🩵🩷 Bumps 2 Babies & beyond #2 🩷🩵

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New thread as the other was getting full 😀

@Mismatc Is she your first?
I was so broody after my first for the first year!

DD is my second and not feeling broody at all 😅

I'm soooo broody!! I desperately miss the newborn stage already 😅
I've heard terrifying things about 2 under 2 but still think I'd like to have a second baby by the time little one is two 🥹

To add to this - our sex life is non-existent 😫
It's been SO painful after birth, we still haven't managed to fully get it in there :( struggling a lot with this now and missing the intimacy

No rush for baby number 2 here yet 😄
I said lastnight in regards to the teething hell; this would put you off having another 🤣

Would like another 1 or even 2 though but always said when little man is around 18 months old would start trying again 🙂

@Mismatc we’ve definitely been thinking about it but I’m still bfing too so don’t think it’s likely. I don’t miss the newborn stage but we’re both in 40s so we don’t have much time. I’m actually really loving this age/stage, LO is so interactive and so much fun to be around.

We’ve only dtd I’d say 5 times tops since LO came along, find it really hard to have any time just us 2 or were exhausted or really just not in the mood. We’re Co sleeping too so LO is always in the bed

I was soo broody for the first 4 months. Not feeling broody now but do miss the Newborn stage. We do have older children dd13 and ds 12 so feel as if he needs another little sibling.
Feed expressed milk so still no period and still not putting out so would be a miracle!

I’m so pleased I’m not the only one! She’s my third but the first two are 11 and 10 so she needs a friend. I also had them close together last time and loved it

@CharXo oooh September sounds good, I was thinking first half October for holiday so ahead of half term prices and I'm hoping can have him sleeping through by then haha probably wishful thinking but 8/8.5 months was when my first started sleeping through so here's hoping 😅

@msp2023 did you have a bad tear? And are you breastfeeding? Definitely need to use lube. It's hard if baby not sleeping well or predictably but don't want to feel rushed as well. I have found when my baby is overtired we get lots of false starts at start of night but generally not until at least 30 mins until after bedtime, so then feels like crunchtime, which doesn't help 🙄and that doesn't necessarily line up with when sorted putting our 3.5y to bed either.

@DmcinT glad I'm not the only one who doesn't miss the newborn stage... I enjoy 6+ month much more, especially for playing and interacting. I did get a bit sad/nostalgic when sorting out all the clothes from 0-6 months though, even if didn't particularly enjoy that period with my 2. I think once our first started sleeping in own room and dropped the dream feed is when we started having more regular DTD tbh, so defo at least 6.5 months. She was a better eater so think the dream feed is here to stay for a while longer with this one.

@Ihatewinding stitches that took up to 5 months to heal properly! And yes BF! Keeping at it and we'll get there 😂

6.5 months.... insane sleep regression. Waking every hour, hysterically crying and immediately settling in our arms or on our bed. Happily sleeps next to me but just won't in the crib for longer than an hour.
A stark contract as she's always slept decently with 1-2 wakes normally.

Hoping this doesn't last long because it's exhausting!! Especially as I don't really want to end up bedsharing 🥲

@msp2023 ouch, that sounds really tough 😳assuming you've sought medical advice but have they mentioned about doing scar tissue massage? Like antenatal perineal massage, using an oil like olive or almond (allergies allowing) and trying to soften the area? Breastfeeding can contribute to dryness so lube will help. And tmi but I find using plain condoms helps with the glide so to speak, when used ribbed etc ones there was more chaffing on the scarred area, and they are lubricated as well so extra help there. Lastly avoid missionary initially if your scars are towards your bum as that will put more pressure on area so on top and doggy may work better - I've not done missionary yet for this reason. It defo gets better after the first couple of times I think as stretching out the scar tissue.

Shit sleep defo doesn't help, maybe try a dose of calpol if keeps up as could be teething? I can't wait for 2 naps, becomes much more predictable then! And when sleep properly consolidated and my first started sleeping through so hoping for the same, or earlier I wouldn't mind haha 😂

Does anyone else's little one not really play in the bath? He has lots of toys but seems unbothered by them so bath times are really quick. Is that normal for 6 months? Unsure when they really enjoy bath times or if it should be about now is there any tips to help get him having more fun in the bath?! 🙂

My little boy has only just started splashing in the bath and is more interested in eating the sponge and gets very upset if I take it off him… 🫠🤣

My little rascal hurt himself pulling up on the side of the cot while I was washing my hands, he was unsupervised for literally 30 seconds, so I guess I'm lowering his cot tomorrow 😭

He's only been splashing in the bath the last 3 or 4 times but the splashes are getting so intense every time! 🤣

Naps are currently going well on his cot 😀
I got emotional the first time I put him in it 🙈

Is anyone doing 2 tastes a day or meals yet?

