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Delayed bedroom for baby

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Jessie2024 · 30/12/2023 21:07

I am expecting my first baby in March, and my partner and I are planning on moving house in July, when our baby will be around three months old. Because of this, I have not created a nursery in this current house (I have a chest of drawers and a changing table for her in the spare bedroom, and her next to me crib in our room). She obviously won’t really need a nursery for first three months anyway, but I feel so awful and unorganised by not having one. I didn’t feel too bad about it, until I saw threads and forums about pregnant ladies putting their heart and souls into their baby’s nurseries. I’m sure I’m just being hormonal and overthinking it, but I will be fine without a nursery until we’ve moved house won’t I?

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bakewellbride · 30/12/2023 21:10

I know this isn't what u asked but is there no way u could move when the baby is a bit older? 3 months is very young and that will be very difficult/ stressful.

neleh87 · 30/12/2023 21:14

Your baby won't even need a nursery until 6 months at least! I'm sure you know baby shouldn't sleep on their own until then.

My DS is about to be 9 months and we've only just got his nursery sorted, due to moving house during the pregnancy.

Don't worry and congratulations!

Lilothblos · 30/12/2023 21:16

@Jessie2024 plenty of people move house with a baby, you shouldn’t feel guilty about it! The baby will be absolutely fine without. We’re currently doing house renovations, I’m due in less than 2 weeks and it’ll be a few months until the nursery is finished.

Honestly as long as the baby has somewhere safe, warm and dry to sleep it really doesn’t matter.

Starlightstarbright2 · 30/12/2023 21:19

I left my no exh when my Ds was 10 months old . I don’t think he had ever slept a full night in his nursery .

he came in with me when he was 15 months old he moved into his own room with a Thomas the tank bedroom .

no point wasting money .

Guibhyl · 30/12/2023 21:20

I’m pregnant with my third and she doesn’t even have a bedroom/nursery earmarked for her let alone having it all decorated and sorted! It’s completely unnecessary. She’ll stay in with us for at least 6-9 months and I’ve got a little set of drawers in there for her, that’s it. Once she’s bigger she’ll either move into the smallest bedroom and the two biggest ones will share (we live in a 3 bed house, no chance of moving any time soon!) or she will share with one of them and we’ll figure something out. I’m sure lots of women put their hearts and souls into planning and decorating their nurseries but it’s just not necessary.

sliceofapple · 30/12/2023 21:20

Yes, just do a nursery at the new house, no need for one at your current house. My sister moved with a 6 month old and the "nursery" in the old house was just the bedroom as it was before they had the baby with a cot in it. The baby gets no benefit at 3 months old from their nursery theme.

Plan it in your head for now and then decorate after you move. I hope the move goes smoothly and congratualtions on your pregnancy.

Cindy1802 · 30/12/2023 21:21

We moved house when baby was 2 months old, and his bedroom was used as a dumping ground for ages. He didn't move into it until about 7 months so we started decorating when he was 6 months.

We've just had our second baby and haven't even spoken about changing the spare bedroom over to be a bedroom for him, he won't need it for at least 6 months.

Don't feel bad!

Redcrayons · 30/12/2023 21:22

i set the nursery up long before my DTs arrived. Complete waste of time as we moved the cots into our bedroom as they slept in with us for six months. When they were ready to
move in, I realised that the furniture we bought wasn’t really what we needed and changed it all around. it looked nice in the photos.

do yourself a favour and unfollow all of the perfect Insta mums if it’s making you feel bad.

prescribingmum · 30/12/2023 21:23

We didn’t have a nursery for either of my children. DC1 moved into the guest bedroom just before I had DC2 and then we moved out to extend and renovate when they were 4 and 2, moving back in when 5 and 4.

They both had their own bedrooms for the first time when we moved back after renovations. I did occasionally feel it when I saw the lovely spaces others had set up for their babies but the reality was that it was far more practical having them and their things in my room when I was changing them in the night or rocking them to sleep. They have their own rooms now it matters and they want their own space, play in their rooms when friends come home etc

Youll look back and see it didn’t matter even though you sometimes feel it now

DuploTrain · 30/12/2023 21:24

My DS didn’t even enter his room until he was 6 months. We kept most of his clothes in our bedroom too as it was easier to have everything there to change him etc.

prescribingmum · 30/12/2023 21:24

Oh yes and we got to skip the baby furniture stage and first beds etc entirely saving all that money and hassle. They went straight to a normal bed and wardrobe (just designed with things at the right height for them)

PinkPlantCase · 30/12/2023 21:28

I think getting a baby’s bedroom ready in the way you describe is quite a PFB thing. There’s nothing wrong with it, I did the same with my first but DC2 is 6 weeks old and she doesn’t have a bedroom. We know she doesn’t need one until atleast 6 weeks.

