Did anyone have a drink or two in third trimester?

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Tbh not looking for any backlash or judgment, just trying to understand views. So, I am going on holiday to Rhodes next week which will fall over my birthday and I will be 31 + 6 weeks. Now one of my friends said treating myself to a birthday cocktail or a couple of glasses of wine would be totally okay (I haven't touched a single drop of alcohol throughout and found out when I was 2 weeks as well) and that even having a glass of wine with dinner isn't totally frowned upon.

I even spoke to my midwife and she also said its really not the end of the world to have a glass of wine here and there in the third trimester, but she advised there isn't a "known" amount of alcohol that is deemed safe hence why its not recommended.. but she told me she had some prosecco at a friends wedding when she was in the 3rd trimester so its really down to how I feel about it as well.

And if I'm being totally honest I have been craving a little drink every now and then! I've always been a sensible person but being pregnant throughout the summer has been a bit depressing and I have struggled in the pregnancy quite a lot with various, aches pains, nausea, you name it.. so I can see why I feel like I want to have a cheeky little tipple on hols!

I just want to know if anyone else did this and what your views are (again no nasty judgment please). I feel as though I should be able to enjoy a little drink on my birthday especially as I am on holiday too but I still feel some guilt around it? Any advice or feedback is welcomed🙂

No, mocktails are enough. A sip of DH's wine, or cider sure. But there's no need for a whole glass.

Might kill you with heartburn but I would! One or two drinks at this stage would be fine - I am not a drinker and craved a spritzer or half of shandy by 31 weeks for some mad reason.

Not during the first trimester but after that I did in both of my pregnancies.

Before the 1980s that advice was common.

Most women rarely drunk anyway, unlike now and wine glasses were smaller, so telling a pregnant woman to have a drink meant that most women would have drunk like the posters who said they had a glass of wine/half a pint on the number of occasions you can count on one hand.

The problem is now that more women drink, and if you drink wine and spirits at home you don't know how much you are drinking. Also the smallest measure in pubs/restaurants/bars is often what a large used to be.

I wouldn't because im risk adverse. And as some other posters have said if something went wrong id forever being wishing I hadn't. To me the benefits don't outweigh the risk.

I did have some wine towards the end. It won't harm baby at that stage

Yes of course I had an odd drink when I was pregnant. Everyone I knew did and I don't know anyone whose baby was born with a problem. Most people weren't nearly as concerned about diet etc when then were pregnant at the time I had my daughter, and most women didn't avoid all the foods that people do nowadays. It also wasn't at all uncommon to smoke in pregnancy either.

As someone who had a completely uncomplicated second pregnancy that resulted in a sudden abruption and emergency section at 35 weeks, neither flying nor alcohol would appeal to me at that point.

If I'd had any alcohol I might have wondered if it had caused the abruption (even if this was incredibly unlikely). If the baby had developmental delays, I know I would wonder if alcohol had been a factor. If you're not given to that kind of anxiety, you might consider it worthwhile!

Yes, I had a couple of glasses of wine in the third trimester

When I was pregnant (19 years ago 🙈) the guidance was one or two units a week, so I stuck to 2 halves of lager a week. I know times have changed - I come from the generation when mums smoke and drunk through their pregnancies without a care in the world haha! I'm surprised I didn't come out with a lager top 😂

@PreggersWithBaby2 why is it a dick comment?

Tbh it's a pretty selfish perspective to WANT to have a drink in pregnancy when we don't know the risks.

Felt quite rough up until 25 weeks and by then, l had lost the taste for alcohol. Sure one drink won't hurt but if anything did go wrong, you would possibly blame yourself. Not worth it in my opnion, only a few more weeks and you can enjoy a drink guilt free! Happy bday xx

Yes, including half a bottle of champagne on Millennium Eve when about 35 weeks. DS was Gifted and Talented, got an MEng and is living his best life in his dream job.

I had a glass of white wine once a week while pregnant. I diluted it loads with soda water and drank it over 1 hour if not longer.

I still have to put up with judgement from DH's family. Despite dd being 12 and extremely bright. Top of class, bilingual, beautiful girl.

A drink here or there wouldn't hurt, but the judgement santimoniousness of others is the killer.

Personally i wonder what stress hormones do to the unborn child. No-one gives a fuck about that. I was sacked because I was pregnant and kicked out of a flat. As a teacher, which is not a low stress job. But I drink a glass of dilute wine at snail's pace and that's a problem?

I had wine a quite a few times in pregnancy. Just a small glass spaced out over an hour or more but always tasted so good! I'd had 4 miscarriages before, but I didn't see it as a worry personally. I think in some other countries pregnant women do indulge a bit more.

This is so sad. We do know the risks. Read about them before you take the advice here. We do also know the effect stress has on the foetus. The research has been done, we know exactly what happens with exposure to alcohol, the developing foetus is permanently harmed. Its so prevalent its 1 in a 100 born with it, the reason behind many many challenging behaviours in children and only caused by drinking alcohol in pregnancy. So not worth it.
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I was 38 weeks and watching ready, steady, cook. The segment at the end where they chefs have a few minutes to cook a meal, and Ainsley poured 2 big glasses of wine. Sent my husband out to buy a mini bottle of red.

Personally I wouldn't beyond the odd sip to taste what everyone else was having. You'll find lots of people who say they drank alcohol and were fine, but that doesn't mean it's safe, just that they didn't have any affects. As your midwife said there is no known safe amount.
I wouldn't be comfortable flying that late on either. I wouldn't want to be stuck somewhere if something did go wrong or baby decided to make an early appearance.
But they are choices everyone has to make for themselves.

Think about it like this, sometimes even one glass of wine can make you feel light headed - you'd never give it to your child after being born so why in the womb at such a critical stage of development?

It just doesn't make sense to me

I daresay the flying is fine. But have you checked your travel insurance covers pregnancy complications?
I remember reading a while ago about a poor woman who had a pre term baby at about 7months in a foreign country. Baby in their nicu costing the earth and were fundraising for the tens of thousands of pounds needed to get a medical flight ro get them and baby back home.
Not a risk I'd be willing to take personally unless your insurance covers you.

There isn’t an issue, it’s just that most airlines ask you for a “fit to fly” note, also unsure how you would get travel insurance ?

Read Expecting Better by Emily Oster, she studies the scientific literature and research looking at the effects of light drinking (a glass here or there) during pregnancy and concludes that it does no harm. The alcohol is broken down before reaching the baby as long as it is not in large quantities. So no binge drinking or shooters but a glass of wine/beer is fine. She says this is particularly true in second/third trimester when organs have stopped developing.
i would avoid cocktails because of the mix of strong spirits but not feel guilty about a wee glass of wine or champagne

When I was first pregnant it was a limit of 1-2 units 1-2 times a week. I’m don’t think they changed as evidence of harm at that level but because it was a clearer message to have no booze atall in pregnancy.

I haven’t, but not a big drinker anyway and never felt any desire to so not exactly the same. I think it’s unlikely that one drink is going to cause harm, but also consider if it’s worth it if you’ll just feel guilty about it anyway!