So desperate

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I'm 8 weeks pregnant and a complete mess.
I have severe nausea and occasional vomiting. I am averse to basically everything. Even my little boy makes me feel sick. My own smell is hideous. I cry at the thought of even needing a wee as it makes me feel so unwell. My home smells revolting to me and my husband disgusts me. I've been like this for over 3 weeks now.
I'm signed off work but am just not coping. I'm about to try my 4th set of anti sickness meds as none have touched it. All I do is lie in bed and retch and cry.
I feel like such a useless pathetic lump - I know women have it much worse than I do and manage, but I just don't know if I can do this anymore.
I can't try anything ginger as that makes me feel sick even when not pregnant. I didn't have anything like this when I was pregnant with my son.
Work are not sympathetic and are pushing for access for my medical records even though they have fit notes from my GP. I'm on SSP and am worried about bills next month.
I'm seriously considering an abortion. I hate myself for it.

This is exact how I felt when pregnant with my little girl. It will ease up eventually. I felt quite a lot better by 14 weeks and stopped the sickness meds by 17 and rest of pregnancy was lovely xx you can do this xx

I found week 8-11 were the worst but after that then it got so much better. I gave myself whiplash from vomiting and retching. The only medication that eased it for me was losec. Nothing else even touched it

Just vomited immediately after writing my post.

@romdowa is that omeprazole?
I haven't been offered that.
I've had one beginning with P, Metoclopramide, Cyclizine and have just been prescribed Xonvea.

Oh you have my utmost sympathy, I had hyperemesis gravidarum with all 3 of my pregnancies. There's a HG support thread somewhere on here. I'm not sure where to find it though as I don't know which topic it's in.

Is your DP taking on as much of the childcare as he can? Don't even think about the cleaning or going into work. It's totally inappropriate for them to expect access to your medical records and a massive invasion of privacy (and the GDPR prevents organisations from collecting unnecessary data about you which may also apply). What an awful stress on top of being so ill! If you have the energy, you could contact Pregnant then Screwed for support/advice about work.

I found with DC2 that the anti sickness meds actually made my stomach acid really bad which made me more sick than if I took nothing. If you need to, go to hospital for rehydration IV (or ask the GP to refer you). The signs are subtle when you're being constantly sick but dizziness is a good indicator that it's a hospital job.

Also with DC3 I was prescribed Ondansetron film which just melts on your tongue so eliminates the "can't digest a tablet" issue.

Why is your company asking for your medical records? Sickness in pregnancy isn't treated as usual sickness and you can't be penalised.

@monpetitlapin my husband is wonderful. He's literally doing everything. He's amazing and I'm so grateful for him.
I'm barely seeing my son at all and not doing anything around the house and my husband has 100% picked up the slack.

I've actually been prescribed Ondansetron as a back up if the Xonvea doesn't work. I'm hesitant to take it as it increases risk of cleft palate in babies - which is ridiculous when I'm considering a termination.

I'm lucky as I can drink without throwing up and can eat simple carbs and keep them down.

They say it's because they want to understand how best to support me. I have a fairly complex medical history and I think they are working towards trying to get rid of me on health grounds.

This is a direct copy from my manager

We are required by law to seek your consent before being able to request a medical report from your doctor. You are, of course, free to refuse to give us permission to approach your doctor for a report; however, we may then make a decision about your future health and employment without the benefit of an expert medical opinion.

Bless you. I was exactly the same and it is awful. I felt like it was a form of torture. Every single smell made me throw up and the doctors never found anything that helped get rid of the sickness completely. The only thing that helped was laying outside on a sun lounger under a big blanket and nibbling green apples.
Eventually, it did go away and I was able to enjoy the second half of my pregnancy.

Can you go back to the doctors and ask for something. I was given a disgusting tasting medicine that had the consistency of calpol. It didn't stop the nausea but it did give me a few hours relief from being physically sick.

Take the ondansetron- the risk of cleft is still miniscule, even with the drug. Poor you, that's no way to live

I feel for you. I had the same from 7 weeks. I'm 15 weeks now and on Odanestron. I started taking it at 13 weeks. It has helped me much more than any of the other medications I tried.

Make sure if you aren't able to keep food or water down you go to A&E for fluids because dehydration can sneak up on you and I got myself into a right state.

I've been off work for ages now, I physically could not have gone in. It would have made the situation 10 times worse if work had been funny with me as I was already suffering massively physically, mentally and emotionally. Take as much time as you need.

