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Share your stories of when you found out baby's sex!

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HelgaPatakisDiary · 09/11/2023 17:30

Evening all,

I'll be finding out the sex of my baby in a couple of weeks and I'm very excited. To help pass the time I'd like to live vicariously through you!

Please share your stories of when you found out if you were having a boy/girl. How did you feel? How did you tell your family? Did you have any inclinations beforehand?

Did it make your pregnancy feel any more "real"?

Thanks

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BigFluffyHair · 09/11/2023 17:35

I found out at birth with both of mine. I told the surgeon to show my husband first and he could tell me. I had csections. Pregnancy was very real as I was huge and had severe SPD and gestational diabetes. We have too much quick gratification nowadays, why not let it be a wonder and a surprise!

I had no inclinations with my first, but thought my second was the opposite to what they where!

jellytots18 · 09/11/2023 17:35

I had an early scan, and asked the sonogropher to put it in an envelope. My birthday was a week later and the idea was to open it with my cards in my birthday.

I begged my husband for us to open it sooner but he stood firm. I am so glad I waited for my birthday it's such a lovely memory of mine ❤️❤️

It's a little boy like I thought it would be. He is due on 1st feb :) xxx

mambojambodothetango · 09/11/2023 17:45

I found out when my DH told me after babies were born. It was wonderful.

Warmandbright · 09/11/2023 17:48

I had a feeling I was having a boy, at the scan he was facing the wrong way so I had to do a lot of jumping around and weeing etc to get his genitals into view! I had no preference and also because I had sensed I was having a boy then it was nice-to-know but not important to me, in the car park my husband cried in the car as he was so happy to be having a son.

Maddy70 · 09/11/2023 17:51

I found out when I gave birth. Loved that surprise

SpiritedSneeze · 09/11/2023 17:54

I found out she was a girl at the 20 week scan. I hadn't really thought about finding out (I was young and still getting used to the idea of being pregnant)
But then part way through the nurse asked if I wanted to know as she could see really clearly and I decided on the spot.

I didn't tell anyone else, nobody asked so I didn't bring it up. So it sort of felt like a secret even though I wasn't hiding anything. I would have been happy either way but I really liked knowing and it did help me feel a bit closer to her- like I could more easily imagine her and could mentally choose her name.I wrote her a few letters before she was born that I gave her when she was about 16 and I liked being able to write them with her name.

essynemo · 09/11/2023 17:55

I booked a scan at 16 weeks, i couldn’t wait to find out what we were having.

Found out we were having a little girl, we were both so overjoyed! I had no preference at all but had a feeling we were having a boy.
My boyfriend told me after the scan he was hoping for a daughter, we are completely besotted by her 🤍

WholeZebra · 09/11/2023 17:58

We booked a gender scan at a private clinic - the sonographer was looking to see if he could tell what baby is and asked “are you ready to find out?” I could tell from the scan and said “I know what that is - she’s a girl” and the sonographer smiled and nodded. I loved being the one who announced what baby was. My OH was thrilled.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 09/11/2023 18:00

I remember in my first appointment the midwife said “any ideas what you’re having“- mad as it sounds I went “oh god it could be a boy”- hadn’t even crossed my mind it could have been a boy, I always just equated girl
Then found out I was having a girl and went straight to buy a dolly for her.
Second time so happy to have another girl- my husband was pretty much “oh well least don’t have to buy anything”!

allfurcoatnoknickers · 09/11/2023 18:05

I got the blood test both times so found out super early. With #1 the nurse told me over the phone, but DH and I kept the news that it was a boy to ourselves until he was born.

With #2, I got a message from the doctor telling me the results were all good, and where to scroll to to find out the sex. I actually scrolled past twice because I thought there was NO WAY we'd have a girl. There hadn't been a girl born in DH's family in a generation. Well, she was a girl and I made DH sit down before I told him so he didn't faint from shock. He was delighted and couldn't wait to tell his whole family.

We found out on Halloween night, and I insisted we had to give her a spooky name so she's named after a literary witch.

Mummumgem · 09/11/2023 18:11

I found out after birth with all three of mine. The first one the midwife lifted straight to my arms, cord still attached, I was so in love and so amazed I just couldn’t believe I had a baby. My DH said can we see what we have and the midwife just laughed when I said “ we have a baby”. Few minutes later the after birth was delivered and DH cut the cord and told me we had a boy.

the second child, he was a little stressed and needed help straight after birth, but the midwife told me a boy

third, everyone kept saying I was having a 3rd for a girl, no one believed me when I said I didn’t care. But my blood pressure was so high the midwife suggested I was told the sex so I could shut them all up. I was told a boy, we were delighted, really really just wanted a baby. She was a girl at birth 😂😂. That was 25 years ago now so maybe they get it right more often.

