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Your husband must be disappointed, poor man having 3 daughters, mums of 3 girls come cheer me up

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sweetkitty · 19/03/2008 20:40

Right I knew it would happen but I'm 24 weeks pregnant with DD3, now we are happy to be having another DD, we have 2 already they are great, a boy would have been great too but we are both getting seriously annoyed with the comments about DD3 not being DS1.

So far have had

your husband must be disappointed
poor man 3 teenage girls
did you not want a boy
are you going to keep trying until you get a boy then
well a healthy baby is all that matters
at least you won't need much

I'm getting a bit maybe it's the hormones getting the better of me but this is my daughter are we supposed to feel disappointed as she is unfortunate to be no3, I will feel the same about her as no1?

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moondog · 19/03/2008 20:41

God how bloody rude.
I'm one of 3 gilrs and my parents said they got the saem.
My father has loved being suppounded by women his entire life.

TheApprentice · 19/03/2008 20:41

How terrible, I think those comments are so rude! Why would you all not be delighted to be having another girl?

Congratulations btw

Oliveoil · 19/03/2008 20:43

someone once said to dh that he was pleased his second grandchild was a boy as "who wants two girls eh, everyone needs a boy?"

I mean, helloooooooooooooooo, the man knew that we had 2 girls

tossers

theboob · 19/03/2008 20:44

just think of it this way ,your dh will walk his little girl up the isle 3 times and be the happiest dad on the planet

WanderingTrolley · 19/03/2008 20:44

Henceforth tell people Hurray! It's another girl! We're so pleased.

Only the very gittist will say Oh dear.

Or you could say indignantly, before anyone has time to comment, I'm soooo annoyed with all these stupid people coming out with crap like oh dear another girl. I know you'd never be that fuckwitted...

People are bloody rude. Having three the same is great - congrats on dd3

motherinferior · 19/03/2008 20:45

I think three girls sounds utterly marvellous, actually.

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sweetkitty · 19/03/2008 20:46

The fecking window cleaner noticed I was pregnant and said "this one had better be a boy then?" to which I replied "oh no how could I ever be disappointed with one like that (DD2)" he then said he was lucky enough to have had one of each like it's some sort of goal and the rest of us who can't achieve it are so unlucky (my Mother also thinks this but thats a whole new thread).

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hazygirl · 19/03/2008 20:46

congratulations x

dizzychixies · 19/03/2008 20:47

ah sweetkitty, thats sooooo mean of them. as you know we have 2 dd already and goodness knows what this one will be but am also fed up of people asking if we're doing this just to try to get a boy?!?!?

WTF? we don't miss out on anything and our girls are great, my dh adores them and vice versa, he'll no doubt teach them all about rugby and drinking just the same as he would if they were boys

only difference is he'll be sitting on the porch with a shotgun when the boys come knocking!!

ignore them and just concentrate on picking a name

iamdingdong · 19/03/2008 20:47

congratulations we have twin girls and people say similar to DH, but he loves it (although has suggested he may need a shed in a few years' time )

chankins · 19/03/2008 20:48

My mum had three girls in a row, then a boy last, and she said the constant 'o at last a boy' 'you got your boy at last' 'now you can stop' nearly drove her insane, as she would have been just as happy with four girls. I had two dds in a row and when I was pg the third time I got so sick of people saying 'o I bet you hope it s boy''won't it be lovely if its a boy'. I know its well meaning, but really, how annoying !I actually started hoping the third baby was a girl just to annoy them all and shut them all up. But I had ds, and was thrilled to bits. Now people keep asking me so is it different having a boy ? I bet you love having a boyt now. I keep saying he is lovely because he is him, he would be just as lovely, and exactly the same person if he was a girl, and of course adored just as much as he is.
Many many congrats on your third dd, I think its lovely x

harpsichordcarrier · 19/03/2008 20:49

haha I will give you my mum's phone number - she has 5 daughters! what a failure she is
I am the fifth and lordy lord the times I heard this kind of bolleaux "oh were they trying for a boy"
my mum also does an impression that goes something like: "one of eeeeeeeeeach!"
nonsense, actually - and none of their freaking business.
anyway. three girls is great. congratulations!

