Smoking whilst pregnant

[Jcra]

I am 6 weeks pregnant with my second child 10 years apart I smoked when I was pregnant with my daughter only 2 to 3 a day I cut down alot and she was perfectly healthy 8 pound baby. With this one I am finding myself smoking around 5 to 6 a day I absolutly hate it and I feel so ashamed and heartbroken that I carnt stop for the sake of my child the guilt is killing me but my god it is so so hard.
I have mentioned this to midwife and she has referred me to a non smoking clinic to help me so fingers crossed I can stop.

Oh your telling me wish I never put a post on tbh. But thank you for your comment

Do you care more about feeding your habit or your child? Seriously it's that simple.

I try not to judge people but draw the line at smoking during pregnancy. The facts are stark: it's pure weakness and selfishness that is damaging your unborn child. If that's not enough to make you stop then nothing is.

Sorry for harsh words.

@Jcra bit shit to call a stranger an arsehole when you're the one damaging your own baby because you have no will power

All of this is good advice

Stop beating yourself up, just take up the offer of help and work hard on it.

Ignore all the criticism on here it will only make you feel worse. You aren’t the only one, and we are all human.

Critical People! - you are only going to make the OP worse which will probably trigger more smoking.

Constructive advice is more helpful.

My mum went to a hypnotist to give up when pregnant with me and my friend's husband also gave up using hypnotism so worth looking into.

I won't lecture you but my friend smoked in all of her pregnancies, first 2 were healthy but 3rd child has a heart condition. So just because your previous pregnancy was fine it doesn't mean you'd be that lucky again so you should try everything you can.

I can't believe women still smoke during pregnancy when the risks are so obvious. Awful.

@Jcra I smoked for about 14 years too prior to stopping as well. I'm so sorry you've had shitty comments on here please don't regret posting, just ignore them and use the positive comments to help.

I knew I wanted to quit for like 6 years before I eventually did and never actually did, I went down from 10 a day to one for a long time but could never not have that one and then covid happened and being stuck at home I went right back up to probably 15 a day so I know how insurmountable it can feel to stop. Get Allen Carrs book and engage with the stopping smoking NHS stuff it is possible to stop you just have to want to do it and you will find the will power, I believe in you!

I think you just have to stop, grit your teeth and deal with the pain. Nicorette quick mist spray is great but I’m not sure about nicotine replacement products in pregnancy so check with your midwife.

The poster viewing a situation as horrifying - when it is horrifying - isn't the arsehole here. It's the person smoking 5/6 fags a day whilst pregnant. It might not be a 'helpful' comment but not everything has to be helpful on a public forum where you post threads that are ripe for criticism such as this one.

I'm sure the Be Kind brigade will be along to make you feel better.

Don't know why I open these threads.

Good luck with the smoking cessation clinic, OP. Giving up is the best thing you can do for yourself and your baby.

@PSKeyboardwarrior I don't know why you open them either, I can guarantee that if I'd seen these posts when I was still smoking the first thing I'd do was go light a cigarette, everyone that smokes knows the dangers, telling them how bad it is won't help anyone, compassion and tips on how to stop are what are needed

Ignore the people being nasty. Quitting smoking is incredibly hard and knowing you have to increases your stress. I smoked for 30 years. Nicotine replacement didn't help. I read The Easy Way To Quit Smoking by Alan Carr (not the comedian!) and quit immediately. Available in bookshops and amazon for less than a packet of fags. Please try it.

What you need is support not judgement from the mumsnet nicotine police. Have you tried nicorette gum? It really helped me to stop.
It's probably a good idea to engage with the stop smoking service. They will have lots of helpful advice for you. Good luck!!

I stop 8 months before we decided to try for a baby, I had been smoking for almost a decade. I stopped cold turkey and read Allan Carrs book (as a previous poster said). I gave up before I read (audiobook, listened) to it. 3 years on I still have never had a cigarette again.

You can do it, I promise you can. Take one day at a time.

You can do it! And the stop-smoking cessation people will really help.

I smoked right up until I got a positive pregnancy test.

Try and work out if it’s a habit or addition. For me it was mainly habit, so breaking associations such as coffee really helped. If it’s addiction then the nicotine replacement products for will help.

have you tried vaping? Hugely unpopular on JudgeNet but it’s way less harmful than real cigarettes if you really are struggling. The NHS does say that quitting is best but if needs must, vaping is better than smoking.

@PSKeyboardwarrior

I don’t know why you open them either.

The poster is asking for advice to stop. She knows smoking is bad for the baby.

Calling her a arsehole is more likely to make her smoke more rather than less.

It’s not about being kind, it’s about being constructive.

This is simple psychology and really shouldn’t be too complex for you to grasp. But since it is, then yes the best solution would be to not open the threads.

One of the most selfish actions someone can do. It's child abuse/child neglect, not what you want to hear but it's true. Start putting your baby first.

Hiya lovely. I too am a smoker. I managed to quit when I found out I was pregnant, but I did have to literally cold turkey it which was really difficult, and throw everything in the bin. I didn't have any withdrawal symptoms though so I was really lucky in that sense. It helped to think of a baby with a cigarette in his mouth, it disgusted me but it was what would have been happening had I smoked while pregnant.
It is SO hard. Don't kid yourself into thinking cutting down is enough, you do need to quit. Don't let people make you feel too guilty either, it is an addiction after all, and quitting is so difficult. You can do it
Like others have said, the SIDS statistics alone are enough to push you towards quitting.
Also, as someone with an asthmatic little one, I really urge you to quit. Seeing your LO cough all the time and worry about asthma attacks is terrifying.
Good luck x

was* a smoker. Tired!😓

Oh piss off.

And there's me who doesn't even like being around others smoking, I'm pregnant with our first!

OP is this a wanted pregnancy? Or are you feeling conflicted about it, hence not really wanting to quit to protect the baby?

Have you tried nicorette gum

I couldn't ever smoke when pregnant - this is as someone who was prescribed every opiate under the sun during all three pregnancies

I understand that the stress of things makes outcomes worse for babies development but smoking just honestly it doesn't gain you anything (I smoke again now)

Get the gym and chew it all day

Buy yourself something lovely in a month with what you saved

You got this 💪🏼💪🏼 you are strong coming here to admit how you feel and ask for help xx

No one called OP names, it was her who personally attacked another member, but misspelt every word of the sentence apart from ‘wow’ 😄

Yeah, just stop. (Yes, I used to smoke. I just stopped.) People who choose to have a kid don’t get to expose the kid to high risks just to indulge themselves.

Op just want to wish you luck whatever you do. Smoking is so hard to give up.
In my mothers days and grandmothers days a lot of pregnant women smoked, and drank. They'd even celebrate a pregnancy with a drink and as far as I'm told there were no ill effects unless you were an alcoholic and the baby had fetal alcohol syndrome.
People saying it's horrific wind your necks in! You'd think the op was a raging crack whore!