November 2023 babies - thread 4

[AngeloMysterioso]

Here you go!

Aw seems to be kind of even here then. We are having a little girl and I’m 21 + 2 .
I’m feeling like I’ve put a fair bit of weight on but I’m going by how I’m feeling rather than fact. I’m trying to up the fitness a little - walking more and generally being more active. I’m just loving my bed at the moment though!

2 stone gain here and 23 weeks. Put on over 4 stone with my first (when I was the fittest and leanest I've ever been before falling pregnant).

Was a overweight to start with this time 11stone 8 and 5ft 7, so not feeling great about gaining similarly, but looks like this is what my body does. Relentless nausea, no sickness in first trimester seems to be where things go wrong. I joined SW a few weeks ago to try and curb the gain but struggling to stick to it every day.

Fed up of people commenting on my size. Fed up of not being found attractive by my OH and fed up of comparing my weight gain to other pregnant people who gain the recommended amount. It's shit.

I was overweight before I got pregnant, but lost 6kg in first trimester. I've put 2kg of the loss back on now at 20 weeks so at an overall loss of 4kg, but as my appetite returns I imagine the rate of acquisition will speed up! I'm much much bigger at the front though, past week I've had people who know telling me how much of a lovely bump I have. At least they had the sense to leave out how massive it is, but can't bring themselves to say lovely little bump as that would be a lie 😆.

I was overweight by 1 and a half stone before pregnancy- I blame covid and the trying to get pregnant/loses journey.
I know I’m likely to gain about 2 stone whilst pregnant based on previous pregnancies. So likely to hit the 13 stone plus mark.
The first stone melts away quite
quickly but the second hangs around me forever!
My sub 9 stone weight of pre children times seems an impossibility now! If I can get back down to 10 1/2 I’ll be happy, I’ll still be overweight on bmi but happy!

Hi, I haven't really posted on this thread but is anyone feeling very low and not themselves? I was over the moon to be having a baby girl (my second child) and I still am but i feel like I have flitted from worrying about everything to not even caring anymore. I'm not eating and I can't sleep and I have pushed everyone away. I just feel so alone. Is this normal? I felt it with my first pregnant but my mum was ill with cancer and then passed away so I assumed it was that making me stressed. I didn't seek help for fear of being labelled or my child being took away but I feel so unhappy this time around that I have even told my partner its not working anymore :(

@Jojobear18 you had a tough pregnancy last time, could it be subconsciously triggering you now you're at a similar stage? Have you spoken to your midwife?

I asked for a mental health referal this time round as I had real problems including self harm at the end of my last pregnancy. I was so ashamed, and scared I didn't tell anyone until several months after my daughter was born. It's taken me time to realise that it wasn't OK, and I shouldn't have just been able to 'get on with it' but what I really needed was help. I've been referred to the perinatal mh team and am hoping it'll help prevent this happening again. I'm already finding some days hard with feeling low, even though I can't single out a cause, hormones must be playing a part too.

Your midwife will be able to help you get some support, it'd be good to talk it through with someone x

@Jojobear18 im so sorry you are feeling this way, this is my first pregnancy to get this far and i am feeling the exact same, i had a conversation with my husband last night, i am being very needy and paranoid, i feel like something changed between us which he says is silly. I too am not eating properly and sleeping is terrible due to carpal tunnel and also insomnia, i feel so guilty because this is a really wanted pregnancy and i am so down in the dumps. My husband keeps saying i should be happy this is what we wanted, and its not that im not happy about the baby, i just feel out of sorts. Im hoping it resolves itself, i sat until 5am chatting to my husband and crying this morning and i do feel better for it.

You are 100% not alone and it may be just one of these things we have to grin and bear, i detest when women are having low mood men and others put it down to "hormones" but in this case i think it is probably true

have no real advice, but i did feel better once i kind of got everything off my chest even though it is near impossible to articulate the feeling i have.

@Jojobear18 sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. I suffered badly from anxiety in my pregnancy with my DD and had CBT on the NHS. They were quick to refer and you get priority as a pregnant woman and I think in early parenthood. I went on to have PND and took medication for two years, came off it for a year and then back on it after my last miscarriage. I am still taking sertraline and will continue to do so. It makes a massive difference to how I function and makes me a better wife and mother and generally a happier person. I also had counselling at the end of last year which was a big help. I suppose what I’m saying is don’t be ashamed of speaking out and getting the help you need. Pregnancy can do strange things to your mental health and I think we underestimate how much we put our bodies and minds through.

Thank you all so much, I have finally spoke to my partner about how I have felt, and it felt so good letting it all out. I still feel somewhat anxious but just talking and having your support has helped massively. I felt like I couldn't shake how I was feeling, it had took a complete hold which felt and still feels scary. I do feel somewhat lighter, I have ate a small meal and hope to sleep better tonight. Night all and thank you again from the bottom of my heart.

Is anybody else struggling with anxiety now that baby is moving? It's all I wanted since I started my second trimester and now I am feeling full on kicks I can't help but analyse them. On Monday baby had quite an active day so now I am worrying that yesterday and today I am not feeling as much even though I am still feeling him move and kick!
Silly I know because he is still so tiny he has probably just moved to a different position where I can't feel as much but this doesn't stop the anxiety!

@TMI2000 yep this is me just now 😫 I was up at 5.30 this morning googling what was normal movement for 22 weeks! I’m the same I really felt baby a lot last week and the past few days I’ve barely felt anything. I think we are over analysing as they are so tiny still, I believe it’s not until 28 weeks plus that you should be noticing a pattern. I also have an anterior placenta so telling myself that might be having an effect. The anxiety never ends!! 😬🥲

I was out running over the weekend and whilst doing so, I passed out 😩 made a bit of a mess of myself, lots of cuts and bruises! But obviously I was mostly worried about baby as I landed face/tummy down. My midwife said go straight to hospital so I did, they were great & saw me straight away & confirmed babies heartbeat & asked if I’d be more reassured if I saw him on the scan - of course!! So then we got to see him kicking away - hitting my placenta the entire time, which is also anterior. I’ve been feeling obvious kicks since about 21 weeks & I’m 24 weeks tomorrow. But the scan showed me that so much of his movements are still shielded.

