seriously starting to panic!!!

[charlotte121]

Im 30 weeks pregnant with dc2 and now all on my own as ex has found himself a pretty little barbie to play with.
ds1 is 9 months old and will just not sleep through the night. This is really starting to worry me. how the heck am i going to cope with my son waking and a new born as well. He isnt just waking once or twice, it can be upto 10 times a night and im shattered. I have tried different stratergies to try and resolve the problem but they dont seem to work.
have just had the bomb shell that my exams are the same week that the baby is due, which isnt too big a problem as im sure i'll be early or will just have to give a few stern words to the baby to stay put but ex p has just dropped the yet another bombshell that he is off on holiday with his mates... wait for it, the week im due. I think im going to have a nervous break down.

Any ideas for getting ds to sleep??? willing to try ANYTHING!!! Im getting very sleep deprived now and think im going to go crazy!!!

sorry can't help with the relationship situation (hugs) but have you thought about co-sleeping with ds1? it isnt for everyone, but can be a lifesaver when you are exhausted and tired all the time. definitely worked for me- dd does not sleep better, but at least i don't have to get up a million times (and actually i think she does sleep better...)

good luck

ditto BS. was going to suggest co-sleeping as well.
you WILL cope. because you're a mum, and that's what us mums do isn't it? yes, it'll be hard, but it'll be worth it.

my first thought on reading about your ex's holiday is "why on earth are you bothered?" ??
he left you for someone else. with a baby and pregnant.
you don't need him around.

do you have family/friends close by for support?

I'm not a big fan of co-sleeping (I'm a very light sleeper) but I think if I was in your situation I might try it. When your DS wakes, what do you have to do to settle him again?

I have my older sis, but she is not always helpful, i dont really like to ask my mum at the moment as she has cancer and my is usually helping with childcare with my sisters daughter. My best m8 is very helpful but is off to africa soon so my support network is slightly limited. Im not bothered really that ex is off on holiday, i think its more of a jealousy thing. Plus Im just generally annoyed with him at the moment as he spend more time with his gfs child than he does with his own son.
Im not too sure about the co sleeping idea, it kinda frightens me. what if he wakes in the night and wriggles out of bed or i squash him.
At the moment he wakes and either wants his dummy or milk. I have tried not letting him have milk but he just screams his head off and i dont always have the patients to deal with this.

I co-sleep with ds2 whenever dp is away, he is 4.5 months and it works ok. I put pillows on the other side of him and I guess I am used to staying on my own side of the bed as I've never squashed him yet lol.

you could try reducing the amount of milk you give him each time until there isn't much left and he realises it isn't wotrtyh it?
are you rbeastfeeding or bottle feeding?

Im bottle feeding. Took some advice from another thread i was chatting on where someone sujested denying milk between the hours of 11 and 5 which i did last night. ds did wake a few times but settled without the milk so im hoping that if my willpower can last out then he might get the message