MMC how long does it take for your body to realise

[Unicorn2023]

I have my next appointment on Wednesday but last two scans I’m measuring 6 weeks one without fetal pole and one with so because there is change they won’t do anything but nurse said it’s not good. Should be ten week 4 days. How long will it take for my body to realise? Pregnancy tests are so light and it’s not hook effect I tried watering it down.
Please anyone?

Hello,

Sorry to read what you are going through. It isn't an easy time.
Unfortunately I was in a similar situation in October. My body didn't realise and I did need intervention.
Hope you have a positive outcome 🤞

@nicolay297 Hi,
so sorry this has happened to you 😢 do you mind if I ask did you get a D&C? Read so many people took the tablets and it was horrific. I have a high pain threshold but I don’t want anymore pain than I’m going through losing yet another baby x

Sorry for your loss x The first time I miscarried I waited for nature to take its course, and it took 10 weeks from the pregnancy failing. It was a very unpleasant experience and I ended up in A&E due to excessive blood loss. I’ve had 3 miscarriages since then (as well as a diagnosed cause which led to a successful pregnancy and a currently going well pregnancy) and I opted for medical management with the other miscarriages.

I had a mmc last year and it took 3 weeks for my body to realise and then 48 hours of obscene labour pains and huge blood loss. I was advised by the hospital to let nature take its course but I think a medical operation would have been better and had less long term trauma. Although that is just speculation!

I had medical intervention after 5 weeks.

The pills were fine for me, it wasn't pleasant but it was only a bit heavier than a period. The heavy bleeding lasted half a day.

Really sorry to hear you’re going through this

I had a D&C (twice) in a similar situation…but the tablets weren’t available back then. It can take a while for the hormones to lower enough for the body to let go of the pregnancy, so once the medical situation is clear, if you need intervention then I’d go with a D&C; the immediacy of it moves you on - physically and emotionally - which whilst hard is a relief from the exhausting weeks of not knowing.

That said I am hoping for a small miracle for you 🤞

I found the tablets much less scary than the natural miscarriage. I had more control over my environment, privacy, and a massive glass of wine after (probably not recommended but no one judged me for it!).

I found each time very painful for about 40 minutes right at the end - you have contractions to expel everything. Very painful during those 40 minutes but not really in the lead up and as soon as everything had been passed it stopped hurting instantly. On my last miscarriage once I’d taken the second set of pills (as they work better if you take them I think it was about 24 hours apart) I went to bed and made myself sleep until the active part of miscarrying started.

On one of the occasions I needed 2 doses. Due to a protest closing the road between the two main hospitals in my city I ended up with a nurse who was covering and she incorrectly advised me to alternate paracetamol with ibuprofen. Don’t do this, ibuprofen interrupts the medication and this caused it to fail. Had my second dose 4 days later and it took about 5 hours from taking it to it all being over.

I hope my experience helps x

@Littlegoth so sorry you your losses too that’s absolutely heartbreaking 💔x this will be my 5th miscarriage except my body is hanging onto it for some reason it never gets any easier but for some reason this time is worse because your just left in limbo not knowing. I’m hoping this time they find out what’s wrong with me as I am ready to give up I don’t think my body can take much more of this been trying for 5 years and every time it ends in heartache. Congratulations on your pregnancy 🤰🏼 I’m so happy for you sending you love and hugs 🤗♥️ x

@ibis17 so sorry you went through this that’s absolutely heartbreaking 💔 if I don’t start bleeding by wednesday I think I’ll go with a D&C I just want to get it over and done with it’s killing me and I don’t want anymore pain it’s terrible they made the decision for you as it takes it toll on your body sending you love and hugs 🤗

@Unicorn2023 It’s utterly soul destroying, so cruel x I really hope they find a cause or at least the right combination of medicines that help you have a successful pregnancy. It’s just so unfair that this keeps happening to you xx

@CuteOrangeElephant sorry for your loss 💔😢 I think I could cope with that as my periods are normally heavy but Google is the worst and all I’ve read is that people ended up having to go back and have a D&C because it didn’t remove it all 😢 my heads all over the place just want it over and done with. Sending you love and hugs 🤗

@Umbellifer so sorry for your loss 😢💔 I appreciate you saying that as it’s been though enough to go through more pain I don’t think would be good for me. Sending you love and hugs and hope you get your rainbow soon ♥️🤗

@Littlegoth i will definitely be getting wine on the way home so definitely no judgement here. Thank you for sharing your experience with me it has helped a lot ♥️ xx

I had a MMC in similar circumstances- 10 weeks and measuring 6 weeks with no heartbeat.

