Suspected miscarriage

[Mrs777]

I started bleeding on Saturday night which lightly continued up to now not heavy like a period. This morning I had about an hour of the most intense contractions identical to labour. I have a scan on Wednesday. I was 6 week. What will happen on Wednesday, is it an internal scan?

They do. We feel so helpless if we can not fix things or make things better for our children. My daughter is doing well.she is coming to stay next week with me x

Oh that’s funny, my partner is away this weekend and mum is coming to stay here for a girls weekend also. Looking forward to some quality time together x

@Tokoro sorry to jump on this thread. I just had a scan at what should be 6 weeks 3 days and they found a gestational sac with no yolk or fetal pole. I'm sure of my dates because I was tracking ovulation. I am hoping and praying my outcome is the same as your daughters.

I hope so too. I will keep the hope for you. My daughter is now over 14 weeks pregnant and all is good but that week was torture to find out if it was viable pregnancy. I know how you’re feeling. When they saw fetal pole the next week because it was behind exact dates of implant they still said it was touch and go whether it would be viable as was 5 days behind what it should be. Now They reckon it was just a late implantation. Yours could be the same. So even after ovulation the embryo can take longer to implant. Let me know what happens at next scan (we actually didn’t wait a week, we paid for another 4 days later and there was a tiny tiny little flicker and that gave us so much hope). My daughter is due August 3.

She is having a baby boy!

Oh yay - how fab, it’s so exciting to find out the gender as I think it helps bond with the baby.

My younger sister is planning a mini gender reveal at Mother’s Day lunch - so a few weeks yet until we find out.

How is your daughter keeping? Is she still anxious now she is in second trimester? Has she felt any movement yet? X

She is a lot less anxious now. Feeling happier now because she has a bump so feeling very real. She has started getting headaches which is a symptom for 15/16 weeks so she isn’t liking those but grateful. Please let me know what you’re having when you find out.

How are you doing? My daughter had her 20 week scan on Friday. She actually is just 19 weeks but they do it from 19 weeks. All is good with her little boy. So relieved. Did your sister do the gender reveal? How are you doing x

Hello,

We had our gender reveal yesterday and it’s a little boy, OH and I are over the moon to be expecting a son.

We had 20 week scan and it wasn’t the best of news though, I had high resistance in both uterine arteries which is systematic of placental dysfunction and our little boy is growth restricted. It’s going to be a nervous end - blood flow to the baby from the chord is good and organs,head, brain, tummy are all normal and in the 20-30th percentile which is something to cling on to. Babies weight and long bones are less than 5th percentile. I’m high risk for pre-eclampsia and we are now getting monitored closely. It’s really hard, we are resigned to the baby being premature and it’s all about reaching a stage were the baby is mature enough that neonates can help.

How is your daughter keeping? Now you are passed the anomaly scan is she feeling more relaxed? Is it time for you to start the fun stuff like planning little one’s nursery? Xx

Youre having a baby boy too. How lovely! You’re going to be ok. He is going to be ok. You will be monitored regularly and even if he is prem he will still be ok as will get everything he needs and many prem babies grow up to be healthy without any problems. My friend had a baby boy and they were concerned about him being small. He was 10 pounds. How they got that wrong I just don’t know!
my daughter is feeling so much more relaxed. She gets her NHS anomoly scan on Friday but she isn’t worried as the private anomoly scan showed everything to be as it should. Her bump is very noticeable now and she has just started to feel him move. He has long legs. His dad is 6 4.
keep in touch. Xxx

Hey,

Im holding on to hope that I can get him to a stage where he has a chance of developing outside the womb. I actually wonder if the opposite is true for me, while my other half is tall, I’m only 5’1 and my mum isn’t even 5’0 so wondering if baby is just small because I am small.

Im glad your daughter is starting to relax now, it was a terribly anxious first trimester and a little miracle he has got this far. The first flutters are amazing, you start to feel like you know your baby and their little personality. Xx

My daughter friend who is pregnant said the doctors are worried her baby isn’t growing enough as small. However she was just 5 pound herself when she was born and her husband is a very slight man too. Btw I’m 5ft

Hello,

@Tokoro is tumour daughter keeping well? X

Yes she is. She is now just 23 weeks but she has started getting braxton hicks but midwife has assured her are normal and some mums get them at this stage. She is usually very slim and has no fat on her tummy at all so midwife said more noticeable as Emma can see her stomach contract. She also said she feels very heavy and sore between her legs. Again it’s just the extra weight. Some women get varicose veins in their foot during pregnancy apparently. Apart from that all is looking good. It’s still such a worry as of all the worries/complications in the beginning. We are all still on high alert. Roll on end of July /beg August.

how are you and your baby? Xxx

Hello,

I had the pain between the legs - felt similar to a very rigorous spin class! I went to physio and they suggested small changes eg. when getting dressed sit to put on trousers and don’t put weight on one leg, close your legs and swing round when getting out the car and try to limit going up and down stairs. Sure enough it did go away and I haven’t had a reoccurrence. There is also a pregnancy Pilates class near me and I’ve found the gentle stretching really helps with some of the aches you get around the back and hips.

