I wake up every morning thinking I want an abortion.

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I think I’m about to be 8 weeks but I’m not 100% sure until I get a private scan in 2 days. Every single day when I wake up and feel nauseous and whenever I try eat anything until about the 20th mouthful I feel it coming back up in a horrible way but I know it won’t come back up which is torturing me the most. I’m 18 years old and I was so excited for a few weeks about my pregnancy until morning sickness hit. Day 1 I was nauseous from early morning to late late night to the point I couldn’t sleep. I couldn’t lay down because I had to get up because of how sick I felt. It went on for a few days then disappeared. Me and my fiancé now sleep on the couch together so I can sit up straight and also lay down and I love him for how caring and supportive he is so far. As this is his child too having an abortion is a conversation we both have and I find it’s become daily. I can tell he’s sick of it but from being healthy and active to being in bed sleeping during the day and eating my first meal past 4pm because of the sleep I can’t get at night it’s a big change and a nightmare. I have emetophobia a fear of throwing up which is making these few weeks terrifying. My fiancé is in the military and works 12 hour shifts 4 times a week so I’m alone in the house dealing with it alone and his work give no care about it whatsoever. In those 12 hours he’s on shift for 4 hours of it which I think is terrible. The person who deals with it has a kid with her boyfriend who’s also in the military so she’s bias and can take him off when she wants but not my fiancé when he just wants to look after me during this horrible time. I know I don’t want an abortion at all but there’s times where I’m literally crying to my fiancé saying I can’t take it anymore telling him how much I want to sleep and be able to eat food again. How much I want to go out to museums and castles again. Thinking pregnancy literally makes you bloom I fell into it and now I’m trapped knowing I will never mentally recover no matter what I do. Thinking of abortion daily because of my sickness is horrible. Has anyone else experience this type of mental breakdown?

I suffered terribly with morning sickness (well all day long sickness) from 6 weeks pregnant, ended up getting prescribed meds from my GP which really helped. Speak to your doctor.

I wonder how much these comments would differ if the OP didn't mention her age! How nasty!!!

So sorry you are going through this. As others have said, see your GP. There is medication you can get.

I had hyperemises too . Mine hit week 7 . I was hospitalised on drips ..

Your partner can’t take time off at the moment however try things like peppermint tea , ginger .. I could not tolerate dairy .

from reading your post I don’t think you are working so change your body clock .. if you can sleep morning do that and whilst it is lovely he is staying up do encourage him to get some proper sleep in bed . I am assuming he is in a physically demanding job ? Two tired people are much less tolerant of each other .

Do see the midwife or go about how bad this is .

The comments saying just get on with it are harsh. My friend had severe HG and it really was debilitating for her. She had similar thoughts to you re abortion, her baby is here now but she did have such a rough time of it bless her.
For reference she is a professional in her 30s, as for some reason previous posters think your age bears some relevance here.

Please don't terminate a wanted baby because of sickness.
My second and third pregnancies weren't too bad. I felt terribly ill and was sick every morning in the first trimester but that was a walk in the park compared to my first pregnancy in which I had HG. The result of that pregnancy is now 6 years old and asleep cuddled up with me in bed, so she was worth it in the end. I still can't drive past a certain restaurant that I was sick in or smell Dior Poison that my colleague used to wear without shuddering a bit though
Get yourself to the doctor and get some anti sickness tablets. If the ones they prescribe don't work, ask for some different ones. I had cyclizine and metoclopramide.
Find foods that you can tolerate. I lived off ready salted crisps, bread and strawberry laces for 9 months. I couldn't eat anything hot as it made me instantly sick.
The first trimester is always the worst though. I've always found that things eased a little around 12/13 weeks. Even if the sickness didn't go away, the dreadful tiredness got better which helped me feel more human. At 8 weeks, you may hopefully be feeling a bit better soon.

Posts can usually be improved too thankfully, there's an edit button now. Maybe you can rethink yours to help a bit more helpful 👍

This is BS I booked a termination for my 3rd child at 32 years old because of terrible sickness, was I not ready?? I didn't go though with it asbI got medical help after they realised how desperate i was.You have no idea what you're taking about.

I had my 1st child at 19 and he's wonderful, I did a stellar job.

It’s nothing to do with age. My opinion is if you really wanted a child sickness wouldn’t make you want to terminate. And before anyone says I clearly didn’t have it bad enough I had HG pretty much my whole pregnancy and worked full time up until 38 weeks. I’m not saying ‘just get on with it’ I’m saying if these thoughts and feelings are there it’s probably more depo rooted than the sickness.

Ignore the comments about being ready. Some of them are disgusting actually.

With my second child I honestly did not know how I was going to get through the pregnancy with the amount of sickness I was suffering from. It was from the moment I opened my eyes, to the moment I went to bed.

Please see your doctor/midwife - there are things you can try.

bullshit - say what you want but your snide comment about being ready to be a parent was absolutely because she mentioned she was 18.

@pinkfleece

So by your logic anyone under 20 with a partner who is loving and supportive but who works long hours should not have children?

And if that person falls pregnant and reaches out for support from other women that should be the advice she gets?

Why?

I would just say it if that what’s I thought would I not?

age and being ready to be a parent are 2 very different things.

So you didn't have those thoughts or feelings in your personal experience, that's good for you.

But everyone's experience of mental and physical health in pregnancy is different isn't it. Some get pnd, some don't. Some suffer with pelvic pain, some don't.

Everyone responds differently to the effects of hormones, sleep deprivation, sickness, changing body shape, etc.

It depends on so many factors. Your support network being one of them. OP is reaching out for support in a much wanted pregnancy. So maybe try offering a little more support and see if it helps.

I also struggled to cope with morning sickness and considered if I was physically capable of getting through the entire pregnancy being that ill.

Was I not ready to be a parent?

Support doesn’t necessarily mean just telling someone what they want to hear.

I think there is a difference between thoughts of ‘I don’t think I can do this’ which I also felt a lot and genuinely feeling like you want to terminate.

This thread!

OP do go and see your doctor. There are medications you can take which will help you.

@FTMaz

But is it supportive to tell someone they are not ready to be a parent due to the fact they are having a very difficult time?

And to tell her that, despite the fact she is already pregnant with a wanted pregnancy, and despite the fact that you have absolutely no idea what kind of a parent she would make?

The OP clearly stated she does not want an abortion at all but the severity of her sickness is causing her to physically and emotionally break down.

She asked if anyone else had ever been through it - I am sure a lot of people have.

The first trimester is the worst, the nausea and tiredness is horrendous. It usually gets better by the second trimester, stopped completely for me at 11 weeks with my first. It feels like it’s never going to end then one day you wake up and it’s gone, you just feel normal again. If this is a wanted baby and it sounds like it is I would speak to your gp there is medication they can give you to help with nausea.

18 year old with tbe level of maturity shown in this post shouldn't be parents

She says she thinks about abortion several times a day.

the OP’s immaturity is apparent in the post, regardless of age. She expects her partner to be able to be off work because she is sick. She states she wants to visit ‘museums and castles’ and that she is trapped in a pregnancy…..

Agreed.

There is medication that works for morning sickness. I had dreadful sickness and like you thought about abortion daily h til meds worked because it was unbearable. But it got better