I opted for the tablet once the 10 days had passed. However, I started bleeding naturally the night before I went in. When I went in, the nurses told me that as I started naturally I was probably best to let it continue. Days wants by. I knew something wasn't right because I was bleeding constantly and having periods of the Labour pains to pass clots. I kept ringing the EPU and then kept fobbing me off One nurse said 'If you can't tolerate the pain, you need to go to A&E.'

4 weeks later I went back for my scan to check it had all gone. I was still bleeding and passing bits sporadically. I was also severely unwell by this point! Surprise surprise it hadn't all gone so I was booked in for the D&C the next.

Overnight, more bleeding and more large clots. They thought this must be it so scanned again the next morning and found there was still some there!!! So then I had the D&C. By this point I was severely anaemia and needed two units of blood. The consultant said I should never have been left to get into this state.

So all in all from the initial scan to returning to work took me 8 weeks. I was really really ill and it felt like nobody cared when I was saying something was wrong. It felt like something was stuck inside me, hard to explain.

I now always say to anybody who has a miscarriage, go and push for the D&C as your first choice. If I'd done that I would have been back at work within a couple of days and I wouldn't have got so ill!!

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's incredibly cruel!

@Littlegoth can I ask what it was causing you to lose ur precious baby’s? It’s ok if you don’t want to answer just wondering if it’s might be something that’s causing mine ♥️ it is soul destroying especially when you see people having babies no bother or by accident and I can’t even hold onto one xx

@teaandbiscuitsforme That is absolutely horrific 💔😢 I don’t understand why they don’t listen to us when we say we know something is not right we know our bodies and I think it’s absolutely shocking they let it go that far to make you end up so unwell! It’s the hardest thing I’ve went through and I’ve had 4 miscarriages already the fact my body is holding onto it is worse 😭 sending you lots of love strength and baby dust xx

Dearest@Unicorn2023 this so wretched for you, I had the same number of MC and I know that each one breaks your heart a little more.

One “advantage” of a D&C would be that the tissues could be examined afterwards to help find a possible cause; it’s not a nice thought but if it helps your next pregnancy stick then it would be worth it.

I went for the tablets first, and unfortunately it resulted in an incomplete miscarriage. I then had the tablets again with no change. So it resulted in a D&C.

Personally, I'd go for the D&C if I'm unfortunate enough to experience it again. But that's purely due to my own experience.

So so sorry you're going through this. It's absolutely horrible. I had a MMC last August. Baby stopped growing at 8 weeks but I only found out at 13 weeks during the dating scan. As it had already been a few weeks and my body wasn't getting into gear, I chose the MVA (manual vacuum aspiration). It was uncomfortable but the whole procedure only took about 10 minutes and I was able to relax with a cup of tea and some biscuits afterwards before going home. The staff were all incredibly kind. I bled for a few days afterwards but had no pain.
Do look after yourself and make sure you get the support and rest you need. I made the mistake of just cracking on with work like nothing had happened but my mental health was spiralling. I was full of anxiety that only calmed down after I allowed myself a good few days in bed with Netflix to distract me from reality. I also had some councelling with a bereavement midwife so do ask you local maternity centre or midwife team if they can refer you. Wishing you all the best! x

@Umbellifer I’m so sorry for your losses it never gets easier 😢💔 I think that’s the reason I would get a D&C just so they can tell me once and for all what’s wrong as I can’t keep going on like this 😢 hope you get you rainbow soon sending lots of love and hugs ♥️🤗🌈

@nicolay297 thank you for your reply and sorry you went through this 😢💔 I think I will go for D&C I don’t think I can cope with anymore pain. Sending you lots of love and hugs ♥️🤗🌈 x

My beautiful rainbow is here @Unicorn2023. He was born from a donated egg and my DH’s sperm as my consultant said that because he couldn’t find a reason for it going wrong (and we tried everything) then he couldn’t say it wouldn’t happen indefinitely - after 7 MC I had to give up as it was wrecking my MH.

So there are other options to consider if you need to, when you’re ready; I couldn’t love my boy any more and the lack of a genetic link between us is irrelevant, we are as close as close could be (and yes he knows how he came about).

All the very best to you and everyone else struggling to have a little one x

@UnicornRainbowSky so sorry you went through this it’s absolutely heartbreaking 💔 I think I will go with what ever is quickest probably D&C as I don’t think I could cope with anymore pain it’s taking it toll just now. I really hope you are feeling a bit better now and get your rainbow soon 🌈 it’s so hard to try and put a face on and carry on so I get how you felt it’s so unfair that this is happening to us 😢 sending you love hugs and I really hope you get your rainbow soon 🌈🤗♥️

@Umbellifer oh my goodness that is amazing news I’m so happy for you 😘♥️ to be honest I don’t think it matters where you came from or how it came about I’m just so happy your story has a happy ending xx