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Delayed bedroom for baby

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Jessie2024 · 30/12/2023 21:07

I am expecting my first baby in March, and my partner and I are planning on moving house in July, when our baby will be around three months old. Because of this, I have not created a nursery in this current house (I have a chest of drawers and a changing table for her in the spare bedroom, and her next to me crib in our room). She obviously won’t really need a nursery for first three months anyway, but I feel so awful and unorganised by not having one. I didn’t feel too bad about it, until I saw threads and forums about pregnant ladies putting their heart and souls into their baby’s nurseries. I’m sure I’m just being hormonal and overthinking it, but I will be fine without a nursery until we’ve moved house won’t I?

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Jessie2024 · 30/12/2023 21:52

@bakewellbride nope! And I don’t want to wait any longer! I’m young, and pretty good at dealing with stress, and I’m fully prepared for it to be stressful to move with a baby. It’s just the nursery issue I was worried about!

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FoleyHuck · 30/12/2023 21:56

Unavoidable circumstances mean that we'll be in our tiny one bedroom flat for at least a year with our baby. No nursery as the only bedroom is our bedroom (but I will put up a mobile and a shelf with some of the baby's things).

Not what I dreamt of when I thought of having a baby, but we can't sell our flat due to storm damage at the moment, and won't be able to get a bigger mortgage while I'm on mat leave, so it is what it is.

BuffaloCauliflower · 30/12/2023 21:57

My first didn’t have his own room till 14 months, and didn’t spend the night in there until 18 months. My second is about to be 1 and doesn’t have a bedroom, she just sleeps with me. They don’t need one that this age. The absolute minimum for them sleeping in their own room is 6 months, and a year is the best recommendation.

Don’t worry about the nursery, it’s just not necessary. Your baby may wake in the night for a year, 2 years is typical, don’t do traipsing around the house in the night if you don’t have to, keep them close so you can more easily resettle them and get more sleep yourself.

herbyham · 30/12/2023 21:57

I'm on my 3rd baby and none of them have had a nursery! I've made a up a lovely corner in our room for each of the two previous (yet to do for this baby) and made up a space for them of their own as they grow older and I know what they like more

apapuchi · 30/12/2023 21:57

Don't worry about it. My 2 year old is still in with us in a cot (one side removed) beside the bed. We are waiting to have the bigger bedroom divided into two which is starting in February. My older son has his own bedroom but we moved countries several times when he was a baby/toddler and he was often in with us for long stretches. They don't know and they love to be with you. The affect on parental sleep is probably the bigger issue I think 🤪

In many countries and cultures - and our own previously - families sleep in close quarters. Not saying this is ideal in all ways but it's definitely not damaging and it sounds like your little one will have their own space long before they ever understand the concept.. best of luck with the move!

110APiccadilly · 30/12/2023 21:59

We were undergoing house renovations which got slowed down due to COVID supply chain issues when I was expecting DD1. We didn't have a bed for us most of the time I was pregnant, just a mattress on the floor, let alone a nursery! It doesn't seem to have done her any harm. As long as you've got a safe sleep surface for baby, it's fine.

Hiddenvoice · 30/12/2023 22:01

I had my little girls room all set for her before she was born but she spent 9 months in our room and even now at almost , doesn’t spend that much time in her room other than to sleep.

Im also expecting my next baby in March and haven’t sorted anything. I‘m in no rush to do the room as I know they’ll mostly be with me.

Try not to worry, you’ve got the main things. No point decorating a room for the sake of a couple of months to then need to change it again.

TheSkyWasMadeOfAmethyst · 30/12/2023 22:01

We didn't bother with a nursery. They were in with us for over a year each.

snoopy18 · 31/12/2023 05:21

Our first only just had his bedroom done this year as he turned 4 🤣 Cot was in our room until 1 then co slept as he wakes through the night a lot even now.Its a hype & aesthetic thing for many - you do you.

GreatGateauxsby · 31/12/2023 05:34

Overthinking it.

We have a 5 bed so my DD has 2 rooms (a bedroom and a 2nd bedroom / playroom)

We left everything as it was and just put a cot in the spare bedroom (which works brilliantly for us as we have somewhere to sleep when she wakes at night!)

Playroom again... no decorating we just put put a few pics and some IKEA kids storage. it has a load of toys in it now which is the "decoration" 😅

DS arrives in a few weeks. He will go in bedroom 4 (again it's just plain green spare room) once he hits 6m. Again... Guest room and we will stick a cot in it.

We.plan to redecorate whole first floor in about 4/5 years and kids will get "kids rooms" when old enough to have unwanted opinions input.

I used the £2-3k I saved not bothering to redecorate Dds room and playroom to get a PT for the last 4 months of mat leave 😅👍
💯 Worth it

Chasingbaby2 · 31/12/2023 09:45

Waste of time and money imo. Never bothered with a nursery for my now 3 year old, he has his own room now and loved choosing bedding ect when he was old enough but it's not decorated per se. Won't bother this time either, keeping the money for more important things!