Blue2020 · 30/12/2023 21:29

Our ds slept in our room until he had just turned 8 months old. We’ve only just set up a cot in the next room for him and he’s transitioned really well. He’s almost 9m old. The cot and some of his clothes are the only thing in the room of his. It was our storage room so it still has our clothes on a rail and a bookcase and a unit with bedding etc. so he doesn’t have a nursery. To be honest he only sleeps in it from 9pm until (hopefully) 7am and he doesn’t have naps in it so we don’t need anything else in there until he’s a toddler and wants his own dedicated space.

AmyandPhilipfan · 30/12/2023 21:32

I didn't bother with a nursery when pregnant as I knew the baby would sleep in my room. In actual fact she ended up sleeping in my bed more often than not but even if she had taken to her cot it would have been in my room. We had two older children living with us with their own rooms and a playroom and I knew we'd have to change the playroom into a room for someone eventually but I wasn't fussed while my daughter was a baby. And then we decided to move house anyway so just waited until we moved to give her a bedroom - when she was nearly 2 and a half. As a baby I had a little wardrobe for her clothes in my room and a changing table with nappies etc downstairs. Never regretted not having her own room.

Whataretheodds · 30/12/2023 21:35

I'm due in 4 weeks. I don't have a nursery. I've got a couple of boxes of stuff for the baby in the spare room which will be in a chest of drawers once I've rearranged some stuff. The cot will be in with us.

Friendfoe1 · 30/12/2023 21:36

My baby is 8 months and still has no nursery, we love having her in the room with us 😄

Hotgoose · 30/12/2023 21:37

The baby will be totally with the move and not having a nursery, they’re not in them much at that age really. As long as you’ve got a safe place for the baby to sleep in your room and somewhere else safe to put them downstairs you’ll be fine.

BurbageBrook · 30/12/2023 21:39

Honestly you don't need to worry at all! I didn't do a nursery for similar reasons. My baby is 5 months and sleeps in a side cot or our bed and it's perfectly fine! They shouldn't sleep alone before 6 months (at the minimum) anyway! Mine will probably share our room till she's one.

anothernamechangeagainsndagain · 30/12/2023 21:40

My dd1 never had a nursery because we lived in a one bed flat, we moved before dd2 was born and dd2 shared with dd1 once old enough

GreatBigYou · 30/12/2023 21:40

I don't think they even really notice their surroundings properly until well beyond a year, so you've got plenty of time.

You may well not move them from your room until about a year anyway.

Youthinkyoureuniqueyourejustastatistic · 30/12/2023 21:42

It’ll be fine - both things.
Just focus on baby and getting ready to move because everything takes longer with a baby. Lol.
i wouldnt also worry about getting many baby things until you move. Just the basics and get the other stuff like high chairs/bouncers etc or whatever after you’re moved. Xx

Santapaws3 · 30/12/2023 21:44

I think it’s fine, nurseries are more for the parents anyway I think - and I say that as someone who is currently decorating a nursery for baby due in March! I know he won’t care about it, it’s purely so we have a nicely decorated room whilst I still have the energy and somewhere to keep all his stuff. She will get more long term benefit if you have a bigger/better home.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 30/12/2023 21:50

DD1’s bedroom was all sorted before she was born and so was DD2’s. DD2’s wasn’t sorted until a few weeks before she was born because the room was being used as a storage space for plumbers’ tools in bathroom renovations. Neither of them slept in their rooms until they were 6mo but I liked having the space set up for changing and storing baby stuff.

DS is due in April and will be going in DD2’s nursery and she will be moving into DD1’s room. We’re taking the opportunity to give the girls’ room a redecorate with new carpets and paint. DD2 is only 3 so we want to move her into the shared room before DS is born so we have time to settle her and so she doesn’t feel ousted for him. Once we’ve finished their room (hopefully end of January), we’ll make the nursery suitable for a baby again - putting the side back on the cot, changing table, etc.

Doing all of that makes me feel better and will never be Instagram perfect but we wouldn’t be bothering if we were moving house with a 3mo. They’ll still be in your room and you’d just have to do the work twice.

Danikm151 · 30/12/2023 21:51

Baby needs to sleep in the same room as you until they’re 6 months so don’t stress about a nursery.
my son didn’t sleep in his own room until he was 8 months old and that’s because we moved from a 1 bed flat to a house at that age.
A nursery is just a bedroom, it’s not like in the Victorian era where children would spend all their time in there with the Nanny.

katienana · 30/12/2023 21:51

I didn't have one for either of mine for various reasons. It really doesn't matter, all you need is a space for their cot and somewhere to store clothes.
I do understand though, I felt like I was missing out by not having one. There's always something with parenting that you feel like you've messed up or can't quite manage that other people seem to do easily. The people with perfect nurseries will probably be jealous of your baby sleeping through or sitting up at 5 months or something. It really doesn't matter!

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