Due May 2024? Part 3

[Sa11yCinnamon]

Just kicking off a new thread, hoping no one else does it at the same time!

@Athena1984 hope all is ok, keep us posted xx

I was like this if I slightly overdid it until I was about 6/7 weeks I'd say. I'm 8 weeks now and only just feeling normal I'd say. Obviously let your doc know if concerned but I had a few episodes like that and was told it was absolutely normal.

It's so tough! She's just squirming around and groaning constantly. She's never slept more than 2 hours solid because of it which is really starting to take its toll at 8 weeks! We've been prescribed omaprazole but are finding administering it a total nightmare. Did your son take any meds? Any advice!?

Yes it's crazy how time flies! Just took DD to have her first vaccines! Calpol and cuddles now 🥹 Not looking forward to the fever as I know it will freak me out - looking forward to 48 hours from now 🙏

@newbie12345678 I've got Daughter's vaccines tomorrow and I'm dreading it.
I hope your DD is ok, wishing the next 48hours to go quick for you. Enjoy the extra cuddles.

@newbie12345678 We tried Gaviscon prescribed by the GP but it made things worse. Infacol helped a little bit as did changing him to a thicker formula. Other than that we just had to wait it out :(

Can’t believe my baby is a month old already but it also feels like she’s been here forever!

We’ve been on nutramigen formula since Saturday for her CMPA allergy and she’s doing so much better with it! Still quite refluxy though but we have a GP appointment on Friday so will see if we’re able to get anything for that.

We went to our first baby class today and it was really nice. There’s 6 of us that live quite close together so we’ve got our own WhatsApp group now and there’s one for the whole class too. She did really well but then had a huge poonami afterwards and got it on her brand new white dungarees 😂

@SarahB88 can i ask how the cmpa was presenting for your little one? Super curious as it has been floated that mine might have it too. She is getting pretty upset after most feeds and seems uncomfortable a lot of the time especially when pooping!

@junebuglb she had severe constipation, it’s more common to have loose stools with it but constipation is also a symptom. When she would poop it was very hard and small. She was also really wheezy and had a little rash on her face. She was having the most horrific painful trapped wind as well poor thing. Really swollen and bloated tummy. And she’s very colicky but she still is a bit.

Shes doing so much better now but like I say I think she’s also got reflux as there’s still some symptoms ongoing that could suggest reflux but I’ll see what the doctor says on Friday. Apparently it’s fairly common to have both.

We tried her on comfort formula first to see if that helped and it did to some extent but not enough to say there was an improvement so next step was the allergy friendly formula.

@SarahB88 thankyou this is super helpful! My little one definitely isn’t constipated looking at her nappies, but i wonder if it’s gone the other way with her, it’s hard to tell as she is on expressed breast milk so the poop is always quite loose and runny! But she really seems to have a hard time pooping and will often strain and cry bless her.

She doesn’t have a rash or wheezing but also has a really tough time with trapped wind and reflux and often cries about 10 mins after feeding. She can’t be laid flat until around 80-90mins after a feed and even then will often spit some back up. She’s really ramped up the crying this week and hard to tell what’s just normal crying and what’s due to being in pain!

What i find strange is that we’re on week 8/9 now (4-5 adjusted) and she didn’t seem
to have these issues as badly or at all during the first few weeks. I don’t think my diet has massively changed and also she is having a mix of fresh and frozen milk from a few weeks back anyway.

I have a call with the nutritionist today so will see what she says about what to try next. As much as I would prefer not to medicate her I’m pretty keen now to just try anything to get her more comfortable!

@junebuglb check the colour of her poop, if it’s really dark or has blood or mucous in it then it’s likely to be CMPA. If she’s not rashy or wheezy though I’m not sure it’s an allergy but I am absolutely not an expert!! She could have bad GERD and need baby gaviscon and omeprazole. You can get additives to make the breast milk thicker so there’s less chance of it coming up as well which might help. They do specially reflux formulas but I didn’t want to put my baby on that as I thought the the constipation was causing her more bother but I’ll see what the GP says tomorrow as maybe there’s something I can add to her nutramigen.

My one is 5 weeks tomorrow and her symptoms started about 2 weeks old but I believe these things can come on whenever. Her dads CMPA certainly didn’t show until he was a couple of months old according to his mum.