I think they are only asking you for your permission to get a report off your doctor. They wouldn't be allowed to see your medical records surely? It would just be a letter from your doctor explaining the situation.

I know exactly how you feel , I'm ten weeks next week and have questioned myself multiple times about falling pregnant again!! I'm so miserable and fed up it's making me depressed 😔. I feel sick all day long but its much worse on an evening. I can't do what I want with my other 3 and feel like my house looks like a skip yard. Apart from fruit and some foods I throw up all my meals. I really don't know how much more I can take but luckily I've been drinking loads of water so not dehydrated

I had ondansetron for my HG pregnancies it took away about 75% of the nausea and 90% of the vomiting

I don’t really post but had to respond to you as your post resonates so much.

I was like this with my first pregnancy and am pregnant with my second (about 6 weeks) and the same is happening again.

I had severe nausea all day and maybe vomited twice a day but because I was able to keep food down I didn’t seek help. The smell of my house repulsed me, I hated the smell of washing powder, the dishwasher and my husband repulsed me. I thought I was just unable to cope and felt ashamed by this and so just continued on. Work was torture. As a result I got quite severe antenatal depression that lasted to the end of my pregnancy (and turned into PND).

im trying to be kinder to myself this time and more aware. I’m trying different meds with the help of my GP (who has also prescribed ondansetron but I haven’t yet taken for the same reasons as you) and I’ll be signed off work if needed (on leave at the moment).

With my first, the nausea lasted until about week 12. The smell aversions lasted throughout including my husband but was easier to handle without the constant nausea. it went totally back to normal as soon as I’d given birth, so don’t worry, it doesn’t spell the end of your marriage (as I was convinced).

You’re doing well, don’t be hard on yourself. Pregnancy hits us all in different ways

Yes and I got the ones that dissolve in water so that I could sip it to try and keep it down. It made a massive difference.

Thank you everyone for your kind replies. It makes me so sad that so many women go through this.
I read a horrible post on here the other day that was so critical and unkind towards women struggling in pregnancy.

My GP has told me I can only take it for 5 days. That's a other reason it puts me off - if it works and then I only have 5 days of not feeling like this?
Were you able to take it for longer?

@Inmydreams88 yes, they are only asking for a report, but it feels like a massive invasion of privacy to me. They brought up past medical issues they said they are concerned about, so they're not just asking about my pregnancy related sickness.
The past medical issues were serious, but happened before I worked for them and have nothing to do with my pregnancy. I feel they are looking for reasons to try to get rid of me.

Oh OP I'm so sorry you're struggling so much. Definitely sounds like HG. I had it with both my babies.
Definitely give Xonvea a good go. I did the 4 tablets a day option with 2 at night and it took a week or so to work but was absolutely amazing stuff! (I had xonvea with my 2nd child). My first I was on ondansatron and metoclopromide and then steroids in the end. Ondansatron I had from 7+4 and baby was fine.
Are you drinking 500ml a day or more and holding it down? If not you need to be seen in hospital as dehydration is extremely dangerous. Also you may find some iv fluids and iv medication like ondansatron will help you get relief. .

In terms of work I only sent in sick notes that said pregnancy related sickness but if they think you have hg and put that on your sick note it may help to get work off your back. If they still have an issue I would speak to Pregnancy Sickness Support for help on the employment side and your rights. They are absolutely amazing! I didn't know about them before my boss made my life awful and I ended up resigning. If I had I would have stood my ground. You're are protected under pregnancy law and they cannot terminate your job etc for pregnancy related sickness or harass you in any way.

I started ondansatron at 7 weeks (injections at EPU then sent home with tablets) and took it up until 28-30 weeks. Some was IV ondansatron in hospital on a daily basis (7-20 weeks and tablets at home at night) and then tablets from then on. If you do have ondansatron make sure you get a laxative as it makes you extremely constipated.
My hg was extremely severe I couldn't even hold water down for 5mins so they had no option or me and or baby could die.
There is an amazing group on mums net called hyperemesis support which I think you'd find really helpful. It honestly was my go to throughout my pregnancies.

I was off work for about 8 weeks feeling similarly shit with my second - I think it's the exhaustion that makes it so much worse than the first.
It's not a drug recommendation but sucking "preggo pops" (from Amazon) helped me stop actually vomiting too much so I stayed hydrated.

You can take ondansetron for as long as you need it. Ask your GP to put in an advice and guidance request to your local obstetrics unit

@gghfcvufcv is your sick note for pregnancy related illness? Have you triggered sickness review before pregnancy? Are occupational health involved? Do you have a disability?