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HannahCarlos · 12/07/2023 18:45

Anyone asked for a push present or getting one? My mother asked what I wanted for my push present lol and I have no clue

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PaintedEgg · 12/07/2023 21:52

I have not asked to anything specific but I am expecting to get one or someone's going to die ;P

grunttheterrible · 12/07/2023 22:14

I've only heard of it in the context of a dad giving it to a new mum...

neleh87 · 12/07/2023 22:18

Dislike the term and traditionally I think it's supposed to be the (rich) father of the baby that buys the (expensive) present. However my mom did buy me some nice bath products as I'd been missing a nice hot bath during pregnancy 😊

Q2C4 · 12/07/2023 22:26

Beaconofasseptability · 12/07/2023 19:01

I've never heard of this I'm old. What is it? Like a present for having a baby? What if you have a section? Don't you get one if you didn't push?

No, I told my husband you get 2... one for the op, one for the baby 😉

USaYwHatNow · 12/07/2023 22:31

My mum had a eternity ring when I was born? (first baby, 31 years ago) and my husband recently bought me an eternity ring as our little boy is nearly a year old. So not a push present per se 😂

Snugglemonkey · 13/07/2023 07:19

I fot an eternity ring for my first baby. Would never dream of calling it a push present.

Whereisthesummer · 13/07/2023 07:26

i joked about it my other half’s ordered me some garden furniture we were going to buy it anyway but now it’s my push present
also accepting glasses of wine and slabs of Brie

Borracha · 13/07/2023 07:31

Ok, the name is a bit naff but surely it's used tongue in cheek.

I think it's nice for the new mum to receive something to mark the occasion, just as you might buy someone a gift to celebrate their graduation or 18th birthday.

My husband bought me piece of jewellery after each of our 3 children were born and it has huge sentimental value to me. DC1 - a necklace with their name. DC2 - a ring with their birthstone. DC3 - a bracelet with a stone that reflected their name.

If it helps the critics, I also bought him a 'nice' pair of cufflinks after each kid was born and I treated myself something each time I finished my maternity leave as a sort of reward/reminder.

Peony654 · 13/07/2023 07:47

The name is weird, but if she’s offering you could ask for a massage / spa voucher?

jammydodgie · 13/07/2023 07:48

My hubby got me a Pandora necklace, I wasn't expecting anything but it was a really sweet thought.

Ginger1982 · 13/07/2023 08:15

Yuck! If it must he done, it comes from your partner, not your mother!

gogomoto · 13/07/2023 08:17

Never heard of that expression in the U.K. in real life. Flowers are sometimes given in my experience, gifts are for the baby

justanothermanicmonday1 · 13/07/2023 08:19

Nope didn't ask or expect.

I did come home to balloons, flowers & a home made photo album from my DP.

Due our second in less than 2 weeks and told DP not to bother as we have a very rowdy toddler taking up all our time 🤣

Insidenumber09 · 13/07/2023 08:56

Agree with PP it’s vulgar.

A baby is the best “push” present you could ever wish for surely!!

Hugasauras · 13/07/2023 08:58

I ended up having to have a C section with zero pushing so DH took my brand new Range Rover back to the shop Sad

BlockedButWhy · 13/07/2023 09:05

I have never heard of this!! Can I ask DH for one even though DS is 6 months old now...👀

NatMoz · 13/07/2023 09:11

My husband got me a beautiful ring after the birth of my baby. It has a blue sapphire which matches her eye colour 😍. She's 18 months but when she's older she will know that's what the ring resembles and i suppose she will inherit when I'm dead🤣

OhamIreally · 13/07/2023 09:26

ohfook · 12/07/2023 19:17

People act on here like it's a new tangled thing but my grandma told me it was customary to get an eternity ring on the birth of your first child (or son) when she was having children. So about 80 years ago.

I never asked for nor expected one but received a ring after my first and a necklace after my second. I thought it was a nice acknowledgment of the fact that ultimately I'd put in all the hard work in order to grow our family.

My grandmother said the same. She had my mum in 1938. She said my grandfather called it a 'maternity ring" for that reason.

My ex bought me a diamond bracelet. It catches on things.

LillyRuth · 13/07/2023 18:27

i didn't ask for such a gift but i was pleased to receive a subscription box. it was full of cute items for pregnancy. you can ask your mom to order this for you. the subscription i received is bump to mom. here is their website

pleasestopmessagingme · 13/07/2023 18:30

My husband bought me a bottle of Jo Malone - Pomegranate Noir about 8 months after our DC was born. We joke that was my push present 😂

PuttingDownRoots · 13/07/2023 18:31

They were referred to as "Push Presents" when my eldest was born 12 years ago.

DH bought a dishwasher. He thought it would be useful. (He was right!)

MaryJean87 · 13/07/2023 18:33

I'm a mum of 4 and never had one or asked for one, but I've had 4 c sections so maybe I'm undeserving of a " push" present.

Notajollyholly · 13/07/2023 18:38

A father supporting a new mother, by changing nappies and doing night feeds would be good. Going forward happily spending quality time with the kids alone or as a family unit would be preferable to a necklace surely? It's a tacky term within a greedy society imho

pleasestopmessagingme · 13/07/2023 18:42

MaryJean87 · 13/07/2023 18:33

I'm a mum of 4 and never had one or asked for one, but I've had 4 c sections so maybe I'm undeserving of a " push" present.

Are you bitter about having C-Sections or something?

DinnaeFashYersel · 13/07/2023 18:45

Sounds utterly tasteless