Pumpkintastic · 09/11/2023 18:11

When they were both born..magical moment. Made the labour worth it. For me it would have been an anti climax doing it any other way.

Pennyroses · 09/11/2023 18:18

With my first at the 20 week scan, we were intending to find out but no one needed to tell me as I could clearly see what he was on the screen, it was so obvious 😂

Second I knew she was a girl from day 1. I had severe hyperemesis which I never had with my son so I told the sonographer I knew she was a girl and she confirmed it!

Third, we chose not to find out as already had one of each. I knew he was a boy though as the pregnancy was the same as my first. So I wasn't surprised in the slightest when he indeed was a boy at birth!

I'm 17 weeks with my 4th and this one I'm certain is a girl as I've been so poorly again. I have my gender scan on Sunday so will see then!! 😁

InTheFutilityRoomEatingBiscuits · 09/11/2023 18:20

With my first I found out when they were born.
With my second I knew what they were from conception and I was correct.
With my third I found out when I got their post-mortem results.
With my fourth I knew what they were from conception and I was correct. I literally showed DH the pee stick and told him the sex.I mean I also found out at all the scans but there was never a doubt in my mind of their sexes with #2 or #4. It was just obvious to me.

I would never wait till birth again, it just absolutely isn’t worth it. Take joy while you can.

Moveoverdarlin · 09/11/2023 18:22

I waited until the birth. Was the best surprise ever.

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HelgaPatakisDiary · 09/11/2023 18:23

Such lovely stories, thank you. Please keep them coming

@InTheFutilityRoomEatingBiscuits I'm so sorry to hear about your third little baby 💐

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bettynutkins · 09/11/2023 18:25

1st time I just knew the gender from the day I found out I was pregnant. Found out at 20 week scan. Was COVID so partner not allowed, so I told him in the car afterwards. We then facetimed our family when we got home.

2nd time had early gender scan around 17 weeks, husband allowed! Then facetimed family again.

Cuthbertsrevenge · 09/11/2023 18:27

Found out at birth with both. With the first, I wanted my husband to tell me. For our second, I asked that no one in the room tell me as I wanted to see for myself. Both times are beautiful memories.

MirandaWest · 09/11/2023 18:28

I found out at birth both times.

With DS was convinced it was a girl.

With DD was convinced it was a boy (as was a midwife who based this on DD's heartbeat the day before she was born).

Both pregnancies very similar in terms of how much being sick I did, what the bump looked like etc.

Easterdaffsx · 09/11/2023 18:31

When I lifted my baby up onto my chest to kiss them and look . Perfect

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 09/11/2023 18:35

I found out when they were born - scans were not as accurate back then, and anyway, dh and I didn’t want to know. The first two times, I didn’t have an inkling either way, but the third time, we really struggled to find a boy’s name - we had used all my favourites, plus family names from my side and dh’s, so whilst we had a girl’s name ready to go, we couldn’t find a boy’s name we both liked. Then dh came up with a name and second name that were just perfect - I knew that the name was the one we would definitely be using, and I was right - dc3 was a boy too.

When ds1’s wife was pregnant, they did decide to find out at the gender scan, and they told us as soon as they knew - her mum and dad heard first - her mum had knitted little layettes in pink and blue, and DIL sent us a picture of her bump with the pink layette laid on it, to break the news to us - which was such a wonderful moment.

scotstarstrikestwo · 09/11/2023 18:38

Went for a private scan at about 16 weeks. I'd always thought I'd wait until I had given birth but I had a terrible pregnancy and was really struggling with anxiety and I thiught if I found out the sex and was able to prepare it would help and it did.

Went for the scan but baby had egs crossed. Was initially told girl, then boy, then 'I'm not sure!' And was asked to cone back in a couple of weeks.

I did that and kegs were crossed again but after a bit of jumping around there was absoluting no mistaking he was a boy. Despite this, after an emergency section and he was taken away for some breathing help my first words were 'is it definitely a boy?'

I also remember telling the anaesthetist I was calling my baby after him. I wasn't, I've had a boys name picked since I was a kid, it just so happened he had the same name!

NigelTheCrab · 09/11/2023 18:39

We found out at the 20 week scan with both ours.
Both times I was confident we were having a boy, DH was confident we were having a girl both times. We wagered a Domino’s on it. I profited 2x Domino’s 😂
We’d already decided names by the 20 week scan on both pregnancies, so it was quite nice to refer to them by their names, rather than “baby” or “bump”.

exerciseviligance · 09/11/2023 18:48

DD sulked all the way home because she wanted a baby sister not a brother (she was 3)

weegiemum · 09/11/2023 18:53

With all 3 we found out at birth. Dh got the first peek and broke the news to me each time.

This was a long time ago (dc are now 23, 21 and 19) but I think I'd still like the surprise on the day. I already had a "feeling" each time which was right, but it was amazing to find out at birth.

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