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Baby due tomorrow, annoyed with so many people wanting updates!

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vixenwasp · 04/02/2008 16:12

I'm feeling a bit guilty for being annoyed but baby is due tomorrow and so many people keep leaving me messages everywhere and calling me to ask if there are any signs of baby........

I know I'd be upset if nobody cared but I find that I spend all day looking out for the signs and I get my hopes up but when it doesn't progress, its disappointing, and I really don't want people asking me, especially when they say "tell him to hurry up" and he isn't even late yet!! Am I expected to tell everyone when my labour starts and then inform them again when baby is born!

Sorry rant over, anyone else feel like this or am I being selfish?

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LilRedWG · 05/02/2008 13:16

Please don't!

NoMoreHighHeels · 05/02/2008 14:03

Just wait until you are 14 days overdue like I was with DS - then you get sewriously annoyed with people asking!!

I'm due my second in 8 weeks and people are asking already if there is any news!!!!!!!!

Anyway, won't you be telling us on MN first when the baby arrives??!!

Good luck - hope all goes well

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vixenwasp · 05/02/2008 17:13

Still no baby today, i'm feeling lots happier now I know that others have this anti social side too my partner has to deal with it at work too hehe the same question every day.

I go to bed every night thinking woo maybe tonight my waters will break or contractions will start... havn't had a show yet though, hey ho mid wife tomorrow... thanks for the labour vibes Eddas, lets hope they work! We can't wait to see him

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vixenwasp · 05/02/2008 17:16

Oh and to the person who said its worse if someone asks when baby is a month old... have you had it yet? I agree, that would be worse, hope that doesn't happen!! lol

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vixenwasp · 13/02/2008 22:47

Went to midwife today, 41 weeks + 1 for a sweep but it was unsuccessful my cervix is apparently to far back... so I am disappointed. Booked into hospital for 16:00 on Sunday to be induced! Seems so strange to have an appointment for birth hehe. 4days to go :D

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ara · 13/02/2008 22:57

vixen, my dd was 15 days late and i spent the last week of my pregnancy bursting into tears every morning because i knew i was going to have to disappoint everyone AGAIN!! Tried everything to bring it on - bouncing on my ball till 2am one night - eating a vindaloo (ouch), sexually harrassing DP....

I had two failed sweeps and was induced in the end which i was scared about beforehand but it was no great shakes at all - nothing to worry about.

Turn your phone off if the phone calls and texts start to get to you! It's pressure enough having to go for sweep / thinking about impending induction without getting stressed out by phonecalls from every man and their dog - text the people you mind about to tell them you're going into hiding until your LO is born and enjoy your last few days as a childless couple

dizzydixies · 14/02/2008 08:23

am sorry you're disappointed but you're nearly there! is there not one friend you can nominate to take all the calls/texts etc
we did this with both of ours as I am not a pleasant person when heavily pg and overdue and didnt want to have to spend the first few weeks with my babies apologising to everyone lol

MrsTittleMouse · 14/02/2008 09:18

My DD was born on her due date and I still had this - because everyone started phoning and harrassing 2 weeks beforehand (my Mum always had her babies 2 weeks early - so everyone took 2 weeks off my due date ).
Now I am pregnant again, and I've already organised with DH that my due date will be "the end of October". There is no way that I'm giving a specific day again!

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vixenwasp · 14/02/2008 09:20

Yeah i'm a lot less stressed now there is an end in sight, I know that on Sunday it will all begin, it's very exciting (although I will be nervous).

I have only told close family and best friend that Sunday is the day, i'm only 23 and the first of my friends to have a baby, some are planning to visit me on Sat and If they knew they would say things like "Your gonna have a baby tomorrow !!!" best to keep quiet like you said. Wish I could turn my phone off but then all would worry hehe there are too many methods off communication!

Anyway, thanks for the messages, can't wait for Sunday

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mitfordsisters · 14/02/2008 10:10

Good luck vixenwasp!! sending labour vibes and oodles of pineapples. I'm due today and just know i'll still be here mumsnetting in a fortnight's time!

in the interests of science , i found a blogging american lady who had her baby at 45 weeks and 4 days here

mumofnone · 14/02/2008 10:24

OMG - is it just me or is the woman in that blog crazy? She made her husband fish a towel full of poo and goo and out of the bin and put a picture of it on her blog! [gagging face here]

mitfordsisters · 14/02/2008 13:27

I think she may have been a bit deranged - but then at 45 +4 with no medical care and a bankrupt husband, I guess it's understandable.

