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Baby due tomorrow, annoyed with so many people wanting updates!

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vixenwasp · 04/02/2008 16:12

I'm feeling a bit guilty for being annoyed but baby is due tomorrow and so many people keep leaving me messages everywhere and calling me to ask if there are any signs of baby........

I know I'd be upset if nobody cared but I find that I spend all day looking out for the signs and I get my hopes up but when it doesn't progress, its disappointing, and I really don't want people asking me, especially when they say "tell him to hurry up" and he isn't even late yet!! Am I expected to tell everyone when my labour starts and then inform them again when baby is born!

Sorry rant over, anyone else feel like this or am I being selfish?

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MrsMattie · 04/02/2008 16:14

YANBU.OK, you are being a bit unreasonable, but it's fairly normal :-) I wouldn't think you need to tell anyone other than immediate family when you go into labour. Just wait until the baby is born!

LilRedWG · 04/02/2008 16:14

Go out for the day tomorrow! Seriously, if you don't want to tell people any details until the baby is born, then don't! It's your baby and your body.

Good luck!

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vixenwasp · 04/02/2008 16:19

hehe thanks for the honesty, its not that I don't want to tell anyone anything, just not as many people that are asking... Guess I just want baby to come now, fed up of the preg part and its giving me unreasonable rage !

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dippydeedoo · 04/02/2008 16:22

its bloody awful when peeps keep saying 'are u still here?' no im not its a mirage ......youre at the end of a long wait it will soon be here and then you will have all the fuss of it being here ..people do only mean well ...still bloody annoying tho... cant u just iggy all calls?

WigWamBam · 04/02/2008 16:25

Sometimes people want to say something but don't know quite what to say, so they just say the first thing that comes into their head - which isn't mean to offend, even if it makes you want to wallop them!

Just remember that they don't mean to upset you. They're excited for you and they care about you; don't be cross with them for that.

Nbg · 04/02/2008 16:27

I sent out a text message to everyone in my phone asking them not to call or text me asking "if theres any signs".

They were all v nice about it.

Champagneforlunch · 04/02/2008 17:04

I felt like this when Dd was due, so much so that one day I locked my self in the house and refused to answer the phone or the door to anyone. Only problem was everyone then got really worried and Dh came home from work to find out what was wrong.
Did however used to quite enjoy when my brother and his friends used to come round for lunch every day and say 'Is there a baby yet' they did this for about two months.

systemsaddict · 04/02/2008 17:09

Oh it gets worse if you go long overdue - I was 2 weeks over with ds1 then had him 2 days after I went in to be induced, and the texts and phone calls were constant!!! YANBU, it is REALLY annoying when people are constantly asking - this is what call screening is for! Dp used to want to tell our families 'oh yes, she's had it, we just couldn't be arsed letting you know, good job you checked' .

Mind you it's even worse when three weeks later people are still saying 'oh dear, not had it yet?'

PortAndLemon · 04/02/2008 17:16

Change your answerphone message to "No, the baby hasn't arrived yet. Yes, we will tell you when he does. No, there aren't any signs at the moment. Yes, we are fed up with waiting. Please leave any other messages after the tone..."

Lucy10 · 04/02/2008 17:16

I completely sympathise! As soon as I went on maternity leave, 4 weeks before my due date, if I didn't reply to a text or an e-mail, people assumed I'd gone into labour. I went over and had to be induced after 11 days. I then had one of my friends constantly texting me asking if I'd given birth. I know it was only because she cared but after all that waiting and no sign (and having sat on an uncomfortable chair for 7 hours waiting for a bed) I didn't need it. It's not like I wasn't going to tell everyone as soon as the baby arrived!!!!

Vixenwasp, hope you don't have to wait too long and are not harrassed too much

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vixenwasp · 04/02/2008 18:21

excellent replies thank you, I am having a chuckle

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disneystar · 04/02/2008 21:41

quite funny replies i think i know how tedious it is and you are the one whos uncomfortable and waiting but one thing any signs yet ?not is he here or are you still here but any changes?its so exciting when the arrival is nearly here

Califrau · 04/02/2008 21:45

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ItsPotatoesForYouMyLad · 04/02/2008 21:46

i had opposite experience to systemaddict. by the time i'd got to 14 days over with ds people had stopped bothering to ask and all of a sudden i was left wondering if people had forgotten about me. poor folk can't win can they!!!

debinaustria · 04/02/2008 22:19

So? Any developments?

trish12 · 04/02/2008 23:08

hi vixenwasp, know exactly how you feel, im due tomoz also and the last few days have been a nightmare, if i had a boat with a private island, i would defo be on it right now!! with a nice glass of bubbly, non-alcoholic of course, lol! but seriously dont feel guilty, i think every pregnant woman has a leave me alone phase, weather it be at the begining or the end, anyway we are entitled to these funny moods!!

hunkermunker · 04/02/2008 23:10

Worse if it's when the baby's a month old though and they see you out and about and say, "Have you had it yet?"...!

Good luck for whenever it happens, VW.

lightwind · 05/02/2008 07:42

Hi all
Gosh, yes I've been going through the same - I'm 38 weeks now, and the past 10 days have seen a flurry of interest from scores of people and yes, I do know that they're all calling because they care and on some level I do appreciate their concern; BUT...

Well, its been getting a bit much, ie the phone calls, especially because I've been having lots of 'false labour' contractions that have been pretty full on ie painful at times, and I am so not in the mood to describe my current state of mind and body to ANYONE, esp my husband's rellies (there's one elderly aunt who calls every single day for an update). And some of them have the cheek to have a go at me if I don't get back to them in person, even if they've spoken to dh and had a full update from him - no, it seems unless I personally deliver a blow by blow account it ain't good enough.

I've decided to go on strike - the answering machine is on and if I don't feel like picking up the phone I SHAN'T. My pregnancy, my body, my baby, my business. And if they don't like it they can lump it. Or they can call my husband at work (hee hee, most of them are a bit scared of him so they don't, even though they all know where he works).

I know they will all proabably think I'm an anti-social cow - TOUGH. Maybe I am. But this cow needs to look after herself.

Ooh, feel much better after a good rant.

lightwind

2sugars · 05/02/2008 07:43

Aw, just read first post. It can be really annoying, but it's just because they care for you.

Eddas · 05/02/2008 07:54

I know exactly how you feel. I have to dc and both were very late(11 and 14 days) and it is so annoying. I doubt i'll have number 3 but if I did i'd be adding 2 weeks to my due date and then tell everyone that date. I think everyone should do that

I also hated the 'oooo aren't you big' comments, well yes there's a full sized baby in there that doesn't want to vacate!

Good luck and am sending labour vibes to you

littlelapin · 05/02/2008 07:54

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Eddas · 05/02/2008 07:55

omg that should be 2 dc, not to dc

littlelapin · 05/02/2008 07:57

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LilRedWG · 05/02/2008 10:00

systemsaddict - You made me saying, "...just couldn't be arsed letting you know", as I have a good friend who did exactly that. With both of her children I only found out she'd had them because I called to see if she was okay/anything she needed and there was a baby crying in the background!

systemsaddict · 05/02/2008 12:51

aw, does that mean I can't get away with doing that myself this time?

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