Your husband must be disappointed, poor man having 3 daughters, mums of 3 girls come cheer me up

[sweetkitty]

Right I knew it would happen but I'm 24 weeks pregnant with DD3, now we are happy to be having another DD, we have 2 already they are great, a boy would have been great too but we are both getting seriously annoyed with the comments about DD3 not being DS1.

So far have had

• your husband must be disappointed
• poor man 3 teenage girls
• did you not want a boy
• are you going to keep trying until you get a boy then
• well a healthy baby is all that matters
• at least you won't need much

I'm getting a bit maybe it's the hormones getting the better of me but this is my daughter are we supposed to feel disappointed as she is unfortunate to be no3, I will feel the same about her as no1?

I always dreamt, when I was wee, I would have 4 girls, am not particularly fond of many of the boys I know - am fully aware of how awful that sounds but I can't help it sorry.

as for passing stuff down, dd2 has had a lot of dd1's stuff but both of mine are very hard on their clothes and shoes and there is only so far george from asda and tesco's clothing can go

misdee pregnant - how did I not know that. Congrats.

Kitty - when our dd3 was born we had all those comments and I just ignored it. Our lovely neighbour however told dh it takes a real man to father three girls. I always say why would dh mind - he had three little girls who are the biggest daddy girls and worship the ground he walks on.

You will feel the same about dd3 as you do about dd3 - she will be a delightful personality in her own right and you will adore her.

Oh FFS, how crass and rude. I am expecting this in reverse if/when we have number 3 (2 dses already). I love the idea of three of the same, actually, and don't really get the 'one of each' thing.

When I was pg with ds2 I distinctly remember someone's grin freezing when they asked 'boy or girl?' and I said 'boy'. The pause before 'oh, how nice' was just a little bit too long. I just had a scathing smile to myself as I was, and am, so utterly delighted with my 2 boys.

thanks but I'll never get to be evil MIL from hell to a DIL

dizzy - very little passing down clothes here either especially from DD2.

on hearing about dd2 my MOTHER said to dh "well at least you'll be taken care of in your old age". i can only assume she was joking.

personally i can cope with anything except "as long as it's healthy.." like being a female is a close call with disability. racist, misogynist, and incredibly hurtful.

what can you do- people are stupid!

My sister has 3 girls and her husband is crazy about all of them. And my step dad, who has 2 daughters of his own and 5 grandaughters, has always wanted girls, as he thinks boys are too much trouble. He doesn't think you can cuddle boys

In totally the same boat SK with 2DD's, although we don't yet know the sex of DB3 ... will be finding out on Tuesday and cannot wait !!!

I've had all of those comments already - I am just ignoring them completely, even if I come across as rude, I don't care.
Some people are unbelievable but I do think some people don't really how their comments are taken

I'm one of 5 girls. My parents wanted a big family and were over the moon with all girls. My mum was only bothered about the youngest being a girl becuase if she had been a boy mu mum felt it would have been so horrible for him to be hen pecked by 4 older sisters that she would have had another one.
My youngest sister is 24 and people still make comments to the 5 of us and to my parents.

A healthy baby is a blessing. Lots of sisters is amazing, crazy but amazing!

Congratulations

I am a mother of 3 DDs, and very proud of them too!

DH thinks they are all fab, has never once wished he had a son (plus he is the last live male in his family, so when he dies and we haven't had any boys its the end of his family name!)

DH still takes them out bike riding, to the park to kick a ball around.

My eldest DD will not talk private things to him, only me.

We get really fed up with people asking if we are disappointed with not having a boy - we take all of a nano second and reply NOPE! We certainly will not be trying for number 4 if if we were told it would definately be a boy.

Oh I have 3 girls and have heard all those comments before and more!

We adore having 3 girls - it has saved us a fortune as everything gets passed down (much more environmentally friendly LOL) and I love the idea of my girls having sisters (I just have brothers).

My DH does admit that when they are going through puberty and I am menopausal he will build himself a garage with Sky TV, a beer fridge and a lock on the door so he can escape but in reality he is smitten with his girls and probably wouldn't know what to do with a son (and he is a really blokey bloke!).

Enjoy them, 3 girls is just great

Arghhh, it's soooo irritiating isn't it?

I'm in a slightly different position in that I am 31 weeks pg with DC3 who will be our DS1.

I'm getting incresingly irritated (to say the least) with

Oh you must be so pleased it is a boy at last
Your DH must be so pleased
Were you going to keep going until you got a DS?
etc etc etc

I'm starting to get more rude in my responses. I wasn't planning on telling anyone what sex we were having but that was all we were asked since we have 2DDs. 'Do you know what it is yet?' 'Yes, it's a baby '. Then we'd get 'Oh well, you never know, you might get lucky and have a boy this time' wtf??? . So I ended up saying, well it is and we realy didnt care either way. Which is met with - 'oh you must have secretly wanted a boy, your poor DH wouldn't want a houseful of girls...'

Well, my DH would have been more than happy with a houseful of girls, he loves his daughters but is now happy enough knowing he will not be the only man in my life after all .

