New relationship, had a drunken fumble... I took the morning after pill... now I'm pregnant. Without to much detail.... he says he kinda knew in that split moment that he had a choice but like a bowling ball went for the strike! He said he sensed that I would be pregnant.
We are both into each other but we've not really got our relationship off the ground. Early days I guess.
I'm pregnant, 41, He's 48. we both have 4 children each from our previous marriages my youngest is 12 his youngest is 5.... the others range from 15-24.
I had a abortion consultation yesterday and it just feels sooooooo wrong to me. I think i want to try and have this baby if my body would allow it. He however thinks i should terminate. He says he's to old and wants to travel.... all of which won't be happening anytime soon because he's probably the most disorganised man I've ever met. He has week on week off with his son and he's knackered that week and then recovering the following week and then the loop continues.
I know that I can afford to have this baby alone, financially, physically and emotionally but I just hate how he feels that I am controlling and have his life in my hands. He said it's important that we are 50-50 on decisions but we are not on the same page. I feel my 50 is agreeing to terminate which gives him his own way.
He has said it's my choice and will support me and the baby.... but he doesn't think that I'll relationship will survive it. I think I'll only be having a termination because I feel like he doesn't want it.... but at times he's been excited. I believe if I terminated I wouldn't be able to be in his life.
Am I being unreasonable to put myself first... my first four children were planned yet when my marriage dissolved my husband left all five of us... not just me.... having very little contact with our children. I've raised them alone for just over 12 years (husband had an affair, left when I was 34weeks pregnant) the only consistent thing he's done is be an arse!
I've started to confide in my friends and they've all said you make your decision for you not for anyone else.
Anyone got any experience or advice x