Pregnancy After Miscarriage - Knicker Checkers Anonymous Part III

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Hi everyone.....roll up here for your passport to check your knickers on an hourly basis

Baby update

No baby yet

Not 'seen' Ellie around today though

lol dondons...really.......we'd never have guessed

I've not had a good day today. I've had some really bad cramps low down, which I'm hoping are due to my previous scar and the scar tissue stretching, and nothing more sinister (had scary going to the loo moment as well, but it was just copius CM ). I didn't have any of this with DD, but then again my previous scar was five years old when I was pregnant with her, where this one is only 10mo old. Has anyone else had any experience of this?

Still, scan is first thing tomorrow, so not long to wait till I see how things are.

hi kazbeth, sorry about your MCs, and welcome to the thread.

You've got pregnant again really quickly......congratulations .

Some amount of cramping and stretching is perfectly normal at this stage. I felt like my period was about to start for weeks with both of my post MC pregnancies. IT is hard not to worry after you have been through MCs, but please try to relax.

We've all been through it though, so can support/reassure you as you go through this.

Kate, I'm so sorry about your news. I have been popping in every now and then and remember your story so well and cannot believe it has ended like this. I hope you are managing to get through.
I have just over 3 weeks left and all the worry is coming back again, does anyone else near the end feel like this? It feels like such a long pregnancy and I can't believe we're nearly there but also so scared again but not sure why. Finally packed the hospital bag so it feels real, eek!
How are you goingfor3, is it definitely a boy?? You are very close to me, are you sleeping at all?!

Hi Kazbeth, congratulations on your pg, we all know it can be difficult to relax afterr mc though. Cramping is always worrying, especially if it was the beginning of mc before, but it is also totally normal to feel period type cramping in a normal pregnancy. I've had it, especially one whole weekend where it was quite strong and continuous, when I was about 9 weeks, but everything seems ok so far, and now I'm 17 weeks today. Still worrying though.

I hope everything's ok, and that you'll be here for another 8 months

Jules I worry about everything too...movement especially (23+1 today). DH takes it all in strides but I know it bothers him that my stress level is maxed out all the time. {{hugs}}

Kazbeth I was 10W when I MCed, two weeks later I conceived again.....today I'm only 23W+1D. I still worry and I still have unexplained pains. Yes, cramping sensations are normal early on. There will be more stretching/cramping types pains in the weeks/days to come. Remember there is alot of reconstruction going on internally. You can't hear the hammers pounding but you can feel the ligaments stretching and uterus growing. Take it all in strides. If you feel something that doesn't feel "right", rest a moment....or a day in some cases. Take deep breaths often and repeat HEALTHY AND WELL, HEALTHY AND WELL. All will be fine.

Kate- thinking of you as ever.

Janus- I am getting equally close to the end, and am still as nervous as I was at the beginning.

Justjules- sending you hugs...it is so hard. Stay string, sweetie.

HEALTHY AND WELL, HEALTHY AND WELL

Oh Jules - my heart goes out to you.

Flossie - not long for you now!

Jules you are not messed up you are grieving. I know this dosent compare in any way but I still get a bit tearful about my cat who got run over 6 years ago. We are on this thread because we have all lost our little babies. We are on this thread because we are growing a new life inside us. You need to concentrate upon getting your beautiful baby girl Ellie safely through the start of her life. You are one of the strongest women I have ever met. I am sure that you will get through this. When DH-to- be gets home give him a big hug and a kiss, but most importantly a big smile.

Dondons and Ellie where are the babies?????
I want babies

Don't we all, Ronshar?? Even the mw looked at me and pronounced 'not much longer'! 34+4 today...

oh jules . Try not to worry sweets, and know that your feelings are entirely natural. Of course you are bound to grieve for the lost babies, especially as your pregnancy progresses and you get past the times where you lost them. Can you talk to a counsellor? Give the miscarriage association a call, just to talk things out with them might help get things in perspective. Also, did you have any bereavement counselling after you lost David?

And remember, we are here for you if you need to vent/shout/cry. Tell your DH to come on and say Hi as well. {{{{{hugs}}}}} daisy.