Good luck with your pregnancy, I prescribe a barrage of insults to be thrown in the general direction of all stupid comments as required. Blame the hormones. Whatever you say won't sink in, people will always say silly things like this so enjoy the opportunity to be incredibly rude

we have 3 girls and dh loves them to bits
he was never bothered about not having a boy....we just wannted healthy children
He does occasionally make a joke about how much 3 weddings are going to cost though

sweetkitty, honestly, I am expecting ds4 and the commments are far worse than that. I could almost hug anyone who says "Lovely!" when I tell them about all my boys but they are few and far between!
Really didn't know people got the same reaction with girls!

You have my sympathies. People can be such arses. I'm expecting dd3 in a week or so's time (okay, nearer two, but wishing it won't be that long), and dp has a girl too from prev rel, so it will be our fourth between us. And I really DON'T CARE. I do know that dp would have liked a boy, but when we found out at the scan it took him all of a couple of hours to be over it. I think it's something quite special really, to have all the same sex.

BUT, we haven't told anyone the sex, cos I just knew we'd get all the rude comments (from my mother mainly!!). I'm hoping that once it's here, people won't dare be as rude. Just let them try .

my db has 3 girls and they are all so adorable!
I now have a dd and it is fab - every few months my SIL gives me a new bag of clothes - it is like Christmas!
I can't wait for when dd is older and her big girl cousins will show her the ropes!
PS even db's cat is female!

I am one of three sisters. We think it is wicked.

A friend of mine is having her third baby in the next few weeks, it will be her third girl, all of them will be under three when this ones arrives. The only thing she laughs about is that they'll all be hitting puberty around the same time, and prayin she doesn't hit menopause at the same time

Congratulations on your girls

one of my husband's work colleagues has 3 boys and has recently had her 4th one. He was a lovely late 'surprise' baby as her youngest at that point was nearly 7yrs old.

She spent her whole pregancy saying she was hoping for a boy as she didn't think she could stand all the 'I bet you are glad it was a girl' type comments. She had never felt the lack of having a girl but couldn't get some people to believe her.

I think it is incredible rude of people to comment on the gender of your children at all.

On the other side of things I have a dd and ds and have received a lot of comments such as "well aren't you clever"; "you must have done something good in a former life"; "boy and a girl how well planned" etc etc

Each time people say it, I am quite literally speechless, at the implication that two of the same sex aren't somehow as desired. Having come from an all girl family I think they are fab

• your husband must be disappointed - yep had this!
• poor man 3 teenage girls - yep had this!
• did you not want a boy - yep had this!
• are you going to keep trying until you get a boy then - yep had this!
• well a healthy baby is all that matters - yep had this!
• at least you won't need much - yep had this!

plus the comment that was enough to send me over the edge - "aww never mind" WTF???!!!!

Do you know what, as mum to 3 adorable, beautiful, fantastic girls, I can categorically tell you that its GREAT!

There is something very special (can't quite put my finger on it) about 3 same-sex siblings ...it really is fab!

3 gorgeous girlies lucky you

Enjoy them ...and huuuuuuuuuge congrats!

what a load of old tosh.

I have 3 boys but got similar comments - ar you going to try for your girl now? etc etc. A friend of MIL acyually said (to me - about 2 weeks ater DS3 was born) "What a shame it wasn't a girl....."

People are sooo rude and ignorant it really make me mad!!!!

We have 1 DD and am 23 wk preg with twin girls, all through IVF treatment. We are so thrilled to be having 2 more healthy babies that i haven't really given the boy/girl thing a thought ( must admitt though my DH did go a bit pale).

People know what we have been through - 6 attempts to get our family - and they still say "will you go again for a boy!!"

Congratulations sweetkitty! As the oldest of three girls, I can recommend it . We all get on brilliantly in a Little Women type way (without the sewing and the putting on plays of course - that's a bit much when we're all in our thirties ). I sometimes wonder if three girls didn't make our family more harmonious, rather than the youngest being treated differently in a sort of the "longed for boy" way

YANBU to be p*ssed off with such comments.

Actually, it was my paternal grandmother who made such horrid comments to my Mum when she was pregnant with my youngest sister. "Let's hope it is a girl for [Gryffin's Dad's]'s sake!". ha, I'd have pointed out it was th esperm that determines the sex, so she should speak to her XX chromosome son, before complaining to my Mum.

Grandma made it worse because my aunt (dad's sister) was pg at the same time - aunt had three boys, my mum and dad had three girls. I grew up listening to her sigh and lament about how unfortunate it was that my dad didn't have a son . I don't think he gave a sh*t and he was a rugby playing, golf mad bloke's bloke.

I have three girls and they couldn't be more different from each other as people. If I'd been lucky enough to have a fourth child I would have been delighted to have another girl. Try not to let the comments get to you - I got a lot of the trying for a boy type comments when pg with number three and always said I would be delighted with either. DH loves being a father of three girls. No reason for family name to die out either, our girls have our surnames hypenated and it is up to them to choose what surname to pass down to their own children.