MMC how long does it take for your body to realise

[Unicorn2023]

I have my next appointment on Wednesday but last two scans I’m measuring 6 weeks one without fetal pole and one with so because there is change they won’t do anything but nurse said it’s not good. Should be ten week 4 days. How long will it take for my body to realise? Pregnancy tests are so light and it’s not hook effect I tried watering it down.
Please anyone?

@Unicorn2023 my losses were due to antiphospholipid syndrome, a clotting disorder that causes my platelets to stick together and clot (sticky blood). I take 150mg aspirin a night forever to prevent the sticky blood as it can cause issues outside of pregnancy too, and when pregnant I’m given blood thinning injections from a positive test. My last miscarriage was following a successful pregnancy so for the next one they added progesterone which seems to have been the missing ingredient x

@Littlegoth it’s crazy how something like that can affect pregnancy but I am so glad they managed to sort it for you ♥️ I’m hoping for more answers soon to stop this happening xx

I’m so sorry for all you’ve been through, OP, I’m sending you so much love and strength and hope the rest of your journey is smooth.

I had a MMC during the first week of the first lockdown and as such, was made to wait for it to happen naturally, that didn’t happen so then they gave me the tablets, they didn’t work so I finally got the MVA (which is what I would have chosen to start with), so have tried them all. Personally, I’d go for the MVA, especially if you do just want it over and done with. It was super quick, only slightly uncomfortable (they’d finished before I even thought they’d properly started!) and you’re in and out in a day. The midwife ADVISED starting my medication the next day (antibiotics, I think they were) so I could have a glass of wine that night, too! 😂 My body had held on for four weeks initially then around another five weeks of the expectant and medical management, so it can hold on for quite some time.

I hope you’re well looked after and get some answers soon, I’ll be thinking of you xx

@SkyBlue20 I’m so sorry this has happened to you 😢💔 🤗 I really hope you have your Rainbow now 🌈 Yeah I just want it over and done with now every morning I wake up happy then the realisation of what’s happening hits me and I could cry for days but I do have great support which is good 🤗 oh a wine is a must and it might help me sleep 🍷🤣

Thinking of you too sending you love and hugs life is so unfair at times xx

Thank you so much. It was a really tough time. Good luck with the next few weeks, really sorry you have to go through this.

I had a MMC july 2020, I opted for an MVA, much less invasive than a D&C and in and out pretty much. Have a look into it, I requested it

Hi op, just wanted to give some insight on my experience as I don't think it was as scary sounding as some others.

I found at at 13 weeks 2 days that baby had died at 10 weeks 6 days. I booked in for d&c but naturally miscarried at 14 weeks at home. It is painful but bareable, it's the emotional side that's traumatic and having to flush away loss. I didn't know baby had even come out and flushed away 😔. My waters also broke it was very strange. They checked me the next day and I had small amount of pregnancy tissue left so gave me 4 misprosotol tablets orally and I contracted for about 2-4 hours loosing some shockingly large clots and then it was just light bleeding for about 2 weeks. My pregnancy tests were negative within a week of the initial bleeding and cycles resumed as usual 36 days after.

It is traumatic emotionally more than anything but I found the pain bareable. I have given birth full term before tho so maybe that helps!

Also I'm so so sorry for your loss ♥️

@Ttcmumma I am so sorry this happened to you it’s devastating 😢 I appreciate you telling me ♥️ I think that’s the part I'm worried about the emotional side because I seem to just shut off to protect everyone else and pretend I’m ok but I know this time I won’t be. Sending you lots of love, hugs and strength ♥️🤗 xx

I've had both d&c (14 weeks) and medical management(9 weeks)
It was OK with the tablets, painful but i was given some good pain killers by epu. If they were going to send me home with just over counter stuff I had already thought I would ask for surgery but they gave me strong painkillers without me even asking. ( had read horror stories of ladies not having anything). Pain was quite intense first day but I was able to curl up with hot water bottle and it was manageable. I was surprised by the big clots but overall ok. And for me it helped feel the miscarriage process to come to terms with it. It also felt more controlled than I thought it would.

D&c I was so scared as it was my first general ansthetic but it was OK and bleeding was less than the pills. Although heaver at first. It was just so sad waking up from it and knowing no baby. ( I know there wasn't before) emotionally it was harder I cried for a day but physically easier.

I'm so sorry you have had so many MC . I hope the Dr's are able to investigate this for you more.

@Sailawaygirl I’m so sorry you went through this twice my heart really does goes out to you 😢 I think that’s going to be the hardest part even though I know it’s gone it’s still inside me just now so I wake up happy and remember then I’m sad but knowing it’s gone (removed) will be crushing 😢 I really hope you get your 🌈 soon sending you lots of love and hugs 🤗♥️

I honestly won’t be leaving this time until someone tells me what’s wrong with me because I’m just blaming myself now feel like I’m letting everyone down 🌈♥️

I do, thank you - my little rainbow girl is two now 🥰 Will never forget the one we lost though 🤍 I’m glad you’ve got good support - that’s invaluable - and I hope you get answers soon xx

Last scan today I’m so heartbroken 💔 I’ve prepared myself for them saying it’s no longer there but I’m crushed inside this is so hard 😢

Hope you are being looked after @Unicorn2023 , whatever happened at the scan xx

So sorry you are going through this 😢 I had a similar situation in February and it took my body 6 weeks to realise ... I had to go in for the surgical option as I was in so much pain and wasn't passing what I needed to naturally.. hope your okay x

@Clo1993 Just coming to terms with it just now 😢 it’s so hard 💔 I picked surgical too just want to move on even though I’m am devastated. Hope you are ok sending love and hugs ❤️🤗 xxx

@Umbellifer I am being well looked after thank you so much for checking it means a lot ♥️ I’ve drank a bottle of wine and my head is bursting huge mistake but it helped at the time 😢 scan was as I thought baby stopped growing so booked in for Saturday for first pills to be taken I didn’t want that but the other option they said would be two weeks and I don’t want to wait that long not what I wanted but just need to get on with it 😭🌈 xxx

Yeh it's the most awful experience a woman can ever go through and wouldn't wish it on anyone 😢 I've got 2 healthy boys at home this is the first miscarriage I've ever had and it broke my heart but us women are strong 💪 sending my love ❤️

Sorry you're going through this OP 😔

Took me about 2 weeks give or take after 8 week scan for it to happen naturally.

Had rainbow baby a year later.

Lots of hugs xx

That’s best love, just get it over with, so sorry you didn’t get your miracle this time xx

@DaisyMay25 I’m sorry this happened to you 💔 thank you for your advice sending you love and hugs x

@DeflatedAgain Sorry you went through this it’s heartbreaking and so unfair 😢💔 congratulations on your 🌈 🤗 xx

@Unicorn2023 oh god I'm sorry they didn't have the options you wanted. I hope the pills work well though and you come out the other side as well as you can. Take time off work, it's gonna be a lot emotionally, don't think I ever really came to terms with mine. Self care is a must ❤️

@Umbellifer Thank you so much ❤️ xx

Thank you to each and every person who commented on this post it really has helped me and given me a lot of strength ♥️🤗 xxx