Well I had my scan....and there IS a baby in there

Registrar thinks i have a nasty UTI and has sent off a sample, but I won't get the results till next week. Drinking loads of cranberry and fluids in the meantime, hoping that it shifts itself. If not improving by tomorrow though, I'll get to the docs and demand some ABs.

I was so thinking the worst yesterday when I'd been in pain all day; a UTI hadn't even crossed my radar. Thank heavens for MN though.

Registrar quite cool about my desore for a VBA2C, but said they'll only let me go to 41 weeks. After that it's straight to theatre. she insisted I'd need CFM, but I'll have that foight with them another day

Take Care, everyone, think Healthy and Well thoughts xx

and dondons......sending labour vibes your way

ooooh, labour vibes for ellie as well

Jules - you are doing so well - i too lost 3 babies before this pregnancy, and I can completely relate to not ever really relaxing about it. I have my moments, where I am fine, but then HUGE waves of paranoia and stress and grief all over again.
I am just trying my best to remain positive. I mainly get really down for a little once someone else finds out/gets told about it (increasingly hard to hide with big gut hanging out!) I don't know why - almost the more people know, the more real it all seems, and the worse it would be if there was any problem... if you know what I mean. I too relate to that whole anger thing, about the loss of innocence. I am lucky with my DD - and when I look back at that pregnancy I hanker for it - I knew stuff could go wrong, but didn't really believe it. Just carried on my merry way

Hi to everyone else. And a few more labour vibes for DonDons and Ellie - you go ladies!!

Jules, so sorry you are still finding things really tough. Your feelings are very normal and show how much your babies mean to you and how much you care. The pain of losing your babies will never go away but hopefully when you are holding your precious baby your fears will ease.

Janus, great to hear from you. We've both done well holding on so long! Only three weeks for you nad 5 for me. I have everything ready, except the carseat which I only ordered at the weekend, and am feeling rather impatient now. I don't feel scared yet but am sure it will come, I'm sleeping quite well thanks to all of the walking I have to do to take the girls to school and nursery! As far as I know baby is still a boy but not long until I find out for sure. Looking forward to hearing your good news!

Jules Sorry to hear you've had a rough couple of days. As others have said, these feelings are entirely normal, especially after what you've been through. You've got this far though and not too long to go now - keep focusing on the finishing line and (((hugs))) to you.
Dondons and Ellie Hoping for some good news from you both very soon No news from Ellie so perhaps it's all happening as I type... And also from goingfor3 and Janus Daisy Great news about the scan, not so good about the UTI. I've suffered from recurrent UTIs in the past and they're not pleasant. Hope the cranberry juice works.
I had my NT scan at the Fetal Medicine Centre in London today and it was great. I was really nervous going in, even though I had a successful scan at 7 weeks. But all is well, baby was jumping around like anything and risk levels for all three trisomies are very low so that was a relief. Strong hb and good blood flow to the placenta too. DH and I were in there for about 30 minutes so we got a good look at the baby - apparently there's a 70% chance it's a girl We'll wait for confirmation at a later scan though before decorating the nursery
Hope everybody else is OK.

cricri that's great news . Hopefully you can relax a bit now.

Just thought I'd link this thread although it's a sticky so you all might have seen it.

LOADS of hugs to jules. We love you too x

Still having contractions but they ain't too bad. Just a bit ouchy. About 5 mins apart now and lasting 30-50 secs each. MW said not to bother coming in when can manage at home, and to come in when I can't talk through them and are really painful. Or my waters break, whichever comes first. Knowing my luck will all be a false alarm!
Feels just like really bad period pain, is OK just uncomfy at moment.

Go ellie, Go ellie, Go ellie Woooooooh

ellie, mine were like that with DS for quite a few hours. Then my waters broke and it was like being crushed in a vice. Just be content to stay at home, being relaxed and resting as much as you can at the moment. Good Luck and looking forward to your announcement

Good luck Ellie!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hugs to Jules, it's understandable to worry, but I'm sure it'll be fine

Cricri and Daisy - great scan news

Good luck to those coming up towards the final few weeks
Makecakes - seem to remember you live in Bromley. You probably know this, but there ised to be a nice NCT postnatal discussion group held at the church beside Boots, full of normal people, pay as you go thing, and it was great to have a chance to talk about how you feel about the birth and how life's changed.

same as Ellie for me - we're offically having a race now! Will keep you posted