Reasons for not drinking at a wedding

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It’s my cousin’s wedding this weekend and I am currently 1st trimester pregnant with my second child. Now for obvious reasons I don’t want to tell people at the wedding, it’s her big day and not a chance in hell I’d try and steal any thunder.

Only my DH knows, I’m not telling any of my close family until after the 12 week scan as they are an anxious bunch and I’ve miscarried in the past so there is no point putting everyone through the worry!

Trouble is, everyone knows how much I (used to!) love a glass (or 4) of wine and last time I tried to not drink at a wedding years ago when I was pregnant with DD I did a terrible job of hiding it! The ceremony and reception are all at the hotel and we are staying there, because it is 4 hours from where we live, so I can’t say I’m driving.

Please can you help with any successful, or unsuccessful ways of not drinking at weddings or big events x

My way of dealing with this would be to drink plain tonic and lime (or something similar) and people will just assume you’re drinking.

Take a glass of bubbles for the speeches etc and your dp can drink it.

Just hold a glass of wine but not actually drink it. If your husband also drinks wine every so often swap glasses with him so you have a partially drunk glass.

People would notice you not holding a drunk more than they would notice you not drinking

Congrats.

If you are able to order direct at bar ask for lime and soda in a champagne flute or elderflower cordial and soda etc in a champagne flute .

You could be on antibiotics for an ear infection so can't drink

I would say I'm on antibiotics for a horrible UTI so don't want to make it worse or become physically sick.

No one believes the antibiotics fib

Hold a glass of wine , and when someone offers a top up say something like
ooooh I can’t , I had such a hangover from my girls night out last weekend I just can’t face alcohol yet ( and do a fake heave )

Have a glass and pretend to sip it or order non alcoholic drinks with ice and a slice of lemon or lime. If anyone offers you a drink, say you already have one or get your DH to drink it for you.

Definitely better if you pretend you are drinking rather than not drinking. I was in the early stages of pregnancy over Christmas and New Year twice and managed to get away with not drinking by doing this.

Don't say you're on antibiotics, most of them you can drink whilst taking.

Say last time you drank at a wedding you started a massive brawl and you are bound over to keep the peace.

I tell people, quite truthfully, I take a drug potentiated by alcohol; and it potentiates alcohol. It’s not pleasant going from sober to paralytic in 2 drinks, bypassing merry altogether!

Saying you are on antibiotics or doing sober October never works. You may as well have a big flag saying 'I'm pregnant'.

It depends on the context of the wedding. My best friend was pregnant at her own wedding and no one had an inkling. People would bring her alcoholic drinks which she would accept and she would hold them for a while then put them on a table and walk off or hand to me to deal with. I had a thing going with the barman where I'd get her a Schloer every now and then and again in a wine glass or a tonic water made to look like a g&t.

If there's wine on the table pour yourself some and just don't drink it. Accept toasts but leave them or get DH to 'accidentally' drink from your glass so it looks like it's going down. People notice if you ask for an alternative but don't track how much or if you drink what you have in front of you.

You can periodically hop off to the bar to get a tonic water and tell people you don't really like the wine so are on the G&Ts. Once the dancing starts it's much easier to order yourself soft drinks.

People also seem to accept seeing you with a soft drink and declaring that you are 'pacing yourself'. Orange juice with soda water can be made to look like a mimosa for early arrival drinks. Also get DH to check in with the bar to see if they can make you an off menu mocktail so other people can order one for you and be none the wiser.

The easiest thing though is to have to drive home that evening so you have to stay sober. Is that something you could convincingly orchestrate?

Are you taking DD with you? Not wanting to be drunk in charge of a child is a very plausible excuse!

I swapped Prosecco to non alcoholic stuff secretly etc. it was the only way I could get away with it.

Then stick to spirits so they can easily be hidden, just have the mixer but says it's vodka and lemonade for example.

Don’t say anything. Just accept a drink then don’t drink it.

Order a glass of wine and a glass of water .

people pay more attention to the first drink ordered but not really pay attention after that , drink the water and lose half the glass ( maybe your DH drinks it ) ..

Definitely don’t say the antiobiotics .. far too obvious …
and make sure your behaviour matches what it is when you are when drunk 🤣🤣

congratulations !!

You're on Flagyl for a bad case of thrush/fungal infection.

Metronidazole - Wikipedia You can't drink if you take it.

I’d agree with the above, much easier to pretend to drink.
Myself and SIL both tried to conceal a prefab act one Christmas. She made an excuse for not drinking and I pretended to drink, being the one to pour the drinks and disguising what I had and ordering wine when out and passing it to husband.
straight away they worked out SIL was pregnant but no one suspected me at all

DH is going to be hammered 😬

I genuinely had a kidney infection at my cousins wedding and on strong antibiotics and nobody believed me and wouldn’t stop asking me if I was pregnant and I was single at the time 😂

As per others, don't mention it, just hold drinks and crack on enjoying the night. Weddings are busy enough events no one will notice. Just change drinks from time to time 😂

I told the barman and got a couple of non alcoholic lagers in a pint glass....worked a treat until I accidentally showed someone a picture of my positive pregnancy test 🤣😂

No one believes the antibiotics fib they do if instead of saying youre on antibiotics you say something like " I'm on Ciprofloxavin for my ear infection"

Could you be driving?

Can you use the "I'm the designated driver" explanation?

You could even pre-empt the pregnancy suspicions by saying you're TTC and you're hoping that not drinking will help with that.

It wasn’t a wedding it was a hen do but I just poured the Prosecco away and replaced it with lemonade, another time I went to the bar and asked for a non-alcoholic cocktail and when people asked what it was I said a cocktail name which technically it was, it was just missing the alcohol in it and I didn’t say it was a mocktail. When I didn’t take a glass of Prosecco during an activity that’s when a few people were curious. I said I was pacing myself but I would have normally drank it so it was out of character for me.

My only issue was the tiredness and struggling to keep going by 8-9pm when everyone was out until 2am.