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Alcohol in pregnancy

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yvonneb13 · 22/10/2022 15:03

Hi everyone I have a big celebration tonight with family. I know just recommend not to drink at all
I'm 22 weeks Almost 23 weeks would you or have you had say an Alcapop or small wine or something when celebrating I don't smoke and I haven't touched alcohol since I found out. What's your thoughts?

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WhereIam · 22/10/2022 16:20

The covariants are the issue.

WaltzingWaters · 22/10/2022 16:22

I love a drink but just didn’t want to take the risk whilst pregnant, and with so many 0.0% or 0.5% beers and ciders available now, some of which are really good, I just didn’t see the point in risking it and went for those instead.

HippeePrincess · 22/10/2022 16:23

I’d have a glass of champagne or a small wine personally, I don’t think a tipple once or twice will have any harmful effects that’s just my opinion and my stance through my own pregnancies.

WhereIam · 22/10/2022 16:26

I've seen studies which were listed as solid proof that black people are more likely to commit crime than white people. They were statistical studies of the amount of black prisoners in the US vs white prisoners.

Maybe their Momma's drank? 🙄

StickofVeg · 22/10/2022 16:29

I didn't drink at all. Why is having one to be social so important to you? I mean one doesn't do anything and you don't need alcohol to be sociable do you? You may want to have a quiet think about your relationship with alcohol (I mean that kindly, just so no issues later on).

ohfook · 22/10/2022 16:29

It's fine.

WhereIam · 22/10/2022 16:31

I hated my maths teacher but she loved one particular quote which she told us to remember throughout our lives and unfortunately, it has proven to be true many times in my life. You can get stats to prove anything. I could provide you with stats to suggest a link between the colour of car you drive and the likelihood of your child to be a millionaire.

The full quote — “There are three kinds of lies: Lies, Damned Lies, and Statistics” — has been attributed to Mark Twain, who himself attributed it to British Prime Minister Benjamin Disraeli, who might never have said it in the first place.

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yvonneb13 · 22/10/2022 16:35

StickofVeg · 22/10/2022 16:29

I didn't drink at all. Why is having one to be social so important to you? I mean one doesn't do anything and you don't need alcohol to be sociable do you? You may want to have a quiet think about your relationship with alcohol (I mean that kindly, just so no issues later on).

I'm
Sorry but all because I want to enjoy a little somethings does not make me have a problem I know there's gonna be lots of toasting etc going on tonight and I think it would just be nice with a meal.

I haven't touched it in the whole 22 weeks of being pregnant

OP posts:
WhereIam · 22/10/2022 16:36

yvonneb13 · 22/10/2022 16:35

I'm
Sorry but all because I want to enjoy a little somethings does not make me have a problem I know there's gonna be lots of toasting etc going on tonight and I think it would just be nice with a meal.

I haven't touched it in the whole 22 weeks of being pregnant

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Enjoy the toasts OP. Baby will be fine.

lilroo87 · 22/10/2022 16:44

The decision is yours to make really. I didn't drink at all in my first pregnancy and won't in this one but I don't feel I could live with the guilt if something happened to baby. I'd always be wondering if it was the drink so never thought it was worth the risk for me.
Only you can really weigh up the risks for your pregnancy and for you

InTheNightWeWillWish · 22/10/2022 16:45

I don’t like beer but I had a craving in early pregnancy. I tried some sips of beer and alcohol free beer, I still didn’t like it. I would have probably had a drink in pregnancy but I felt nauseous until 20 weeks and then at 24 weeks I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes. So wine would have affected my blood sugars. Plus after that point pretty much everything set off my acid-reflux, so I imagine alcohol would have been the same.

There was a thread on here a couple of months ago in which people were inferring the OP was a bad mother because she was leaving her baby with their dad for a couple of nights. Take everything on here with a pinch of salt.

Tomorrowisalatterday · 22/10/2022 16:47

I found this article really helpful during pregnancy.

www.theguardian.com/society/2007/may/29/health.medicineandhealth

There wasn't any evidence that led to the change from "1-2 units once or twice a week is fine" to "don't drink at all", there was the belief that it was unduly confusing and led to pregnant women drinking more than that.

