Pregnancy shortly after miscarriage - What has been your experience?

[TTCbaby2023]

Hi everyone,
I suffered a mmc back in May at 8 weeks and this was a traumatic experience as you can imagine. Nevertheless as I have just turned 42 I thought I didn't really have the time to wait too long before trying again. Last Monday after no show for my period I found out to my great surprise that I am pregnant again.
Needless to say I am very very anxious about it as the trauma is still fresh and I have barely any symptoms apart from a bit of a metallic taste in the mouth.. I would be interested to know for those of you who managed to fall pregnant quickly after mc whether it was a success in the end or whether it ended as well in an mc. They say that 2 mc in a row is pretty rare but I am not convinced.

So sorry for your loss @TTCbaby2023. I’ve been in your shoes, in fact my DD’s due date was around the anniversary of our first loss. I’m not going to lie, I was anxious throughout the pregnancy and even during labour didn’t truly believe I’d be taking a baby home, but DD is now a happy and healthy 7 month old so it all worked out ok in the end.

@PointyMcguire Thank you for your message. I am glad that you got your happy end with a healthy baby😊
Did you have many symptoms early in your pregnancy? I know it's only week 6 but so far I've only had very mild breast soreness on and off and a weird taste in the mouth on and off as well. For some reason, the lack of symptoms is making me feel very nervous.

@TTCbaby2023 I had virtually no symptoms in the beginning and even as things progressed the worst I had was what felt like a constant hangover and slightly sore boobs. In contrast I had heaps of symptoms with the one I lost, which weirdly reassured me that symptoms aren’t an indication of a successful pregnancy so please try not to worry (easier said than done I know!) x

@PointyMcguire Thank you so much for your reply. It's good to hear. The anxiety has been crippling and it's making everything very difficult..

Sorry for your loss OP but congratulations on the new pregnancy.

I also had a MMC and fell pregnant immediately after that (with no period in between) but unfortunately miscarried naturally again at 5 weeks. Once again, I then fell pregnant immediately (again, no period in between) and I’m now 31 weeks with a little girl. This pregnancy has been absolutely fine with no issues so far, aside from the initial crippling anxiety but I just got regular scans booked in for that extra reassurance. My symptoms with all 3 pregnancies initially were minimal, just a bit of nausea and food aversions which started at around 6-7 weeks.

Only thing is, I’ve almost been pregnant for a year now due to the back to back losses, so it’s safe to say I’m ready to get this baby out and have a wine 😂

@TTCbaby2023 honestly I feel you! I cried in fear when I saw the positive test as whilst DD was very much wanted, I was so not emotionally ready to hop on the pregnancy rollercoaster again when I was still mourning the loss of our first baby. I felt a lot of guilt in the early days, and that combined with the anxiety meant I never really got to enjoy the pregnancy, instead I tried to break it down into milestones; passing the point of the first loss, 12wk scan, 20wk scan, 24wks = point of viability, 36wks = lungs fully formed, 38wks = term, which made it feel slightly more manageable and less overwhelming.

@VanillaOat That's quite a story! 3 times in a row! I bet you are ready indeed to have your baby and indeed your wine! 😂 Good to hear as well that your symptoms were minimal too! I will keep my fingers crossed!!

@PointyMcguire I did cry in fear too when I found out and I was in shock. I am so terrified that I can't even bring myself to book an early scan, it was just too traumatic last time. You see a heartbeat and then 2 weeks later you don't anymore. I just dread hearing the sonographer telling me that they either can't see anything or can't see a heartbeat. I haven't even registered for the booking appointment fearing I would jinx it.. My loss was at 8 weeks so maybe doing a scan at 9 to 10 weeks if I find enough courage for that..

Hiya, hope you are ok. To share my story I had a MMC September 2021, turned out to be a molar pregnancy (but they didn't inform me until January 22 once they had run tests) turned out I was already pregnant again conceiving in late December/January and went on to have healthy identical twins September 2022! X

I had 3 in a row.

2013 - DS1
Sept 2017 - started trying for #2
September 2019 - MC 1
September 2021 - MC 2
March 2022 - MC 3
April 2022 - found out I was pregnant again
Dec 2022 - DS2 born

No reason found for my losses. I’ve had big gaps between pregnancies and losses and then my pregnancy immediately after a loss stuck. Didn’t do anything differently (apart from my 3rd MC I was taking progesterone and aspirin. - made no difference.) I think sadly what’s meant to be will be and there’s nothing you can do.

I am sending you lots of hope and good luck your way for a happy and healthy pregnancy this time.