Hello all hope you're all recovering well! Our daughter Bridie was born on 05th June and we are so in love with her! I was wondering if anyone had any experience of complications after an episiotomy? I still feel quite uncomfortable and had a look with a mirror tonight and worried that it looks as though the wound is breaking down. Sorry about the TMI, left a vm with the midwife but don't think I could face any invasive interventions at this stage 😫😫 xxx

@Nelliepledge Oh I love that name! Another one of many that husband vetoed 😂 Congratulations!

Sorry about your episiotomy :( Mine took about a month to heal properly and even then I had aching scars for a while.

@Nelliepledge congratulations! I had an episiotomy with my first and it did take about 6 weeks to feel normal again. I had trouble sitting down etc. One of my scars did break down between 1-2 weeks and I had to go to the GP and get antibiotics. Then it really improved and was fine. I had to practically beg the midwife to check it though so make sure you get someone to look at it for you. Regular paracetamol and ibuprofen helps and I took senna and lactulose to help with bowel motions as I was on iron. Hope it feels better soon x

Thanks for your reply! Went to gp today and sadly my story sounds like it's going the same way as yours, wound has broken down so on antibiotics and hoping it will start to feel better now! Xxx

Just wondering if anyone else has a baby that has or had sticky eye? Mine has had it since birth and every time I clean it it comes back pretty quickly. It looks quite bad if we go a while without cleaning it. Midwives have said it clears on its own but when I googled online I saw that that can take months or even over a year.

@PeppedUp not going through it but the midwife did say that if it happen then you could wipe breastmilk then it should clear up really quickly. Not sure if you’ve got any that you could use.

@PeppedUp my 2 week old has sticky eyes, like you we just have to keep wiping it and his eyes have got stuck together a few times.

How is everyone doing?

I'm really struggling today. I can't really put my finger on anything specific, just tired and overwhelmed and not really feeling like me. Then feeling guilty because my wee guy is so beautiful. I know it's all normal and temporary but that doesn't really help just now!

Hope you're okay lovely. You're doing so amazing, treat yourself with as much grace as you would treat any mam in this group. Is there anyone you can lean on for help today? I had a bad mental health day yesterday but felt better after a rest xx

@Nelliepledge my partner is being lovely but he's got a virus so not doing a whole lot better than me. My sister is coming round tomorrow so that will definitely help! And I had a nice sunny walk with the baby.

@Mountainview8 yes we’ve had a few times when they have stuck together. It can also get on clothes etc. I really hope it goes soon.

@SarahB88 weve tried breast milk but it doesn’t seem to be working ☹️

@Sa11yCinnamon sorry to hear you’re having a rough day. I’ve been a bit cranky with my partner today because he did three hours of exercise this morning after I’d had a particularly bad night and I just wish he’d stayed with me and helped me out more. I find most of my mental health wobbles are related to similar situations where I’m feeling particularly drained and not getting the support I need.

@Sa11yCinnamon You’re doing an amazing job! Try to get out for a walk with the pram if you can, I find that really helps my mental health.

We’re still not sleeping fully in the next to me and needing to be held a lot. Also still going through some processes to see what we can do for this CMPA and trying to figure out if she had reflux or if allergy symptoms are persisting.

@PeppedUp I snapped yesterday because I'd told my partner I really wanted a nap and a bit more time to myself. I slept for half an hour then had to get up to feed the baby, and he (partner) then slept for two hours. To give him credit he's had the baby loads more today and done lots round the house too. I probably need to ask for help/say how I feel more, I think I tend to just suck it up.

@SarahB88 thank you, I took him out for a walk in the sling which definitely helped!

Really hope you get to the bottom of the allergy stuff, it must be so stressful x

@Sa11yCinnamon be kind to yourself, it can be a real struggle sometimes and it’s completely normal to feel like this. But do keep an eye on it and if you feel like you are struggling more and more and it doesn’t get any better then you may need to talk to somebody. I think something people underestimate is the huge strain your relationship goes under when you have a baby. However supportive your partner is, the woman takes the brunt of the childcare and it can feel very isolating. We are on our third child now and she is a Velcro baby! And I find myself having to ask my husband to take her just so I can have a wee! And I’m up doing all the nights and letting him sleep before work so it’s hard not to feel resentful at times.

The best thing you can do is to communicate how you are feeling and what he can do to help more. Try and get a break if you can, even if it’s a nap or a short walk or a cup of tea in peace. And take a deep breath, the newborn stage is overwhelming and nothing can prepare you for how you feel. And keep talking on here as we are all in the same boat!