SINGLE MUM AND PREGNANT AGAIN

[rosepetals2023]

Hi ladies,
Looking for some advice. I have a 2 year old DS from previous marriage. Have been in a short relationship and was on the pill. Ended it after he kept accusing me of cheating (completely untrue) and later found out he had been seeing another woman which is probably why he kept accusing me. He kept mentioning to come off the pill and that he wanted kids but I refused as it was far too early and I continued taking it.

Despite being on the pill I’ve found out I’m pregnant a week after splitting. I told him straight away and did a test infront of him which came up positive. He still didn’t believe me, he then started saying if I am it’s not his. He is adamant I have an abortion and wants to attend to prove I go through with it (I do not want him attending ).

I just don’t think I could go through with it 😔I’m only 4 weeks but the thought of it haunts me.

On the other hand, I wonder how I would cope financially? I’m looking for work but on UC at the moment. However I do have some savings (all been declared to UC). I keep thinking I would be tied to this man for 18 years. I’ve come to terms with the fact I would most likely be doing it alone and would happily not put him on BC or chase him for maintenance.

What would you do in this situation? Any advice much appreciated, my head is all over the place at the moment.

hun this is ur baby, even with a shit head dad he/she would have a wonderful mum. if u don't want to have an abortion don't do it!
u will manage the exact same as everyone else before u has managed!!
i know the situation is not ideal but u don't have to be tied to him. u don't have to have anything to do with him at all.
u do not sound like u want to have an abortion and hun m when it's too late it's too late. once u do it it's the rest of ur life thinking.
btw i am not anti abortion before anyone starts. but i think from the way u are talking this is not for u, u really need to get some professional medical advice and quick. unless of course you have made ur decision/ben to hospital then i'm sorry. but please please think careful this will impact the rest of ur life in one way or another, and woman are more than capable of raising kids on their own. until it is happeneing to u u cannot rely on how other people should feel.