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Your husband must be disappointed, poor man having 3 daughters, mums of 3 girls come cheer me up

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sweetkitty · 19/03/2008 20:40

Right I knew it would happen but I'm 24 weeks pregnant with DD3, now we are happy to be having another DD, we have 2 already they are great, a boy would have been great too but we are both getting seriously annoyed with the comments about DD3 not being DS1.

So far have had

your husband must be disappointed
poor man 3 teenage girls
did you not want a boy
are you going to keep trying until you get a boy then
well a healthy baby is all that matters
at least you won't need much

I'm getting a bit maybe it's the hormones getting the better of me but this is my daughter are we supposed to feel disappointed as she is unfortunate to be no3, I will feel the same about her as no1?

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hatrick · 20/03/2008 10:55

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Beauregard · 20/03/2008 10:58

ffs some people are just plain stupid

When we found out we were expecting a dd2 we had lots of insensitive remarks such as "Oh well never mind" and "Oh i bet you are disapointed?" and "2 girls? oh well at least you will save money"

If we ever have a dc3 then we will find out the sex as we always have but would we tell anyone other than family? er no.

Fennel · 20/03/2008 10:59

I have 3 girls and would have chosen exactly that if I had been able to specify beforehand. I think it's ideal.

But DP is also perfectly happy with 3 girls. He teaches them electicity and woodwork and physics, he plays lego with them, he takes them sailing and kayaking. There isn't really anything he'd have done that was different if we had had boys.

SNOWBall4girlz · 20/03/2008 10:59

well I have 4 girls and we suffered the same comments both while pregnant and after dd4 was born.
I just ignored most of it.
My husband could not imagine having a boy now he is happy with is girls.

congratulations to you and to misdee too

SNOWBall4girlz · 20/03/2008 11:00

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Buda · 20/03/2008 11:10

I am the eldest of 4 girls (in fact my parents did have another but she died). My parents used to get these comments all the time. My mum wanted a boy more than my dad did funnily enough. Funny thing was he is the eldest and has 4 younger sisters! He is so used to being surrounded my women!

When we were growing up my parents' best friends lived at the top of our road and they had all boys! I remember jokes that they should swap houses so that we could get a boy and they could get a girl!

I was fifteen when my youngest sis was born and i remember dad getting me up in the morning to ring the hosp to find out how mum was and what she had (she had sent dad home) and the hosp porter told him he thought she had a boy. Then he came back on phone and said that it was actually a girl. I do remember my Dad saying "Another girl" - but of course she became a total Daddy's girl! Much more than the rest of us.

And now there are 6 grandchildren. 5 boys and 1 girl. And who is Grandad's little princess? She is def favoured! He says she reminds him of us when we were growing up.

bogwobbit · 20/03/2008 11:11

I have 3 girls (and 1 boy) and just wanted to say GIRLS ARE GREAT. (So are boys obviously ) It's lovely to see my dds getting on so well (when they do...not quite so nice seeing them when they are squabbling)
People are so incredibly stupid and insensitive in what they say. Ignore them.
Many congratulations on your pregnancy.

goingfor3 · 20/03/2008 11:27

Sweetkitty you are really lucky to have three girls. I thought until yesterday that baby was a girl but at the scan (30 weeks) she appeared to have rather large testicles! All I've magaged to tell people so far is that the baby doesn't appear to be a girl and when I took back some pink clothes today I couldn't bring myself to buy anything other than gender neutral replacements. I'm sure I'll get used to it but I loved the idea of having three girls.

Fennel · 20/03/2008 11:31

oh, Sweetkitty, looking again at the last line of your OP. I was totally surprised how absolutely special my dd3 was to me as a baby, despite being just a 3rd of the same. I adored dd3 as a baby and toddler, we had a very close bond, in fact I favoured her massively over her sisters and felt quite guilty at how strong my feelings for this 3rd girl were.

My feelings for her have calmed down lately, now she's a tantrummy 3 year old and my other two are relatively charming and cooperative 7 and 6 year olds. But I was really surprised just how special and unique a 3rd baby of the same sex can be.

ishouldbeironing · 20/03/2008 11:33

I have 3 girls and when I was pregnant with my twins my DH was praying for girls.
I am also one of 5 girls and its great.

vicsta · 20/03/2008 11:40

I hate this. Good friend has just had 2nd DD & has upset herself listening to comments like "Oh never mind, you can try again" or "Are you gutted its not a boy". How rude? Is 2nd DD worth less than a DS? More important is the perfectly healthy, gorgeous baby that she is. Anyone dare try this with me in the future and I shall be telling the narrow minded, socially incompetent half wits to fuckoff in no uncertain terms. The reverse happened in my family, I was the only daughter following 3 boys and poor mother was given permission by allsorts that "she could stop now". 3 Girls sounds lovely. You are very lucky.

