Bleeding at 16 weeks, please could anyone share some positive stories?!

[Pennyroses]

Hi, so I started lightly bleeding on Friday. Went to get checked, cervix closed and looked fine, they thi k it's coming from higher up? Heard heartbeat. It stayed the same yesterday, like a pink/brown discharge. This morning I woke up to fresh red bleeding and a small clot. Came back in, they found heartbeat again. Did checks, all looks the same just a lot more blood. They've admitted me to a ward to stay in overnight! I'm terrified to say the least. Never had any of this in previous pregnancies. They can't tell me how it's going to go either way. Has anyone else had anything like this? I'm 16 +5 today

Thankyou everyone, I really appreciate your kind words of support. I may have never met any of you but I'm so grateful for all your supportive messages over the past few weeks, it helped me get through a very difficult time and for that I'm so thankful 💕 xxx

I'm sure you will honour Aurelia on the day❤️
Us mother's get the strength to endure the toughest times.
Did you receive a memory box at the hospital? Mine included Adams hand and foot 👣 prints a lock of his hair and photos....and some nice sentimental items to go with it...blanket, a hat candle, book and teddy 🧸 I keep this on display in my bedroom ❤️
I will try to message you on Friday to check up on you....take care ❤️

Yes we did receive a memory box. It's lovely, because she was tiny everything was miniature. There were two tiny teddies, one is with her and we have the other one. And there's a keyring, a little heart inside it went in her hand and I have the rest of it. It's lovely what the hospital do, she was in a tiny moses basket and dressed in a tiny babygro and bonnet. I have the blanket she had on too. It's so nice to have something to remember her by. Thankyou so much for your support, I really do appreciate it ❤️ xx

Ah yes I have the keyring and the blanket and hat he wore... I agree it's a lovely gesture from the hospital.
I love how one part of the keyring and a teddy is with her ❤️
How's your partner coping? Men generally show less emotion then us...but deep down they're hurting too but don't say!
I used to find it very annoying how my husband would just carry on as normal whilst I was so broken...
But when I look back he held it together for me...he said he stayed strong for both of us...
I think it's important to have a female to talk to I used to talk more with my best friend... because although hubby was supportive he wasn't talkative on the matter and the emotions that I was going through...but on all other matters he was what was needed and more. Xx

@Pennyroses
i love the name you have given your daughter it’s beautiful.
Will be thinking of you tomorrow 💕

I was really impressed with the what the hospital did to be honest, didn't expect any of it but it's so nice and helps honor her existence I think.

He's coping exactly like you describe, just getting on with things! He was a wreck the day she was born and cried all day but it's like he's just pushed it away now and is getting on like normal. I get that's what works for him but I struggle with that. I'm very tired and emotional still. I'm lucky I already had 2 weeks booked off work, don't think I could deal with work at the moment.

Yes you're so right about having a female to talk to, my best friend lives in Australia but she's been a great support messaging me day and night. She's a mum too so obviously any mother is going to relate and understand.

How are you now, have you managed to get to a better place with it all? I guess you just eventually learn to live with it and get back to some sort of normal? xx

Yes I remember the day Adam was born still, the midwife handed him the baby straight away after he cut the cord and wrapped him in a towel...he took him to the other room where he must have spent at least half n hour with him whilst I got cleaned up... eventually I asked him to bring him to me...I looked at his face and he had been crying but immediately started comforting me saying oh look at him his so beautiful 😍
After that he cried once more and then I never saw him cry again...
My best friend would tell me men are different they deal with their emotions differently to ours...and eventually I got used to it...but it really did used to annoy me to a point of me taking it out him him a lot of times...poor guy lol

Ps, please disregard my previous post - I stupidly didn't read the whole thread. I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss 

So I lost Adam in Feb 2021... although I accepted my fate and was very patient of course it hurt a lot, 2 yrs prior to that I had lost my beloved dad and I thought that was hard...but losing Adam surpassed all that pain...I could tell you now the first year was the hardest, I would get angry, withrawn, or just generally got on with the day to distract myself...I got into hiking I loved the nature it helped with my sanity. But I was never the one who lost it, in fact I was told by many I'm very strong how I've handled it all....but we're all human and losing it at times is understandable,but I always managed to never let it get worse....I coped with everything I had, I've got kids already at the time my youngest was 9yrs old...so it was a big gap, and we all were so excited...kids were heart broken I suppose I had to stay strong for them too. I'm a firm believer of fate and that it was meant to be.
I'm in a much better place now...I can mention Adam without getting upset, as I said before I was able to go through all his things I bought, gave some to family, sold some and rest to charity... without crying my eyes out....so yeah you will reach that stage too eventually until then take your time and let it all sink in, feel the emotionals and cry when you need to it's ok, we can be strong and still have our weak moments...it's a big thing to come to terms with so don't rush to feel yourself anytime soon....and even if you feel yourself don't feel guilty as we all grieve in different ways there is no right or wrong...you flow with your emotions.
There were plenty of times I would laugh and enjoy but later on I would cry to myself... honestly it kind of hits you hard at times...you could feel fine and boom it's there again...bit like a rollercoaster.
It's all part of the process....but at the end of it you will feel stronger than ever before...why wouldn't we ehh...this storm we went through was enough to break us and it didn't...and I got through it so will you ❤️

I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby girl, Aurelia. What a beautiful name!

Another thing I will say to you OP is the empty nest feeling is sometimes unbearable, it's the hardest thing about the loss.
I would cuddle his teddy or go and see my neices and nephews who were babies at the time...and I would just find that little comfort in them...of course I couldn't visit them often but when ever I saw them it gave me comfort...but when ever I left them it broke my heart too...I used to coo over other people's children...I didn't once feel jealous over their happiness nope never...i just felt intense happiness to see other babies and wondered how Adam would be like etc.....AHH it was crazy but I genuinely love little children...I'm now working at a infant school part time, and I love the little ones and they love me too.
So do what works for you, you might feel like avoiding them and that's ok too....I must add the empty nest feeling had me craving for another baby so bad ..every month when I would have a period I felt so down....last year I did get pregnant but unfortunately lost it at 10wks...but since then the feeling of having another child has gone...now I look forward to my periods lol
It's mad how our mentality changes...part of my change was due to not being disappointed again...as after Adam and the lady miscarriage my health did suffer a lot...now I'm just concentrating on what I have been blessed with and looking after my health....terrible tailbone pain causing back issues...it got damaged during labour 😩

Bless you, honestly I relate so much to everything you've said. My partner also had a long time on his own with her at his request, he came back and told me how beautiful she was aswell. She really was a perfect mix of us both 😢

I'm looking forward to getting to that point, where I can talk about her without getting upset. I'm fine talking on here, it's if people ask in person I just automatically cry. I think because they're being so sympathetic, it just sets me off.
I'm so sorry you had another loss, I can't imagine how tough that must have been after everything you've been through 😢
I really want to get pregnant again but I'm also absolutely terrified about the same thing happening again!
She was my partner's first and he's desperate for a baby so I know we will likely try again. I have 3 older kids, my youngest is 13 and they were so looking forward to having a baby sibling. Not sure I could put them through the loss again 😢 I know it's still early days and I guess what will be will be.
Thankyou again for telling your story, it's helping me feel less alone xx

I am so incredibly sorry, I was rooting for you 😪. Gove yourself some time. XxX

Hope you get through today ok @Pennyroses sending you love and strength 💕

Thinking of you today @Pennyroses