I also just saw your post about lack of symptoms OP - try not to worry, with both my pregnancies that ended in babies I had a distinct lack of symptoms! No sickness, no sore boobs, no out of the ordinary tiredness. Some
symptoms kicked in a bit later on around 9-10 weeks but quickly subsided and I was one of those annoying people that had quite easy pregnancies. Believe me I know how hard it is but try not to worry, symptoms are not an indication of how well things are progressing in my experience!

I had a miscarriage in February when I was 36 and the baby was 16 weeks. I got pregnant in June of the same year and had healthy, full term twin boys. I got pregnant again the next February and went onto have another set of healthy twin boys.

I had a miscarriage and got pregnant the following month - no period in between. Was all a bit scary at the time - at first it looked as if it was the hormones from the previous pregnancy giving a positive result but blood tests confirmed pregnancy. The first few weeks were pretty rocky - a suspected ectopic then a heavy bleed and I thought I'd miscarried again but went for a scan and found there was a heartbeat. She's 15 now.

I didn't have loads of symptoms, never had morning sickness for example and the breast tenderness used to come and go, which really freaked me out at the time.

Wishing you all the very best for your pregnancy.

I had a MMC at 10 weeks (baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks), the shock of it hit me like a train, we were younger and just didn’t expect it, and people didn’t talk / share baby loss in the same way a few years ago. We just thought if we had got to 10 weeks (with a scan coming up) we were ok.
I got pregnant the month after with my daughter. Followed by another earlier miscarriage (9 weeks) then got pregnant with my second daughter straight afterwards. Suffered severe anxiety in both successful pregnancies, it didn’t really decrease until I got past the big milestones and I could feel them kick, and it got better 30 weeks plus. Living with the anxiety of having a rainbow baby is so hard but of course always so worth it when they arrive

Miscarriage Oct 2019 at 7w
Pregnant Jan 2020, toddler approaching 3 😍
Miscarriage March 2022 at 9w
Miscarriage June 2022 at 6w
Pregnant July 2022, medical intervention to sustain pregnancy after threatened miscarriage and early bleeding (progesterone suppositories) - baby is 3m 😍

Definitely more fertile after a loss but the heartache is aaawwwwful.

I'd love another baby but my heart can't take any more losses.

Good luck, it's so nerve wracking and nothing prepares you for the rollercoaster of emotions.

@Tisfortired I see a lot of women whose pregnancy straight after loss stuck and that gives me a bit of comfort, if I forget my (advanced) age which doesn't help of course. It's all so nerve wracking, the first loss was so hard on me mentally that I am very afraid of the consequences if that one doesn't stock either. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I hope one day I can do the same!

@momtoboys Wow 2 sets of twins!! You must be a very busy mum indeed, congratulations!

@YouPutTheScrewInTheTuna Molar pregnancy, that must have been scary no? Good though that it didn't prevent you from conceiving straight afterwards. Did you receive any treatment for the molar pregnancy?

@Poseidensgrumpyneighbour I didn't have loads of symptoms during the pregnancy that I lost but I have even less now.. You keep reading that there is less of a chance of miscarriage if you have morning sickness, having said that my mum had 5 kids and never had morning sickness. We decided to not do an early scan as we can't face it again so will try to wait patiently until the 12 week scan if that goes as far as that. No one prepares you for how anxious you will be during pregnancy especially after a loss.

I had a miscarriage, then had two periods and then conceived again. It resulted in a successful pregnancy the second time and he’s now 4 months old. My friend also had a mc, one period and then conceived her ds. Keep hope that it can work out. Sorry for your loss and good luck for this pregnancy.

@Tryingtokeepcalmandcarryon Good to hear another positive story of pregnancy straight after loss sticking! Severe anxiety is exactly what I am going through but can't really share it with my other half as I don't want to freak him out but it's so hard to go through that on your own..

@Toddler101 I had never realised how big the heartache of losing a pregnancy would be. I am glad to hear as well that the one that stuck was the one that happened straight after a loss. You all give me hope, it will be the longest 6 weeks (until I am 12 weeks) of my life (if I even get that far!).
I totally get it about not being able to suffer another loss. If that one doesn't work out, part of me will want to keep trying but at the same time I'm not sure if I could.

@Blue2020 Thank you for sharing, I am keeping everything crossed. It's good to hear all these positive stories 😊

I had a July miscarriage, then an October miscarriage and then a successful pregnancy immediately following those.

Each time became pregnant the first try. Just had trouble getting them to stick.

Wishing you all the best OP.

I had a mmc at 12 weeks and surgical intervention.
I then got pg 1 week later which never occurred to me was even possible. My period hadn’t returned and I was basically pg for a year!
Physically it was fine but mentally very very hard and it may have contributed to my pnd
However, that pregnancy is 18 now and awesome!! I also have a 14 year old