Did anyone have a drink or two in third trimester?

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Tbh not looking for any backlash or judgment, just trying to understand views. So, I am going on holiday to Rhodes next week which will fall over my birthday and I will be 31 + 6 weeks. Now one of my friends said treating myself to a birthday cocktail or a couple of glasses of wine would be totally okay (I haven't touched a single drop of alcohol throughout and found out when I was 2 weeks as well) and that even having a glass of wine with dinner isn't totally frowned upon.

I even spoke to my midwife and she also said its really not the end of the world to have a glass of wine here and there in the third trimester, but she advised there isn't a "known" amount of alcohol that is deemed safe hence why its not recommended.. but she told me she had some prosecco at a friends wedding when she was in the 3rd trimester so its really down to how I feel about it as well.

And if I'm being totally honest I have been craving a little drink every now and then! I've always been a sensible person but being pregnant throughout the summer has been a bit depressing and I have struggled in the pregnancy quite a lot with various, aches pains, nausea, you name it.. so I can see why I feel like I want to have a cheeky little tipple on hols!

I just want to know if anyone else did this and what your views are (again no nasty judgment please). I feel as though I should be able to enjoy a little drink on my birthday especially as I am on holiday too but I still feel some guilt around it? Any advice or feedback is welcomed🙂

Just... why would you? Why do it to your baby? If there's even any risk, why?

Let few weeks I craved red wine ( didn't normally drink anyway...but had a small glass of an evening...baby now 6"4 and 24 years old!

Only you can decide if it's worth the risk. At the end of the day as your midwife has said, we really don't know how much alcohol is needed to cause problems such as foetal alcohol syndrome and that is purely why I have abstained in my pregnancy. I have had moments where I've fancied a drink but I just think the likelihood of acid reflux isn't really worth it for me 😂😂

I'm old enough that my gp encouraged wine in pregnancy to reduce stress.

Adult child has high IQ, very tall and is very successful.

I didn't, but I think it's quite common in other European countries.

Yes, I had a small glass of wine every so often throughout my first pregnancy, and taking the same approach this time. I know plenty of doctors who have done the same and I didn't feel guilty about it at all and conversely I know plenty of people who wouldn't touch a drop - really depends on your own assessment of what is risky or not and I was comfortable in my choice. People judge you for all sorts of things when you're a mother, best get used to it sooner rather than later! Enjoy your holiday!

I didn't drink in the first trimester but had a glass of wine or champagne most weeks in the second and third trimesters. Never more than one. I definitely drank whilst breastfeeding, no reason not to. So long as you're sober enough to hold the baby then it's fine! Obviously no cosleeping thing.

OP have a fabulous holiday, but please make sure your travel insurance covers both you and the baby (lots won't cover a premature baby after 28 weeks or so).

Classy

Someone earlier suggested Expecting Better by Emily Oster. Read it. It will relax you immeasurably and inform you about all sorts. Or she now has a website called ParentData by Emily Oster. You can just search alcohol when pregnant or breastfeeding and get actual evidence.

But in summary - enjoy your drink!

Can't abstain from drinking for 9 months? Don't get pregnant.

As simple as that.

Oh well done you.

Well done for following your GP's extremely wise advice.

Hi - yes first pregnancy had a glass of wine every now and again. Second pregnancy I barely did (but mainly due to exhaustion, couldn’t stomach the idea of something making me even more tired!) but did have a glass of champagne to celebrate late on. The main thing you want to keep in mind is how much the alcohol passes across the placenta, so one small glass sipped slowly is fine (Expecting Better, conversations with obstetricians etc) and I was fine with the risk/reward. I did also drink in public with my first pregnancy and no one said anything, waiter even tried to top up my glass! If you’re fine with it then I say go for it, enjoy your birthday

Very tall 😂 did you also eat lots of green giant sweetcorn?

I drank some champagne. The kid is fine.

Personally, I just don’t think it’s worth the risk nor the worry. I’ll be in my third trimester over the Christmas and will be having mocktails and sparkling grape juice 😂 seems like the odd drink works out okay for some it’s up to you at the end of the day

'One research study has shown that after 1-2 glasses of wine, fetal breathing is almost completely suppressed, which can be a sign of fetal distress.'

www.acog.org/programs/fasd/fasd-faqs

The answer is that we don't yet know the extent to which alcohol can harm a developing fetus, so for everyone confidently saying a drink a week or whatever is 'fine', the truth is we don't actually know as they are still discovering the effects.

Ok why go outside in case you’re hit by a car? People assess their risk/reward tolerance based on a whole range of ideas and beliefs, stemming from the fact that they are humans who may want to do certain things

Bit of a dick comment!

Cant believe so many drank in pregnancy. Ridiculous and unnecessary risk that nobody can quantify so why would you? I also wouldnt fly in 3rd trimester but I've had 3 early babies, the first of which was an 'uncomplicated pregnancy ' ... until it wasn't.
'Perfectly safe ' but not sensible in my opinion.

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Yes, I went out with my friends every week throughout my pregnancy and had a couple of halves each time I went out.

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It was. My friends were all downing lots of pints of snakebite

I'm 39+3 today and reaaaaaally craving a glass of red.

Think I've missed the point of the thread

I can't understand why you'd want to. Maybe I'm overcautious but I found the dropping alcohol a relatively easy no brainer.
My daughter is severely learning disabled and I've spent a lot of time thinking about the things I did while pregnant and if anything could have contributed to this (outside of genetics). My daughter is always going to need care. I can't imagine how much more dreadful I'd feel if I knew I'd willfully drunk alcohol while carrying her. I imagine that might sound melodramatic but take it as honesty from a parent of a child who will never be independent.

This is terrible advice. You can't possibly know what effects it may have had and you can't know what it would do to op child. There simply isn't enough research.

In my second pregnancy I had a cider every now and then of an evening in the summer

at Christmas I had an Irish coffee a few times over the break

And the odd half pint if we were ever in pub for dinner

Yeah, worry about my comment being 'dick', not about pregnant women drinking.