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Pregnancy shortly after miscarriage - What has been your experience?

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TTCbaby2023 · 21/07/2023 18:34

Hi everyone,
I suffered a mmc back in May at 8 weeks and this was a traumatic experience as you can imagine. Nevertheless as I have just turned 42 I thought I didn't really have the time to wait too long before trying again. Last Monday after no show for my period I found out to my great surprise that I am pregnant again.
Needless to say I am very very anxious about it as the trauma is still fresh and I have barely any symptoms apart from a bit of a metallic taste in the mouth.. I would be interested to know for those of you who managed to fall pregnant quickly after mc whether it was a success in the end or whether it ended as well in an mc. They say that 2 mc in a row is pretty rare but I am not convinced.

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CC4712 · 21/07/2023 18:39

Sorry for your loss ❤

I've always 'heard' that you are more fertile after a pregnancy, but I'm yet to find any medical literature to that effect. There are women on here who do indeed have a healthy pregnancy after an MC and didn't get a period in between. Sadly though from being on here years, its seems that more go on to MC again. I suspect its because the lining is just too thin from having a 2nd pregnancy so soon. I'm sure some success stories will come on though.

2 MC's in a row isn't common, but certainly not unheard of. I've had 3 in a row and no medical issues found. Best of luck OP x

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TTCbaby2023 · 21/07/2023 19:02

@CC4712 I'm sorry to hear about all your losses too. I certainly don't get my hopes too high for now as I'm well aware that there's still a high chance it will end up in another MC, hence the huge anxiety.
Just to add though, I did have a period inbetween in June. This is the second cycle since the mc so hoping at least that my body was ready for it.

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Wnikat · 21/07/2023 19:04

Sorry for your loss. I had a successful pregnancy 2nd cycle after an 8 week loss when I was 38, fingers crossed for you this time xx

Fairylight102 · 21/07/2023 19:07

I had a miscarriage in December and found out I was pregnant again in March. I am now 22 weeks and everything is developing healthily.

I suffered quite badly with nausea from 6-12 weeks which was tough on my mental well-being, especially coming after the experience of having a miscarriage. It took me a while to really connect with the pregnancy and feel confident it was really going to be ok.

Best of luck with your pregnancy xx

JD90 · 21/07/2023 19:10

I had a loss in Feb, pregnant again march, now 22 weeks.

Feckedupbundle · 21/07/2023 19:17

I'm sorry that you had to go through that.
I had an ectopic after years of infertility. The consultant who operated on me told me that it was unlikely that I'd ever get pregnant ever again,but if I did,it would most likely be ectopic again.
Being bloody minded, I ignored him and was pregnant again the following month. I was completely shocked,after years of being told that it wouldn't happen. I had a healthy DD who is 20 this year.
With my history,we decided to try again sooner rather than later and conceived Dd2 the first month,so I ended up with two children under 22 months old.

My experience bears out the theory that you can get pregnant more easily after a loss. Best of luck to you.

Feckedupbundle · 21/07/2023 19:19

I forgot to add that in all 3 pregnancies,I had virtually no symptoms. No morning sickness at all and just slightly tender boobs. I was so symptom free that my midwife asked if I was actually sure that I was pregnant. Not very reassuring to be asked that!

LC7 · 21/07/2023 19:24

I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and then found out I was pregnant exactly a month later. He’s now a happy healthy 10 month old. Hope everything goes well for you.

CaliGirl47 · 21/07/2023 19:24

Hi OP. @TTCbaby2023 I am so sorry for your loss 💐 MMC can be so cruel, and it can be so hard to feel like you can trust your body again when things like this happen. I hope things go well for you going forward, and you have a happy and healthy pregnancy. Here is my experience:

I had a MMC discovered on November 3rd at 10 weeks. I opted for surgical management on November 16th. AF arrived at 4.5 weeks on December 17th…I was planning on giving my body a few cycles to let the uterine lining build back up properly. But I ended up falling pregnant on New Year’s Eve and got my BFP on January 13th. I am currently 31 weeks pregnant with that rainbow baby and all has been well. 💜💛💜

Sending you lots of love and hope for your rainbow 🌈

p.s. anxiety in pregnancy after mc can be such a scary place. I reached out to my maternity hospital bereavement midwife and she put me in touch with the Tommy’s miscarriage clinic in my area. I found the Tommy’s miscarriage clinic really kind and helpful. They gave me emotional support and extra scans in early pregnancy which really helped me to cope with the long wait to 12 weeks. I can’t say the anxiety of a pregnancy after loss ever really goes away. I still have nights where I wake up panicking that I’m going to lose this baby. But all we can do is take it each day at a time. 💞🌷🌱

leavingoutthesidedoor · 21/07/2023 19:29

Both my babies were conceived either one or two months post miscarriage. Two healthy pregnancies. Wishing you all the best

