Pregnancy after Miscarriage - Welcome to Knicker Checkers Anonymous II

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And so we continue...

justjules, I can't believe you are already 19 weeks!!!! I'm 27 weeks now and my cervix is now longer than average so it's a normal pregnancy for me now. Just shopping for loads of baby bits, despite being my third I still need to buy alot of new things!

Hello everybody and thanks so much for the warm welcome, it means a lot to be with ladies who understand what it's like to be pg after mc, especially in the early days.
Phoned GP today to book my 1st ante-natal appt and get the ball rolling - Weds 9am. I'll be asking her if I can be referred for an early scan. If it's not Trust policy (or some other rubbish excuse) then I'll pay for a private one. I was interested to read your post re nucal fold scan Ronshar as last year I was told it wasn't available on the NHS in my area. I'll see what the situation is now, but if not I'll have to go private for that too. DH's sister has Down's so he wants to know the risk for us.
Jules I can't believe you're 19 weeks either - where has the time gone?! Fab news about the holiday.
Pinkali Congrats on your BFP. Everybody here has been or is going through the same as you so you'll get the support you need here. Keep thinking sticky thoughts! What's the mantra for this thread again, "healthy and well" isn't it? I've certainly been telling myself that over the past couple of days!

Hi everyone
have just done a mad rush to re-route all my emails to a personal folder so my new secretary doesn't get them from Facebook - however can anyone supply me with the mumsnet email adress that comes in when they email you? I can then tell my computer to hide it in my personal files - I can't find any in my deleted items folder arghhhhhh

p.s. ronny nine weeks today potato pal

sorry cricri very ruse of me HIIIIIIIIIIII and welcome to this thread - is just as nerve wracking being here but at least you get to worry about something that is happening rather than wishing for something to happen IYSWIM?
julez LOVE the hols idea - I was just saying to DH am desperate for a sun holiday (those cyprus adverts on TV are killing me) and he said YES hooray

Hi all and particularly goingfor3 (?) or anyone who has/had an incompetent cervix; I'm 15+1day with this pregnancy and following some gynae ops and a d+c in 2006 my doctors are monitoring me possible incompetent cervix. I'm v nervous about it and obviously anxious that all will be well with babe but my body will just let me down and I'll deliver anytime from 20 - 26 weeks ie too early. Can you give me any specifics on what cervix lengths you've had and at what week and what feedback the doctors gave you about it. Mine was 33mm at 12 weeks but not sure how quickly shortening can occur. Sorry, this probably only makes sense if you've had problems flagged up with your cervix!

Sausageandmash I'm so sorry you have the stress of worrying about your cervix. I have had mine measured every two weeks from about 10 weeks. 3 cms is average. At my first scan it was about 4 cms and then went down to 3.6, then 3.1 which is were it stayed from about 16 weeks to 24 weeks. At my 26 week scan they discovered it had lengthened and is now 4.5 cms so I don't need to have anymore scans. The midwife and consultant did tell me that 3 cms is the average length of a cervix so yours sounds the right length too. 24 weeks seems a long way off but at that point your uterus will change shape making a baby loss from an incomptentent cervix much less likely. Are you going to have another scan soon?

Thanks so much for coming back to me goingfor3. My next scan is next week so I just I hope I end up being like you at the moment and adding rather than subtracting length!

24 weeks sounds like an absolute life time - I try not to worry, but it's like another flaming ring of fire to jump through before we get to 'safety', let alone the normal screening and anomaly scans! I'm so glad that you are passed the 'danger point' - please keep you fingers crossed that I can get by without cerclage.

Thanks also for being so precise with your measurements - that you went down as well as up (as they say in the ads!) is a real comfort (and I will definitely try and emulate your example).

Hello everyone, gosh it has been busy on here. Got my first midwife appt. tomorrow. Going to try and be really strong and push for the earliest dating scan they can give me, not least because I am having another bad day on the "lost symptoms" front. Boobs really not as sore and not feeling sicky for a few days now. Not even that tired today (was yesterday tho'). 10+4 today and just petrified it is already too late, as one of the losses was at 11 weeks....Yelp!!

Hi everyone

Rainrain good luck at midwife i hate the where have my symptoms gone feeling. You could ask the midwife to let you listen to babys heart beat tommorrow now you are over 10 weeks to provide a bit of reassurance?

I have had a crap day. I keep waking up in the night with anxiety and tearfulness (so not like me). I have a lot of stress on at work and feeling sad about baby i lost - which would of been due now. Last night i woke at 3 and just couldn't stop crying and didn't get back to sleep until past 5. Work have been great and told me that deadlines can wait - but this doesn't reduce the horrid feelings. I think this is pregnancy hormones mixed with anxiety about baby, sadness about mc and stress at work - but i hope it goes soon

Thanks Lcy - I had the same problems with anxiety and sleeplessness last year after pregnancy losses, try to chill out as the stress can't be good. Glad to hear that your work are being kind of supportive though.

