry could be a sex symbol because his show is so funny. I hardly listen to it anymore because of the little toddler DS but I love it. However, am reminded once again of Reeves and Mortimer when they did the folk singing duo - I can't remember what they were called - I have it - Mulligan & O'Hare.

lmfao@Mulligan and O'Hare (with fake nipples down their polo necks).

Ok, praps it's my hormones but Terry always make me laugh in the mornings, if he's not in fits of giggles himself.

DH can feel baby move all the time now (when she deigns to do it) so it's all becoming slightly scary, slightly worrying, slightly REAL now for him.

I keep showing him random lovely baby clothes that I've bought, with no effect. However, the Rubik's cube he bought himself from Amazon keeps him quiet for hours and hours on end. He says it's more interesting than talking about tiny clothes.

jeanjeannie get thy body out to thy local mothercare and get sorted! The poor munchkin will be here before you know it and you'll still be thinking about it!

Earlybird here, been awake since 5 after fitfully sleeping due to the most depressing episode of Waking the Dead last night and so dreaming of all manner of disturbing things
Anyway - today's the day - appt at 1.10 but out early to drop DS of at grandma's and then probably nightmarish drive to SE London and then finding all our pound coins for the outrageous £2.50 per hour car parking fees!!
Feeling terribly anxious for some reason - think it's just becuase I've built it up in my own head and been waiting for today for so blinkin' long!

Will let you know...

pwcbird you'll be fine. I know you'll be fine and so do you but you need to have the obligatory worry beforehand as everyone does!

Expect to see your post this afternoon exclaiming how wonderful your star of screen and stage was Good luck dear

I had awful nightmares last night, back to back and I didn't even watch WTD. Babies dying, DH's family dying, everyone dying....inbetween going to the loo. Isn't 23 weeks too far on to be weeing through the night? Mebbe it's the diabetes? I dunno...mebbe it's habit!

I'm about to print off our 'holiday list'(yes, I am anal), and start working my way through it for packing purposes in readiness for the 'off' on Monday Cornwall here we come!

Thinking about buying DSS one of those back of the seat DVD players for the journey. Anyone got one and if so, what do you think? Worth it or not? He's 8 yo btw and mad on Spiderman, Fantastic Four et al.

OMG pwcbird...me too..Waking the Dead just gave me such a restles, nasty night. Even DP was a bit upset by it - but he thinks this was due to supressed stuff from being half Serbian.....hence his Dad wasn't on the side of the 'good guys'..and his dad still won't talk about it...and has a very grandious outlook on life as a Serb. Was all very emotional here

Fingers crossed for scan - and that horrid journey - Ooooo I passed that place everyday on way to work in Croydon. Let us know how it went as soon as you get to your keyboard! x

johnworf am writing Mothercare list now (honest) AND DP is in loft now going through stuff that we can recycle for next DC.

I definately think you should master the Rubiks cube.... (bound to be the answer online somewhere) do it effortlessly...and give it back to DH as though it was nothing...ahahahah.

If it's any consolaton i've pee'd all through night since about 10 weeks....six times last night...grrrr. Hardly worth going to sleep.

Cornwall...........can I come.....PLEEEEASE!?