Bring on the babies!!

Onlyaphase · 14/02/2008 13:32

Best advice I had (sorry if it is already on this thread) was to add 2 weeks to your due date when people ask.

Didn't do this myself, and went 2 weeks overdue, and was literally unspeakable by the end. Fell out with nosy MIL, couldn't speak to anyone apart from 3 equally overdue friends.

If there is a next time, shan't tell anyone the due date, will be vague and say "oh around December we think and no I'm not telling anyone the date as I got so cross last time"

LilRedWG · 14/02/2008 13:34

Good luck Vixen!

mitfordsisters · 14/02/2008 14:13

Wish I'd thought of that Onlyaphase

EiWishFor3MoreWishes · 14/02/2008 14:17

hi all
VW i was 41+4 when i had DD and i was due to be induced on the day she was born and didnt need to be as i went into labour naturally the day before i found that knowing when to expect the labour helped me to relax and i think it was this that helped me go into labour i was 23 at the time and the first of my friends to have a baby it is the worst when alsorts of random relatives constantly ring asking for news i started answering the phone with "hello absent birth unit how may i help" my MIL was a bit confused and told me she had the wrong number it definitely cheered me up at least onc an hour
hope you are ok and all goes well for you
xx ei xx

BetsyBoop · 14/02/2008 14:46

wait until you go way overdue - it gets worse...

DS was eventually born by c/s at 40+10, having shown no signs of coming out under his own steam (long story)

by the end I could just about speak to DH, but he had to deal with everyone else, it was driving me MAD. Switched off mobile, didn't answer phone or the door.

I was soooo tempted to say to everyone "Oh yes I had the baby a couple of days ago, but we decided not to tell anyone...." as if.....

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vixenwasp · 14/02/2008 21:35

Your posts have helped to keep me sane during these days of overdueness, thank you.

Thanks EiWishFor3MoreWishes, knowing has definately made me feel more relaxed so it may start on its own like you said. Today I did have hourly bouts of bad period pains that spread around to my back and lasted a few minutes each, but not had one since (and I did 4 poos! TMI sorry)

Hope everyone is enjoying a splendid valentines day.

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EiWishFor3MoreWishes · 14/02/2008 23:50

oooh sounds promising VW keep us posted
xx ei xx

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vixenwasp · 15/02/2008 16:05

Ok so I have still been having, these contraction pains, like very bad period pains they carried on through the night and today. I had a show at 11 last night, (was purpley and white) some more in the middle of the night and some more today... I am worried at the colour of my show, which changed, it went clear (sort of snotty - sorry for the TMI but i need my mind putting at rest) and now I have noticed that there are some brownish specs in it. Am I over analysing it?????? was sure i was told brown and green are bad or is that just for your waters?

Also my contractions are sometimes every 10 - 15 mins sometimes more frequent, like after 4mins, do I wait for them to settle into a pattern before I phone the hospital? I am not in any discomfort at other times, baby still moving and my waters have not broken...

Advice welcome, i'm worrying

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MrsTittleMouse · 15/02/2008 16:09

It's best to wait until they are a pattern before phoning the hospital. Just because it's a bit depressing for them to tell you to stay at home! But if you're concerned then there's no harm in having a chat and putting your mind at rest.
For what it's worth - for my first I had had contractions 2 minutes apart for an hour, and they still told me to stay at home for a while longer, and they were right.

MrsTittleMouse · 15/02/2008 16:10

PS please keep posting, this is really exciting!

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 15/02/2008 16:11

Don't worry

It sounds like you are in the early stages of labour, especially as your contractions are irregular.

Make sure you rest and eat, you'll be grateful for the sleep and food over the next few days.

Good luck xx

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vixenwasp · 15/02/2008 16:13

hehe I will. Do you think my show sounds normal?

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bohemianbint · 15/02/2008 16:16

sounds about right in my limited experience - they're not the prettiest, are they? Good luck!

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