I can't really say it's just tastes for me when he has 10-20 spoons each time and that's a veg pouch then a fruit 1

@msp2023 hang on in there! My boy is 7 months this week and went through a regression just after 6 months. He went from 1 wake up a night to waking every 90 minutes and naps went to shit too. I hadn't even heard of the 6 month regression I was just in tears to my mum that he was never going to sleep again. It lasted just over a week and he's pretty much back to normal now. It was harrrrrrd though.

@ProudMummyxo we use the angel care bath seat. Sometimes he has a little kick about but he doesn't really play. Mostly he sits there all zen like a little Buddah waiting for his servants to wash him 😂

Following on from the chat about having another, I'm definitely not broody. I really enjoy baby now, and tbh I liked the newborn stage too. I'm scared though about how I'm going to manage when I go back to work. How to have enough time for my little boy and take care of things at home :( I'd love to not go back to work and spend all my time with him but it's just not possible financially. Although I'd love to give my boy a sibling I can't even fathom chucking a second into the mix. Anyone else feel this?

@Ihatewinding thank you!! We're trying all methods available 😂 I'm sure we'll get there eventually.

@LavenderSweetPea thank you! We've ended up bed sharing for our sanity😩 she's now pretty much sleeping through but she squashes her face right into my body or the mattress and it's terrifying. Planning to transition straight into the big cot when the mattress arrives. Fingers crossed 🤞🏽

Hi all,

I’ve been a bit quite on here as I returned to work post maternity leave have it’s been a whirlwind. One of the downsides of being self- employed and trying to juggle everything. Our daughter is also going through a sleep regression and went from one wake ups a night to every 90 mins now and super fussy when she does wake up… I really hope it doesn’t last long because I’m exhausted.

Also the last few days I’ve been getting hot flashes, been really tired ( assuming due to the above), and my moods been up and down… I’m waiting till my period which is due in 5 days or so but these are pretty much the exact symptoms I had when I was pregnant last time so fingers crossed because we are hoping to have one more! 🙏🏿🥰

@Ebonythoughts sympathies with the sleep situation! It's absolutely torturous!

Ooooh, fingers and toes crossed for you darling 🤞🏽🤞🏽💗💗

@Ebonythoughts keeping my fingers crossed for you!!!

I would also really like to have another baby but I still feel like there's much to recover from after pregnancy and birth. We've barely had sex 3 times since birth, I also find it painful even with lube. tmi but I feel tight and loose at the same time (!?) like I feel the way I've been stitched up(I had 2nd degree tears only though)? It is true I've been bad at my pelvic floor exercises, as I find them so unrewarding and like a mental torture; however I do I feel like I've lost so much of my womanhood since birth, as I do not feel pleasure even if I try to work it out myself. Libido is with minus degrees if that's possible. It might also be that I'm still BF a lot and my period hasn't started yet.

On more positive news, my little one is sitting independently and I've been putting her on the potty when changing her nappies, just to get her used to it. And lo and behold she 💩 !! It happened 4 times in a row this week, and not in the nappies! I'm just so happy because we're using reusables and this eases my job so much. Also she's been a bit constipated after starting solids bless her, perhaps the position makes it easier for her. It's so incredible that I didn't do anything much really, just put her there for a few minutes twice a day (or when she wakes up) and it seems she really likes it!! I hope she develops a reflex to go when placed on the potty 🥹 just wanted to share as it's crazy I thought I'd have to convince her or take so long before anything would happen on the potty!

@novamama What's the reason for being on a potty at 6 month?
Is it even recommended?

Sorry no offensive intended but I've just never heard of it.
What happens when out of the house and she needs to go?

@Sunshineclouds11 she poops more easily as it turns out, and saving diapers.

She's still in diapers, she doesn't know to tell me to go or hold anything, and she won't for at least one year, but for the above reasons I'm happy to put her on the potty now and then. It's only 4 minutes a day in total after all.

Rinsing out a potty and giving baby's bum a wipe sounds way better than the caked in poo we've got going on here, I'll have to think about starting that soon.

My little boy sleeps in a bassinet for naps during the day but he knows how to stand up in it now so that's the end of that. 😢

He just started sitting unsupported yesterday, the whole family is so excited! 😊

Exhibit A 😵‍💫

I’ve put my baby on a potty since birth (it’s called elimination communication) and have done it with all three of my children. I love it!

My little one is crawling and sometimes pulls herself up. I’m hoping she starts sleeping for longer stretches than 45 minutes once she has mastered these skills.

I'm still BF and not really enjoying it but feel quite stuck. She has CMPA so I’m dairy free and soya free. There is no chance she would take a CMPA formula and she doesn’t drink milk from a bottle anyway.

My libido is also not going well which has never happened to me before, even when breastfeeding. I’m just not interested. I’d love to get my periods back and a bit more of myself back