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HannahCarlos · 12/07/2023 18:45

Anyone asked for a push present or getting one? My mother asked what I wanted for my push present lol and I have no clue

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Beaconofasseptability · 12/07/2023 19:01

I've never heard of this I'm old. What is it? Like a present for having a baby? What if you have a section? Don't you get one if you didn't push?

RaininSummer · 12/07/2023 19:04

Only ever heard if that on here. It sounds quite gross to me... Kind of gives off shades of women's worth being measured by their ability to reproduce. Also surely unusual for the grandmother to buy one.

Wolfiefan · 12/07/2023 19:06

You get a baby. Surely that’s enough.

OldTinHat · 12/07/2023 19:13

Seriously??? A 'push present'?

New babies are welcomed with a gift. Why is it not just called a new baby present?

(If I had a 'push present' I'd be overwhelmed with gifts thanks to constipation!)

DamaskRosie · 12/07/2023 19:16

I hate the expression "push present" but nothing wrong with your mum giving you a gift, whether something for the baby or for you. Nice PJs?

ohfook · 12/07/2023 19:17

People act on here like it's a new tangled thing but my grandma told me it was customary to get an eternity ring on the birth of your first child (or son) when she was having children. So about 80 years ago.

I never asked for nor expected one but received a ring after my first and a necklace after my second. I thought it was a nice acknowledgment of the fact that ultimately I'd put in all the hard work in order to grow our family.

Neverinamonthofsundays · 12/07/2023 19:17

There was a really tacky reality show in Australia a couple of years ago that seems to have invented this term. Basically the father of the baby gives the mother a present for pushing out his baby. Usually the father is mega rich and they get a brand new car or piece of jewellery but it is all vulgar over the top hype.

Sunnysunbun · 12/07/2023 19:17

Massive ick

Neverinamonthofsundays · 12/07/2023 19:17

@ohfook yes eternity ring was what my mum got too :)

TrueScrumptious · 12/07/2023 19:18

I’ve never heard of this term.

amylou8 · 12/07/2023 19:18

ohfook · 12/07/2023 19:17

People act on here like it's a new tangled thing but my grandma told me it was customary to get an eternity ring on the birth of your first child (or son) when she was having children. So about 80 years ago.

I never asked for nor expected one but received a ring after my first and a necklace after my second. I thought it was a nice acknowledgment of the fact that ultimately I'd put in all the hard work in order to grow our family.

But bet your grandmother never called it her 'push present' 🤮

PinkPlantCase · 12/07/2023 19:19

I have never heard of newborn gifts being referred to as a push present 🙈

Does your mum mean things for baby or just for you?

A nursing pillow was something that we realised after baby was here that we needed so someone gifted us ones of those.

If it’s just for you then maybe a postpartum shopping trip? A few months after baby when you don’t fit in your before clothes but don’t want to still wear maternity?

More immediate gifts: huge chocolatey flapjacks, tv or audible subscription (netflix/Disney/apple tv), meals for your fridge/ freezer. Takeaway vouchers

PinkButtercups · 12/07/2023 19:19

Personally, I think this is ridiculous and a horrible name for it.

TappingTed · 12/07/2023 19:20

Eeew a push present is a gross term. What if you have a Section? Is that not worthy of a gift as you don’t push? Or more worthy as you’re cut open?
what about forceps?

Jongleterre · 12/07/2023 19:21

What a horrible 'chavvy' concept.

Neverinamonthofsundays · 12/07/2023 19:21

Google the australian show 'Yummy mummies'. It has MANY jawdropping and tacky moments but definitely the first time I heard this 'term'.

Beaconofasseptability · 12/07/2023 19:22

I've heard of an eternity ring as a present but after the last child but I have never in my life heard it called a push present.

PinkPlantCase · 12/07/2023 19:24

TappingTed · 12/07/2023 19:20

Eeew a push present is a gross term. What if you have a Section? Is that not worthy of a gift as you don’t push? Or more worthy as you’re cut open?
what about forceps?

Lol is forceps a pull present 😂

BingandSulaandFlop · 12/07/2023 19:24

My DH got me some antipasti. Best push present ever!

Capitulatingpanda · 12/07/2023 19:26

Yes a couple of women in my NCT got fancy jewellery for their first baby.

Confusion101 · 12/07/2023 19:28

I'm not a fan of the phrase but yes it's a thing I have heard of. It's not something I entertained but my understanding of it is its supposed to be given by the child's father. Anyone I know who got one got a piece of jewellery to mark the occasion!

TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/07/2023 19:32

I think your mum has misunderstood the term. It is the baby's father who gives a "push present" (bleugh).

Did your mum also come on baby moon with you?

Mugviper · 12/07/2023 19:39

I really don’t like the term but my husband bought me a necklace after each of our children were born. This was over 15 years ago so it has been a thing for while. I love wearing them and our children know what they represent. I had an horrific birth with our 2nd so got diamonds for that one 🤣. It’s normally the husband that buys the present (he was v traumatised after the birth too).

PickledScrump · 12/07/2023 19:43

what in the tacky mess is a push present? Gifts for the new parents or baby is common. This sounds like an American entitlement term.

madeleine85 · 12/07/2023 19:54

Similar to the above, my mum did get an eternity ring I think from my dad. When I had a little one I joked that my push present was the baby :). If she is offering, maybe get something nice for yourself, a manicure/spa thing for a wee bit after if you can get away and de-stress. Very thoughtful of her to offer. The naming of the "push present" is weird, and i've only seen richer people of our generation use it, but enjoy it :)