At home medical abortion - 9 weeks 5 days

[JLF99]

Hi everyone,

I have recently had a medical abortion. I found out I was pregnant around the 7 week mark but due to Christmas and availability I was not able to have the abortion straight away.

I already have 2 children, and my main concerns were how I would cope, we have also undergone lots of change to our family life recently and I thought a new baby would add to this and make life even more of a struggle.

I wanted to ask all of you lovely people a few questions.

Firstly, is there anybody who has had a medical abortion at this gestation what would be willing to talk?

Secondly, if there is anybody who has had an abortion and felt that they regretted it instantly & wished they could turn the clock back?

And thirdly, to ask anybody who has experienced this how they deal with the grief / loss of the abortion?

I would also like to add, that if anybody feels they are in a similar situation and would like any questions or concerns then I would be happy to support / answer,

Thank you very much

I can’t help with all your questions but I had a medical abortion at 12 weeks due to a missed miscarriage. It went fine, just a bit achy and crampy, heavy bleeding. Obviously it does take a mental toll but I kept myself busy.
I also had an early 6 week abortion a few years back as the pregnancy was not planned and I knew immediately it was not what I wanted to do with my life. I’ve never regretted it, on occasion I suppose (now having a daughter) I think how I could have had an 8 year old by now. But realistically it’s not something that weighs on my mind.
having had 2 miscarriages, although different, there is some grief about what might have been, but so early on, I don’t see these as children.