Unexpected pregnancy at 40

[JoJoBea]

Hi everyone, I'm in such a dilemma.
I'm the mum of 2 kids, my son is 8 and my little girl is 5, I've just turned 40 in August and this week have found out I'm pregnant again, was an accident.
I feel all sorts of different things, but mainly shock and uncertainty as I am happy with the 2 I've got and also I feel I'm a bit old for another, and to start over again when we're all so settled... But on the other hand i'm not gutted. Has any one had a baby at 40? Had a 3rd at 40? I'm on the fence about whether to go ahead. My husband is as shocked as me but will support whatever I decide. I'm so torn!

Hi, it’s totally understandable what you’re saying and it’s only what you and your partner thinks that matters,everyone has different reasons and commitments. I will say 1 thing. Your never too old I had a baby at 40 another at 43 and I’ve just found out I am pregnant now at 45, good luck with whatever you decide.

I had my third child at 40. Other two were 8 and 9 when he was born. I was in a different situation as he was planned (just took a long time to come along) but I can honestly say he completed the family. He gets on very well with his older siblings and when he was a baby I had lots of time to spend with him when the others were at school so it was the fun side of a PFB in terms of baby groups and activities without the anxiety of not knowing what I was doing.

It’s a shock, but with your children being young, it sounds a lovely surprise to me, you are only 40 OP, but entirely your choice, of course. Good luck with whatever you decide.

I turned 41 in August, and had my second DD at the end of August, seven year age gap between them. At times I think I'm mad to be back in the newborn stage again, but honestly wouldn't change it at all. Congratulations and

I had a baby at 44, never regretted it. I already had a 5 year old. so a sizeable age gap, but it's been fine.

I’m 40 and I’m due in March, I feel like more patient now I’m older than I was when I was younger

I’ve just found out I’m pregnant again, turning 40 soon. Major major surprise as husband had vasectomy last sept. My heads all over the place too, I could never terminate (personal choice) but feel I am going to find it really really tough. I have the perfect 7 year old girl and 3 year old boy, we were done as far as we were concerned. Lots to consider, head a mess. I hope you got on ok! Sending love x