Confusion101 · 22/10/2022 16:49

StickofVeg · 22/10/2022 16:29

I didn't drink at all. Why is having one to be social so important to you? I mean one doesn't do anything and you don't need alcohol to be sociable do you? You may want to have a quiet think about your relationship with alcohol (I mean that kindly, just so no issues later on).

What do u mean by one doesn't do anything? Do u only drink to get drunk? You may want to have a quiet chat with yourself about your relationship with alcohol (I mean that kindly)

Strokethefurrywall · 22/10/2022 16:51

I enjoyed a beer every so often through my first pregnancy from about 20 weeks I think, and with DS2 a glass of wine. Always with food over the course of a dinner, or across an entire evening.

I did my research, spoke with my OBGYN and my own risk assessment was sound, for me.

Only you can determine what an acceptable risk is, my own research said that a small amount of alcohol with food over the course of an evening was a negligible risk.

If you want to enjoy a celebratory glass then do your research, don't look to Mumsnet for a balanced assessment because you won't find one here.

pumpkinfuck · 22/10/2022 16:52

Drink the wine! Fuck knows we all need a way to relax sometime!

Tisfortired · 22/10/2022 16:53

I didn’t and don’t miss it enough to take the risk - why would you? One small wine or alcopop is hardly going to make the evening that much better. You say you’d do it to be social but surely people know you are pregnant and nobody is expecting you to to have a ‘social’ drink?

Lockdownmummy · 22/10/2022 16:55

Totally down to you!

FWIW a had a drink a handful of times in both pregnancies. All on special occasions and it was always something extra nice - I glass of proper champagne or an expensive small glass of red!

KatieP8 · 22/10/2022 16:56

When I was around 20 weeks, I was on holiday and couldn't pass up an opportunity to drink some wine in Bordeaux. I only ever had one small glass at a time, but I had 3 or 4 during my trip. Generally speaking, the French don't see it as a problem and I was told by our Air BnB host that her mother had a glass of wine every day whilst pregnant with her!

Certainly heavy drinking is absolutely not safe, and the advice is not to drink at all for obvious reasons- there is no known safe limit- therefore best not to drink. You can decide, you're in second trimester now, what do you really feel the risk of one drink is to your baby? I'm nearly 37 weeks now by the way, I've had a couple of sips of my partner's beer or wine recently and didn't enjoy it. So you might not even like it 😂

PinkFizz1 · 22/10/2022 17:03

Tisfortired · 22/10/2022 16:53

I didn’t and don’t miss it enough to take the risk - why would you? One small wine or alcopop is hardly going to make the evening that much better. You say you’d do it to be social but surely people know you are pregnant and nobody is expecting you to to have a ‘social’ drink?

Yeah, this.

WhereIam · 22/10/2022 17:07

KatieP8 · 22/10/2022 16:56

When I was around 20 weeks, I was on holiday and couldn't pass up an opportunity to drink some wine in Bordeaux. I only ever had one small glass at a time, but I had 3 or 4 during my trip. Generally speaking, the French don't see it as a problem and I was told by our Air BnB host that her mother had a glass of wine every day whilst pregnant with her!

Certainly heavy drinking is absolutely not safe, and the advice is not to drink at all for obvious reasons- there is no known safe limit- therefore best not to drink. You can decide, you're in second trimester now, what do you really feel the risk of one drink is to your baby? I'm nearly 37 weeks now by the way, I've had a couple of sips of my partner's beer or wine recently and didn't enjoy it. So you might not even like it 😂

there is no known safe limit

There is also no known unsafe limit.

If you want to have a drink and enjoy yourself and relax, do it. Or don't? Lol.

violetcuriosity · 22/10/2022 18:00

I'm 22 weeks pregnant with number 2, sometimes I have a glass of wine, sometimes I don't fancy it. Always leave at least a week between each one. It's just what you feel comfortable with. Personally, I feel more comfortable drinking a small glass of wine being 12% than I would a shot of vodka but I do also know that that theory is complete bollocks and it's all a small risk. Everyone is different and it's down to you, I know people
who are very lax about listeria risks which have severe consequences but they are comfortable and so it's down to them!

KatieP8 · 22/10/2022 18:07

@WhereIam You what?
I was referring to what the guidance was and why it was there...🤔

sageandbasil · 22/10/2022 18:09

I didn't but know alot of people who did

ecnatsid · 22/10/2022 18:09

I wouldn't.

quietnightmare · 22/10/2022 18:16

No