HonorMatopoeia · 19/03/2008 20:50

We only have 2 Dd's sweetkitty but I know exactly what you mean. I was really suprised by the amount of people (and type of people, somehow thought this was a view held only by the old!)who told me I must be disappointed to be having another Dd. So many times I was told that I could always try again as if dd2 didn't matter as she was somehow a duplicate. I'm afraid I never came up with a suitable comment to stop them in their tracks though.
Enjoy Dd3

dustyeastar · 19/03/2008 20:51

Well I don't have 3 girls but was one of 3 and my Dad was quite happy. He says he has a really vived memory of when me and my second sister were about 10 and 8 and we were in the forest. There was a big tree that 2 boys of about 12 or 13 were struggling to climb and we both scrambled up with no rpoblems at all. My Dad stood at the bottom full of pride for his girls.

jennifersofia · 19/03/2008 20:51

My neighbour is praying for us that it turns out to be a boy, even though I have broken it to him that the scan said girl. I live and work in a predominately muslim community, and when I have told many of the women, they often say, 'Oh well, never mind" or "maybe next time", but then they also go on to tell me how much easier girls are than boys! I just think it is funny.

hotpotmama · 19/03/2008 20:52

I have had the same except the opposite way round, have got 2 DS's and no 3 on the way. Don't know what sex the baby is yet but not stopped all the comments that can drive you up the wall.

As if you will be anything other than on cloud nine when your little baby arrives!

3 matching is cool by me and if its not 3 matching then thats also cool!

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sweetkitty · 19/03/2008 20:53

dizzy - I thought that was you namechanging to confuse me - when have you got your scan? We are about 98% certain on the name now

DP has already got his sights on a nice shed although in DD2 he has a girl who's more like a boy that most boys I know.

Oh I also have been told that maybe the one I lost was a boy and I can't carry boys. I'm bloody lucky to carry any babies at all and that they are born healthy.

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misdee · 19/03/2008 20:54

i have 3 dd's and now pregnent with dc#4. i know when i make it known that i am expecting iwill get a lot of 'are you hoping for a boy' 'des dh mind if you have another girl etc etc'.

i love having three girls, there is something magical about sisters, especially with 3 or more.

dh was asked if he was disappointed that dd3 was girl. he said no, because no-one can be a smiley as his little girl and how could be disappointed?

CatIsSleepy · 19/03/2008 20:54

congrats on your third girl!
am the youngest of 4 daughters-am sure my parents probably had to put up with this kind of crap too....

BibiThree · 19/03/2008 20:55

Snap! When I was pg with the dts (both girls) we already had dd1, we announced at a family get together that they dts were girls ... and dd's aunt came out with "never mind, you can try again for a boy!"

We get it all the time - even MIL asked me if dh was happy with more girls - wtf? He was over the bloody moon and is a proud father of 3 beauties

Silly, silly people. You wont' ever get used to it, but you will stop caring about their comments, honest.

conniedescending · 19/03/2008 20:56

I have 4 and my first 3 were girls....I was thrilled to have 3 girls and not phased at all. Comments are irritating but just ignore them! Was very thrown by DS1.....thought he would be dd4 and we got/ get even more comments about how we 'kept going' until we got our son.

Someone linked me this article when I had my 3 girls and I rather liked it.

dizzychixies · 19/03/2008 20:56

sorry kitty - tis my easter effort!! had a scan on wed and they seem a bit happier now bleeding has stopped and don't want to see me again until 28wks unless something happens inbetween

I feel the same about our dd2, she is more like a boy than a lot of the ones we know too!

am I allowed to ask the name or is it a secret for big announcement?!?

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CarGirl · 19/03/2008 20:57

we have 4 dds and I am quite happy, I really never wanted any boys at all!!!! Just think I haven't had to do cars or thomas the tank in a big way - I am so relieved.

If dc4 had been a boy I think I would have panicked I feel more confident with girls??? Also small houses and different sexes would have been harder - diff toys, room sharing, not being able to pass on clothes.

Plus you never loose you daughter but when a son gets married..................

PotPourri · 19/03/2008 20:59

Congrats!

I'm one of 5 girls. EVERYONE used to say, four sisters, no brothers? Your poor dad. And I learnt to say back, are you joking? 5 daddies girls, who could ask for more?

Am 34 weeks with DC3, got 2 girls already and if it's a girl - great. I like girls. Would be happy with a boy too. But have also had those comments about - you'll be hoping for a boy then? My mum told me to tell people "TBH, after giving birth you'd be over the moon with a rabbit if it was healthy!". Think that's what she said to people. She has told me that she wanted girls, would never have had 5 boys (although her mum liked boys better).

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