I just wondered if anybody is experiencing stitch? I’ve been getting it quite bad any time I walk/run(fall over!) over the last week, I’ve googled and it suggests it is round ligament pain. Just wondered if anybody else would describe it as a stitch like feeling too x

@DollyGx so glad I'm not the only one! It's just frustrating because I was convinced once I had my anomaly scan I would stop panicking🙄 and I feel slightly silly now because I've felt baby boy quite a bit today 😂Oh the joys of pregnancy!

@Mldn Glad to hear baby is all okay but sorry to hear you have hurt yourself! Make sure you take time to rest up and recover!
I have been getting the odd pain when I stretch or turn suddenly that does feel like a stitch but tends to be lower down, admittedly though, I'm not much of a runner! 😅

@TMI2000 ok our babies must be communicating because I’ve also felt her kick m quite a bit today after writing that reply 🤣🤣 yeah I thought I’d chill a bit after the 20 week scan, how silly of me to think such a thing 🥲😂
@Mldn oh what a fright for you, so glad baby is ok and hope you’re on the road to recovery. Same as TMI2000 I tend to get a sort of stitch pain if I get up or move suddenly.

I get stitch every time I get up or move always in the same place on my right side down above my pubic bone , it hurts so much I bend over for a few mins to ease the pain , has anyone else had the horse cramp yet in the legs ? I had it twice this morning omg how I don't miss the horse cramp lol 😂🤦‍♀️. I'm now half way there , my scan is tomorrow so hopefully will tell me where my placenta is fully , I've been feeling baby move & kick and even saw a hand or foot poke out the other day lol 😂

@Mldn I hope your ok & get you get plenty of rest glad baby boy is doing ok xx

So after a stressful 24 hours I can say baby is doing okay.
Had my 20 week scan yesterday, baby is measuring small (but it's an expected thing for me for various reasons) currently around 10th centile or so. However sonographer was concerned she saw some areas of echogenic bowel so I was referred to fetal med for urgent review, they managed to fit me in today and my consultant scanned me. Luckily she isn't concerned about the bowel and thinks it is probably just that baby has swallowed some blood (I had a bleed about 3 weeks ago). Found that I'm yet another one with an anterior placenta but it is also low lying but again not concerned. So wants to see me again at 26 weeks to check growth and see if placenta has moved yet. Also found out that I'm having a girl. 🙂

@LeeanneD11 thank you! So relieved baby boy was okay. I managed to make a bit of a mess of myself - lots of cuts & bruises but thankfully nothing too serious 😅 I’m only 5”3 - surprised you can bang yourself in so many places on the way down! The stitch I’m getting is painful enough, not sure I want the leg cramps too. Think I’ve had a bit of a growth spurt the last week or so as I’m defo carrying a big bump now - this was before we took our fall on Sunday x

Aww your bump is so petite! An cute 🥰 baby boys tend to be carrying loads in the same atm and I'm only 20w+2d lol 😂 this is my bump now I feel like I've had a growth spurt too lol 😂, I'm massive but I think it's due to my cyst too on my ovaries as not sure how big it's measuring now , will find out tomorrow , did they say how much baby weighs at the moment ? Xx

I don’t think you look massive at all! Looks lovely & petite. No idea how much the baby weighs, they never mentioned my cyst to me in my last scan either.
Hope tomorrow goes okay for you @LeeanneD11 x

Thank you I feel massive lol 😂 Last I went to scan at 16 weeks my little boy was weighing 5oz so really small , but I've got low papp-a too so extra monitoring for me . Oh how strange could you call them and ask them about the cyst? Unless it's strunk in size . Thank you so much I'm nervous but I shouldn't be xx

You both have lovely bumps 😍

In the past week, I've also felt like my tummy is expanding suddenly! Any recommendations for stretch mark cream? I don't like the smell of Palmer's cocoa butter.

I've also felt very low this week and was caught with insomnia. I rang the mental health midwifery team again to see if they could expedite my appointment, it's late next week. The woman was lovely and she reassured me and said there'd help put together a birth and post-birth mental health plan. I think whoever is struggling should really consider getting a referral as there is support now. It wasn't like that 11 years ago.

@JoyApple ah thank you!! I’ve been using Mama Mio body cream & waleda oil. They’re slightly pricey (imagine any moisturiser does the same really!) but they were both on really good offers on lookfantastic the other week! I like them both so far.

@LeeanneD11 I haven’t asked about my cyst, I figured they’d let me know if it was anything to worry about. I hope you got on okay today! Xx

@Mldn

Hello I got on very well baby was being very stubborn so had to walk around & go back in lol but defo a boy , they didn't mention my cyst either so guessing it's strunk in size and no longer there now haha , I have an extra scan at 32 weeks & 36 weeks due to my placenta but another one here with anterior placenta too so hopefully I feel strong kicks soon even thou I feel him move and kick but not strong ones yet how are you doing today xx

@LeeanneD11 ah great news! Yeh they only mentioned my cyst in the earlier scans & they did say they’re fairly common & tend to go away throughout pregnancy. So hopefully that’s the case! I have no more nhs scans, but I’ve booked a 4D scan in for when I’m 28 weeks. So I’m counting down till that! I’m okay thanks, body still pretty bruised and achey from the fall over the weekend & I am feeling it a little today so tried to take it easy! I struggle so much to sit still 😅 x