hey guys
since my baby has been born my MIL has taken over and gives my little one a bath herself everyday. ive said i’ll do it it’s my baby and she said no it’ll be too hard for you to hold her and wash her. she changes her nappy before and after bath and sometimes randomly during the day if im in another room.
ive said i’ll chnage her nappy and still she carries on. i’ve been ill for the past 2 days and my MIL has decided to take over not like they weren’t already before but now even more! my little angel had her first bottle last night after exclusively breastfeeding for 4 weeks which i just couldn’t do anymore. i’m still breastfeeding during the day but wanted to introduce a bottle now and I wanted to give my baby her first bottle seeing as i’m her mum and it was such a big thing for me. i woke up and MIL was making up the milk so i quickly woke up even though i didn’t feel the best and held my daughter from my husband and waited for the milk to cool and said to my MIL oh pass it to me and i’ll feed her, im awake. and she said no don’t worry i will .. i said no and grabbed the bottle and it took a while for my baby to get it into her mouth because she was crying so i had to rock her to calm her down. by this time my MILs hands were getting closer and closer towards me trying to cup my baby into her arms and she took her sat next to me and gave her the bottle. i wanted to cry so bad. she might have thought it was all innocent but it was horrible for me. after 1 minute i took her and fed her the rest but her first bottle moment is just so precious for me and she took it away from me! she must have thought yet again i don’t know how to bottle feed because i have no experience. my SIL said oh it’s best if she stay downstairs with MIL because we’re all not well and with breastfeeding too meaning give her a bottle. i defiantly am not going to give a bottle because i’m sure breast milk makes her immune if she does get i’ll.
don’t in laws ever think when couples move out what are they going to do then? call them up every two seconds to see if baby is crying. come over everyday to help me dress my baby. 😡
another thing-
as soon as my 4 week old baby cries which is normal they all come running. MIL is here within one second i don’t know how? it’s like she’s waiting outside the room! my FIL tells the other people in the house quickly go and check as soon as they hear a whimper. SIL comes running to see what’s wrong. and i say the same thing everytime. ‘she wants feeding’ ‘just gonna change her nappy’ honestly does not help them being here!
i’ve locked our door before but they knock and knock and apparently they have a key so they’ve opened it a few times from outside!!! during the night if she cries my MIL runs across the landing and knocks on our door and we just say what are you doing? were just changing her nappy, don’t keep getting up. once my baby was crying quite a bit because she wasn’t latching on for some reason and MIL opened door from outside! no flipping privacy!
i really want to move out but everything is too expensive and we don’t have anywhere else we can go at the moment. i just don’t know how to make them stop acting this way. i already feel like shit with baby blues but it’s carried on up to 4 weeks so just waiting to speak to a doctor. i feel like whatever i do i’m doing wrong but maybe that’s just mum guilt.
my baby just woke up now and started crying and MIL came running and i said im gonna feed her with a straight face and she said why don’t you give her a bottle. i said no sternly ..
the whole reason i got bottles was to give her at least one on evening or during night but breastfeed the rest of the time. maybe my MIL think she’s helping by taking the ‘work’ off me but it’s the opposite. i want to do everything for her and because i haven’t been for the past two days i feel like the worst mum ever and my MIL has loved taking over. why have i let this happen!
any advice on what to do if i can do much anyway?