My MIL has said she talks to my baby who is still in my womb. She did this with my first child and is now doing it again with my second. She says things in passing like "we talk a lot" / "all the time". My DH and I also have a name for our baby but are keeping it secret until the birth, but in the meantime she told us that she has a name for him and now whenever she asks me how I am doing she will refer to him as this name "how is xx doing?" - like it's just decided. (It's also a name that I can't stand). With my first baby I felt she was so overbearing, she would never ask if she could hold the baby she would just look at the baby and say "oh come here" and reach her hands out and basically make it impossible for me to refuse without saying no - which would seem unreasonable. But it's the feeling of having a right to them. She also to this day never greets me first, she will first make eye contact with my DD and greet and talk to her, and then say hello to me. It's just a constant feeling like she sees them as her children and I was just a delivery vehicle for them. Every time it's been my birthday or an occasion since she will also say things like "thank you for being a wonderful mother to OUR (DD's name)" - again as if the child is theirs and as the mother I am just playing a role in service to them. I feel frustrated, a loss of confidence and a feeling like I just don't even know how to respond. Am I being silly/overly controlling myself? How would you feel about this?