Cdoc · 21/07/2023 20:44

So sorry for your loss OP 🩷it’s the hardest time and the most difficult thing to go through. Please be kind to yourself x

I had a mmc in May last year at 9 weeks, baby sadly stopped growing at 6. I had medical management and fell pregnant before I had another period (tracked on opk’s the moment I stopped bleeding). My baby is now 4.5 months old 🩵I’m aware we are very lucky but it can definitely end positively. It was the most anxious pregnancy and in hindsight given baby is healthy I wish more than anything I enjoyed it more, but you have to get through it as best you can. Best of luck x

shakeitoffsis · 21/07/2023 21:04

MC dec 2021. Positive pregnancy test 14th Jan 22, baby born in sept. Good luck!

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TTCbaby2023 · 21/07/2023 21:05

@Wnikat Thank you, shows me that it is possible indeed. I just hope this time will be it. In the meantime each day is a struggle especially with the lack of symptoms.

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TTCbaby2023 · 21/07/2023 21:07

@Fairylight102 Congratulations! I'm glad you had your rainbow baby! I know nausea can be debilitating but I really wish I could have some of that. It would reassure me somewhat.

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TTCbaby2023 · 21/07/2023 21:09

@JD90 Congratulations on your baby! Gosh I hope I will be able to say the same someday.. Thank you for giving me some hope 😊

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TTCbaby2023 · 21/07/2023 21:13

@Feckedupbundle Wow that is quite a story!! You defeated all the odds... twice! Truly incredible, you must be so happy!
Reassuring to hear as well that you had barely any symptoms. That frustrated me somehow last time I was pregnant and hope they will arrive at some point.

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TTCbaby2023 · 21/07/2023 21:15

@LC7 thank you for your kind words 😊 It's great to hear so many positive stories!

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catherinewales · 21/07/2023 21:20

I found out I was pregnant on the Friday, had a miscarriage the next friday and the next Friday I got pregnant. It was a pretty mad with emotions. I was devastated by the miscarriage then excited nervous when I found out I was pregnant again. I had to have an early scan to check I wasn't pregnant with twins and lost just one but it wasn't, it was a completely new baby.

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TTCbaby2023 · 21/07/2023 21:30

@CaliGirl47 Thank you for your kind words 🥰 . The mmc was really hard on me, since the first scan went well I thought we were on our way to be ok, but when they couldn't find a heartbeat on the second 2 weeks later, it was a horrible experience and everything came crashing down. I am trying not to connect with it too much and think it will probably end badly so as to manage expectations but deep down I know that no amount of preparation would soften the blow, especially for a second time.
As you say I'm trying to take each day as it comes..
Congratulations on your rainbow baby 🌈😊

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Bigpizzalover · 21/07/2023 21:35

I had a mmc in January, it was not planned. Found in April I was 6 weeks. This ended in termination and a reinstatement of the coil (came off it earlier to move to pill as I was having side effects and naively didn’t think either time would end in pregnancy) I know this is not probabily what you want to hear but just to say don’t give up hope as it happens xx

Jessica1782 · 21/07/2023 21:36

Hi OP I’m in an identical position to you - MMC in April, now pregnant again, around 6 weeks, and also freaking out at lack of symptoms. This time last time I had the works - sickness, tiredness, sore boobs. I have an early scan booked for 8 weeks this time. Fingers crossed for us both

ladygindiva · 21/07/2023 22:27

Sorry for your loss. I had a MC before my first DC, I miscarried in the start of July and fell pregnant again the end of August, against advice. All went well.

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TTCbaby2023 · 22/07/2023 13:26

@Jessica1782 we are indeed in the same boat! I didn't have many symptoms last time either but breast were more sore and I was feeling a bit nauseous in the evening sometimes and very bloated. This time (although still very early) I don't feel much at all, just a weird time in my mouth on and off. Not sure if symptoms mean anything though.
Have you booked privately for the scan? Last time I had one at almost 7 weeks and 9 weeks. This time I'm not sure what to do and I certainly don't want to go to the same place, that would bring back too many bad memories. I think I will play it by ear..
In any case good luck to both of us!! May they stick!

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Jessica1782 · 23/07/2023 08:20

Hi OP I’m the same, can’t go back to the private place we heard the news last time. I was at the GP for something else and they referred me to the EPU for an early scan just to check all is ok. I think I got lucky with the GP I had - I didn’t request it!

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TTCbaby2023 · 01/08/2023 15:11

@Jessica1782 How have you been doing? How is the pregnancy? Have you had your scan yet? I'm in my 6th week and still haven't got much symptoms wise and that worries me a little.

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