Share your stories of when you found out baby's sex!

[HelgaPatakisDiary]

Evening all,

I'll be finding out the sex of my baby in a couple of weeks and I'm very excited. To help pass the time I'd like to live vicariously through you!

Please share your stories of when you found out if you were having a boy/girl. How did you feel? How did you tell your family? Did you have any inclinations beforehand?

Did it make your pregnancy feel any more "real"?

Thanks

I was a honestly a bit disappointed to find out I was having a boy on my first baby but absolutely thrilled to find out that the second was also a boy. I really love being a mum to boys now!

I went for a private scan at 18 weeks with my DH and my parents and we decided to find out. Was really lovely and we went out for a meal after, not because of the scan, but loved sitting their chatting about potential girls names over dinner.

With DD2 we had the NIPT test and found out at 11 weeks when we got the results, we just popped a text to those that knew about the pregnancy and it was lovely telling DD1 at 12 weeks that she was getting a baby sister.

The surprise for us was seeing what they looked like when they were born😍

I was convinced from the get go that ds would be a boy and I didn't feel like I minded either way. Then about 2 weeks before my scan I got really convinced ds would be a girl. Was even looking at stereotypically girly things online etc. At the scan when they confirmed ds was a boy I actually felt really weird about it and like I'd have preferred a girl which really shocked me as i never thought I'd have cared about that. When I talked to dh about it i think it was because being a girl and growing up in a house of girls and having always had predominantly female friends I suddenly felt really daunted at the idea of having a boy incase I struggled to connect with them and the pressure of raising him to be a good man. That feeling lasted about a week and then I was back to not caring! And I was over the moon when he was born and utterly besotted with him 11 months later. My point is don't feel like you're 'supposed' to feel any particular way, sometimes your feelings can surprise you and all is normal! Good luck for your scan!

Do not bother with "sneak peek", 99.9% accuracy my arse!

Really enjoying reading these

@Brokebuthappy25 what was your experience with Sneak Peek?

MIL wanted to throw a gender reveal party so ordered a test. She bought the confetti cannons and balloons ect. Told everyone we were having a boy.
Anomoly scan 6 weeks later showed we are actually having a girl. The sonographer told us before I lay down that I was probably having a girl if that test said boy and warns everyone against them!

At birth

With our first we found out at our 20 week scan. I'd assumed I'd be having a girl as girls are largely the first born children in our family but a few days before the scan I was having my doubts. When the sonographer told us our baby was a boy I had to work very hard to hide my disappointment.

It took me a good few days to feel excited about the pregnancy again. We told our parents over Skype (Covid times) and my mum cried when I said we'd be naming him after my granddad.

Obviously I am utterly in love with my son now (currently a fiercely independent and loving nearly three year old) and wouldn't swap him.

My current pregnancy is a bit of a miracle as it follows three losses and we've chosen not to find out this time. We're going to wait until baby is born.

You can retain 'wonder' while also finding out the baby's sex! There is so much to discover when they're born, I kind of thought of finding out the sex as one of the few little things I could know in advance.

I was convinced I was having a boy so I'm glad we chose to find out at the 20 week scan, because actually she was a girl. Both my grandfathers had recently died so I think I was quite emotionally invested in some sense of continuity... in all other respects I couldn't have cared less and nor could my partner. We ended up going with a girls' name that was important to both my grandfathers and which would have meant a lot to them, so it really wasn't necessary for her to be a boy to honour them!

Mind you, I probably did know it was a girl deep down. I'd looked at so many 'nub theory' posts on here before my twelve-week scan that I clocked she looked like a girl even then.

I dreamt about the gender of my three dcs and I was correct each time.
I even dreamt of the gender of my dsis’ four dcs and was correct each time

My mum bought us one of these tests and I asked her to return it as we wanted to wait until the scan to find out. I must admit I had read the reviews and saw lots of people sharing a similar experience to you!

My obgyn rang with the results of my NIPT around 13 weeks when my husband and I were driving on a long weekend away. I remember there were roadworks and we were bumping on and off a partially constructed, dusty road and my husband had been getting annoyed. She said it was a boy and I had to repeat it out loud so my husband could hear too. I had been hoping for a girl but actually I love having a boy even if he seems to have ten times more energy than the girls his age!

Really? Meeting your baby would have been an anti climax if you knew the sex? I doubt it, but quite sad if that’s the case ☹️.

I get a bit frustrated on mumsnet as I often seems lots of posters think finding out at birth is more special and I just don’t think that’s always the case.

In real life I don’t know anyone who’s had a surprise, pretty much everyone I know has found out before birth and their pregnancies/births have still been lovely and beautiful experiences.

YaWeeFurryBastard completely agree, all these “waited until the birth” posters think they are so superior.
Trust me the joy of meeting your baby is special whether you know or don’t know the sex.

It doesn’t matter at the end of the day, some people like a surprise, others like to plan, people have their own reasons for wanting and not wanting to know.

I had a really strong feeling that she would be a girl and so did most people around me including my DH.

And long behold she is! We booked a private scan at 16 weeks and had already chosen names we loved for both genders and we both were not shocked at all.

I think it helped with imaging what life will look like with her etc and also had made it extra special for both our families as she is the first granddaughter.

Me too I found out as I gave birth both times. I love newborns dressed in white so didn't want any gendered clothing before birth. Was 20 &17 years ago. Now you'd have to be really determined not to find out.

Found out at birth and loved having that surprise. My second will need to be a planned section unfortunately so I think I’ll keep that a surprise also so I don’t know the sex and date of baby’s arrival months in advance.

We have 4. Two of each. Didn't find out with the first two until birth and it was so lovely. Girl and then boy. With 3 & 4 we found out to get organised but I kinda wish we had waited again until birth. The surprise is really worth the wait!

DH was convinced right from the positive pregnancy test what sex DC would be. So 20 week scan was a mix of emotions - lovely to find out what we were having, but annoying DH was right!

When they were born - DH telling me was the best news - a very special moment.

With DS I had the NIPT (Panorama) at 11 weeks. Got the call a few days later, which I missed so the call so they left me a voicemail saying all was good, running through the results then said if you don’t want to know the sex hang up now, and then after a pause said ‘it’s a male fetus’. Very underwhelming but definitely better than with DD where I had to go back in to the 20 week scan after having a coffee as she wasn’t in a good position, then there was a lot of ‘I think’ and ‘hmmm’, ‘probably a girl’ and ‘I’d buy pink but keep the receipts’.

1st - Lockdown, although found out at 12 week scan (I was further along and it was very obvious)

2nd - We did a reveal with both families on Boxing Day. We did the exploding golf balls as our family are golf daft!

3rd - Found out with DP alone first then we did a cannon with both of our boys, it was lovely.

All 3 are boys 💙

1st dc we waited until she was born and my husband got to announce it to me. I was convinced I was having a boy, she was a girl.
2nd dc was during 2021 winter lockdown and I felt we needed a pick me up. So I took myself off for a private scan, they put it on a card and the three of us opened it when we got home. He is a little boy. Glad we did it both ways to be honest, surprise for the 1st and knowing the 2nd. Good luck!!

I only found out once and really regretted it for the rest of the pregnancy.

I’m 12 weeks today and I don’t want to find out until it’s born! We walked through a shop full of baby clothes the other day and I know that if we knew we’d start buying unnecessarily! I have no preference either way, but few things in life are such a wonderful surprise and this will be my only baby, so I want to find out on the day ☺️