She is doing so well though, almost 24 weeks and that’s viability - the first milestone and a comfort in itself as you know if there was a problem there is still a chance baby will be ok. Has the baby settled into a pattern with respect to kicks? Have you been able to resist buying things?

We have hit 24 weeks now, baby is still growth restricted but gaining consistently along his own little path and now up to 506 grams (3rd percentile). He is very active which is reassuring. My blood pressure has shot up and I had a stay in hospital while they tried to bring that under control but thankfully no pre-eclampsia yet. We know this little one will come early but from here on in every extra week we get just increases his chances. Xx

I’m so pleased your little one is growing and developing. He is vaiable now at 24 weeks and let’s hope he stays in there for as long as he can.

Emmas baby is very active too. He is bang on average on the percentile lines. Right in the middle.

how do they know your baby will come early? Have they said how early he could come?

thinking of you and your baby xxx

Have you felt the baby kick yet? My OH felt him kick the other day and it’s just so incredible.

The placenta is failing, they can tell from the Doppler readings. There is reduced blood flow from the placenta to the baby, this is starting to show as absent in some places and will eventually go reversed. This is dangerous for the baby and will force them to deliver the baby. Ultimately we would love to get to 32 weeks, doctors said they would be reluctant to go beyond that. That is best case scenario.

Yes I’ve felt him kick. It’s amazing. Your baby will be scubu for a while and they are amazing there. He will be just fine. I will pray you get to 32 weeks and your placenta keeps working as best it can until then xxx

How is your pregancy. 28 weeks you will be now? Xxx

Hello,

I was admitted to hospital for monitoring a week ago - at the time they thought baby would be delivered Wednesday/Thursday but thankfully we are still holding out, desperate to get as long as we can. I will need to stay in hospital under observation until delivery. I am almost 28 weeks and feeling a bit more positive about his chances of surviving even though it will be a long NICU journey for us.

How is your daughter doing? X

I have everything crossed for you and your baby. Sending all the love and prayers. I think about you a lot.

All is going well for my daughter. She is 26 and a half weeks and he is on 67th percentile. So just slightly bigger than average.

They think she will have a planner C section at end of July. Planned for a couple of reasons.

Thinking of you xxx

Hello,

Just to let you know that baby boy was born yesterday, weighing 1lb 10oz.

He is small for his 28 week gestation, the placenta is away to pathology but it was tiny - hoping they can give us an indication as to why this happened.

As for baby, he is a little warrior. He let out a little cry when he was born and is doing well on c-Papp without the need for a ventilator. Doctors are happy with his day one progress but it’s a long journey ahead of us and I’m sure there will be twists and turns ahead.

If you have any room in your prayers they are always welcome.

There was a couple of things I didn’t consider with a c-section so incase it helps your daughter:

• night dress rather than pyjamas as she will have a catheter.
• you fast before a c-section but depending on time of day the only food available to you might be toast in the evening. Maybe bring a sandwich or something a little more filling just incase.
• again, depends on time of day but her partner can stay the night and might want a change of clothes also.

I had initially said I didn’t want my mum in the labour ward, mostly as I didn’t want to go to theatre stressing about leaving her alone and worried. I quickly changed my mind when the time came and I’m grateful I did. I don’t know what your daughter’s plans are but 1. Nobody can keep you calm like your mum, 2. Mums are a bit more practical than husbands who are as nervous as you. Mum was on hand to help with washing, toilet, sickness and all the indignities that come with a c-section.

The look on my mums face when she met my little boy for the first time is a memory I will cherish forever. It’s a truly special moment and an experience you will never forget.

Keep me updated with how your daughter is doing. Xx

@Hoping4amiracle just read all of this thread, congratulations! Hope all goes well with baby boy. Do you have a name you’d like to share?

@Tokoro glad everything is still going well for your daughter.

Congratulations on the birth of your baby boy. Awww I am praying for you both. He will be ok.
I remember 30 years ago having my daughter and I had said I didn’t want my mum there but I realised I did and she was called to come in. You’re so right. You need your mum.
Edward - Ned she will be naming him.
what are you naming your son? Her friends have had boys and they’ve named them Freddie and Harry.

Thank you @Peonyyyy - we are calling him Arran. We are Scottish so it’s the Scottish variant of Aaron.

Thank you @Tokoro , Edward is lovely … I will pray for his safe arrival.

Midwife in postnatal ward asked me this morning ‘how is baby?’ … I said ‘I haven’t felt him kick much this morning…’ lol it’s so surreal adjusting to not being pregnant x