Might ask about H/B thing, but actually I have hired a doppler - tried it the other day and couldn't hear anything but my own heartbeat (I think) which really is not helping the anxiety (and the feeling it is too late already).

Got to keep remembering that I have to accept what I cannot change - and there is nothing I can do to change the outcome. Sorry that is really depressing.

rainrain, I completely understand your fear. My symptoms came and went over the first few weeks and it is very normal. The midwife might try to listen to the heartbeat but the likleyhood is she won't be able to find it in which case you will panic more, I wouldn't ask as I know I would end up feeling really upset. Hopefully they can fit you in for a scan soon.

I know nothing will ease the worry for you until you see the baby kicking on the scan! Just to let you know i was in the same position at 10 weeks with this pregnancy - i had no symptoms to speak of and was sure it was all over (esp as i also had bleeding). But the baby was ok - so i have my fingers crossed for you and hope you hear a heart beat tomorrow.

adding my own virtual hug for you rainrain we are there with you - my symptoms are coming and going too - we have to take one day at a time and TALK about our fears as much as possible (without getting super anxious) - okay easier said than done

Thanks guys, it IS good to talk to you all - and there is noone who quite understands like you ladies Funny to want to feel like crap all the time really isn't it - but it's more reassuring.

Anyway DD just cheered me up by coming in and giving me my mothers day balloon (again) one of my rings, one of my brooches and a plastic flower, all as presents! She's just too generous

hi ladies

rainrain - your dd is just the cutest! i hope everything is fine with you and i am sure it will be. xoxo

lcy - nice to see your name popping up again.
i know how you feel. i thought was all cool and just happy about this pregnancy and i am, really. but today i had my 24 week check-up with the dr and didn't realise until I got home that she wrote my notes on my old pregnancy journal (this document you have to cart around to all your dr, midwife and scan appointments here in denmark). just looking at it made me feel sad, then realising that i would be coming up to due date . . . that mc was the most gutting thing that has ever happened to me. i felt so hollow and sad and just . . . mystified by the whole thing.

but of course, feeling that bad meant that i can honestly say that the day i got this bfp was just the best day . . .i floated to work that day and despite the constant worry, i am so chuffed . . .everytime i feel her kick, its a reminder of her thriving and i just love it.

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Hi TJuice - i feel the same, devestated by the miscarriage but this little one feels even more precious because of it. I can't believe you are 24 weeks - do you have a big bump? Sometimes when i am lying awake at night fretting i get a little kick from baby and i remember what is important

Sorry Olivia but you need to post on site stuff or media requests

Welcome to everyone who's new here

Sorry to hear you're so worried Rainrain, am feeling similar myself. I don't know if m/w wd agree to try & hear the heartbeat anyway because they don't want to worry you if they can't find it, and at this stage, not finding it doesn't prove there is anything wrong.

When I had my mc, I went to my booking in appointment even though I was bleeding and sure it was the end - she suggested trying, because she wanted to see if she could reassure me. Unfortunately she couldn't and I mc the next day anyway.

I wen to the gp about the continual crampy pain I've had since Friday as it's been making me panic. I was a little bit as he said he'd put down I was having spotting as well on the referral to ensure I got a scan. But it was nice of him to be so determined to get me a scan. That was at 9.30am, and he faxed it off while I was there, but still haven't heard anything from epu. Maybe tomorrow - I feel compelled to ave my mobile in my hand all the time to ensure I won't miss a call, as it's virtually impossible to get back to them.

Sorry for long me me me post

still here, ladies.

not changed my name, and, as my name suggests, i am not in london .

FWIW, according to the definition, i'm apparently not an expat, either, but an immigrant, being both a British and US national.

Eeek sorry rainrain bad advice re asking midwife to listen to heartbeat. My midwife has been using doppler with me since week 10 - but obviously not the norm. You can tell i am a first timer . Good luck tomorrow - i hope you get booked in for a scan soon.

Splishsplosh - sorry to hear about crampy pain. Glad your GP took you seriously - hope you get a call from EPU tomorrow and a quick scan date.

Splish - good luck with the scan - some of the docs out there are sympathetic to us eh? Lcy don't worry... Whatever happens I will know within the next 2 weeks what's going on in there (why does that seem like a lifetime. If i was drinking cocktails in Gran Canaria or something it would seem like no time at all!)

((((((hugs)))))) to rainrain and splishsplosh. Hope you both get some reassurance tomorrow x

Just popping in to share some good news. 16+2 today. Scanned for 2nd tri nuchal screen today. Baby looks incredibly healthy and strong. No defects. No problems to worry over. Found out it is a GIRL not a boy as suspected at last scan. So slowly all my MC issues have falling away and I'm very happy.