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sweetkitty · 20/03/2008 12:12

Thanks for all your lovely messages I know 3 girls will be wonderful as would 3 boys have been. My mother even said to me after we found out DD2 was a DD "nevermind you can have a third!" like DD2 was a disappointment. I really cannot wait to have my girly gang all running amok. I think DP is getting pissed off more with all the "oh poor man 3 girls in the house comments" he is like "why are people feeling sorry for me?" We are telling everyone the sex of the baby as we are delighted and why hide it?

goingfor3 - congrats on your boy I'm sure once he is born you will be thinking "why did I ever want a girl, he's so great?"

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PaulaYatesBiggestFan · 20/03/2008 12:14

its the same all round
i have 4 boys and the comments now ( pg ) are neverending
even well meaning people ...
fwiw that rhyme about a son being your darling till he takes a wife always haunts me and you wont have that SweetKitty!

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sweetkitty · 20/03/2008 12:22

hey Paula we can always swap in July as if!

Maybe if it's all girls, the husband gets the oh poor you, all boys the wife gets it instead. One of each and you are really lucky but you aren't allowed to have anymore why would you?

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MrsTittleMouse · 20/03/2008 12:26

My God but people are rude! You can tell them that my DH would be thrilled to have 3 DDs. So far we have one, and he is completely in love with her (the feeling is mutual). Not much chance of us having three though, as we're pretty sure that this will be my last pregnancy. Unless I'm having twins, but I probably shouldn't joke about that.

castille · 20/03/2008 12:39

When I was pg with DC3 (after 2 girls) my grandmother-in-law instructed me to "make sure this one has a little tap"

(like it was down to me)

But my ILs were vociferous in their disappointment when DD2 was a girl, so I expected nothing else

castille · 20/03/2008 12:41

We had a boy, BTW, so we got all the "oh, that's a relief" and "DH must be overjoyed", "no need to have a 4th now" comments

We were furious (with them, not our fabby DS)

easternalstudent · 20/03/2008 12:50

People just chat shit without realising they're being offensive.

My brother came along after 3 girls for my parents, they STILL get comments!

M&D used to come back with 'yes, we're trying for a netball team'.

Especially when my sister and I got married within 6 months of each other! Crumpled face of sympathy for my dad's wallet.

mom2latinoboys · 20/03/2008 12:53

I think it's great. Your husband should be so happy because for the rest of his girls' lives he will be the man that they compare all others to.

Besides what can't he do with girls that he could do with a boy. My dad made sure that he took my sister and I fishing, taught us sports, and also made us cut the grass and chop firewood.

Your dh will also get the honor of walking his girls down the aisle when they get married. Can't do that with boys.

oliviaelanasmum · 20/03/2008 12:55

Hi, we have 3dd's and im pregnant again, everyone keeps asking if we are keeping going until we have a boy! Im rather hoping it will be another girl as we already have everthing in pink!

kingy7 · 20/03/2008 12:55

HI there i know how you feel me and my partner have 4 girls and 1 boy and im currently 20wks pregnant and all my friends say OH!!! its gonna be another girl,we would love to have a boy but as long as its healthy we r not fussed but find out on tues 25th at my 20wk scan what sex it is?

EEC · 20/03/2008 13:41

I'm one of 4 girls and I love it. People still make comments about my poor Dad even now!

It's fab being one of all girls. I love having lots of sisters.

micegg · 20/03/2008 15:08

What f**k wits.

I am expecting DC2. Part of the reason we didnt find out the sex was because this would have peed me of during my pregnancy. I am sure I will get the 'are you disapointed?' comments from said twats if this one is also a girl but I already have some answers prepared.

SlipOfTheTongue · 20/03/2008 16:08

I have 2 girls, and when pregnant with the second people felt the need to make those comments. I have 2 younger brothers that I'm not especially close to, so I love to think that my girls will always have sisters around them. I always felt I could say what I thought to family etc but what really p*d me off was strangers saying things - women on tills in shops, at the bus stop and so on - it's so bloody rude to think that the new baby would be a disappointment! I'd love to have another baby (and would be thrilled to have another girl!), and I just know the comments will be even worse so I'm looking for some great replies on here that I can come back with!

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