NotARealWookiie · 31/12/2023 09:48

For the first 6 months whilst the baby is sleeping in with you, the nursery is a glorified dumping ground for all of their stuff. What you have will serve this purpose fine.

Ignore the insta mums, a picture tells a thousand lies and it’s not worth feeling bad about.

Mielbee · 31/12/2023 09:51

Absolutely yes! In fsct i strongly recommend NOT setting up a nursery until you're ready for baby to have their own room. We did that due to moving house and it meant that we could easily do a floor bed with no other furniture and it was the best thing we ever did. I am grateful every day for it as it means I get more sleep.

My friends all talk about floor beds but the barrier is that they'd already got their nurseries sorted with furniture etc. so would be a palaver to remove it. And if you don't want to do a floor bed you will still have more info to make the nursery more suitable for your unique child i.e. big cot because they're tall, high wardrobes because they'd climb on top of low stuff.

Nttttt · 31/12/2023 09:55

FTM here due start of Feb - we have a chest of drawers just outside our room. Don’t get me wrong we have a large guest room which could be her room but we currently rent and may possibly move so I have no plans to turn it into a nursery anytime soon (also need our guest bedroom for family to come stay and meet her!)

PuttingDownRoots · 31/12/2023 09:59

We moved when DD1 was 4 months. My version of setting up the nursery was doing stuff like building the changing table in the bathroom, putting a storage box in the living room for baby stuff, moses basket in the bedroom (including switching sides with DH as there was more space on his.. )

RedRobyn2021 · 31/12/2023 10:00

Im sure someone else would have said this already, but the recommendation is that all of babies sleeps in the day and night are in the same room with a supervising adult until they are at least 6 months.

My daughter stayed in our room until a little after she was 2

redxlondon · 31/12/2023 10:19

Pleaseee ignore the competitive parenting, the nursery image competitions are crazy. You are spot on, baby doesn’t need a nursery until post 6 months.

thecatsthecats · 31/12/2023 10:31

Decorating the nursery is about the parents, not the baby at that age.

Though possibly it can look attractive to first time buyers seeing a room set up.

Notellinganyone · 31/12/2023 10:33

I lived in a one bedroom flat until my daughter was 1. Nurseries are fir parents - babies couldn’t care less.

EnjoyTheMushrooms · 31/12/2023 10:36

First kid didn’t have a nursery as such. Just a room I dumped things in. She moved out of my room at 9 months when she outgrew her next to me. I tidied her room up just before but didn’t decorate it til she was 2.

I’m pregnant and due in March, guess what… baby doesn’t have a nursery 😆

I don’t care too much. He’ll sleep in my room til 6+ months, I’ll sort somewhere to store his clothes. it’ll get sorted. I’m not too worried about it.

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Jessie2024 · 31/12/2023 10:39

@RedRobyn2021 oh don’t worry I’m fully aware of this! She’ll be in our room for six months at least, but my worry was that a lot of women seem to have nurseries even before their child is born! But I’m glad to know a lot of people don’t do that.

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Nottodaty · 31/12/2023 10:43

I’ve had two children and never did the nursery thing. First one we lived in a rented 2 bedroom flat and the 2nd bedroom was set up as office/spare room which we still needed. Our bedroom was huge so Moses basket and changing table was all we needed.

Second one we lived in another renter 2 bedroom and my daughter slept in her room! Again just a Moses basket and changing table :) Even once we brought our house she was 6 months old and the furniture for her room was practical - wardrobe and cot. It wasn’t really big enough for much more!

They are now 20 & 14 - I have no regrets about not having a nursery all decorated . It’s really not something that’s needed but not to judge as for some it’s part of the preparation.

SarahB88 · 31/12/2023 11:53

We’d not been in our house long before getting pregnant. Baby comes in May, we’ve ordered a next to me crib for her and have actually ordered a cot bed but the room that’s going to be hers is currently full of stuff that needs to go up in the loft. The rooms not even got a curtain pole and we’re putting fitted wardrobes in in the new year. The likelihood of the room being remotely ready for her arrival is so low we’re not really thinking about it, that sounds awful!!

You’ll have plenty of time to get the room sorted in your new house. Hope the move goes well!

Maireas · 31/12/2023 11:59

My children never had a nursery. Ever. They slept with us as babies, then later on went into their own rooms. I missed out that stage entirely!

XenaTheWarriorPrincess · 01/01/2024 09:52

I live in a 1 bed flat and won't be moving for likely close to 3 years, so my girl won't have her own room until she's nearly 3.

I'm not really too bothered about it, just one less thing I have to worry about. We'll just share a room until then

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