2 potential fathers clear blue 1-2 weeks

[ramdom]

I have found out I am 1-2 weeks pregnant on clear blue test on Monday 8/08/22

My last period was 11/07/2022

On the 21/07/2022
I slept with guy 1

On 28/07/2022 I slept with guy 2
30/07/2022 I slept with guy 2 again

Does anyone have any understanding on who the father could be by the dates and the clear blue being 1-2 weeks

It's a mess and I'm really stressed out
I have an abortion booked on Monday because I don't know for certain who father could be and I am hoping for it to be guy 2 is this too close together to hope for guy 2 ?

Please don't judge :'(

OP it's probably only a matter of time before everyone on here becomes judgy and mean.

You sound really sweet and unfortunately there is no way of telling whose it is.

In your position I'd terminate, then cut ties with Guy 1 (and I'd tell his wife but that's just me!) And focus your energy in Guy 2 who sounds supportive and kind.

Good luck

Does Man 2 think he is the only potential father?

You had my sympathy until you said you'd slept with a married man. You're friends with the wife, and you sleep with her husband, the father of her children? You've made your bed, now it's time to lie in it. It's pointless coming here asking who the father is, nobody here has the answer. Terminate the pregnancy, and seek help.

Thankyou so much for this
if the dates keep changing for you I'll just have to go for a termination

And try again after because I really didn't understand before this is something I would have really loved and hoped for with guy 2

And I can finally tell him I'm ready to take him serious and settle down and have trust in him and plan our next steps properly in our life and future

I didn't know this is something I really wanted yet with guy 2 until this situation I am in

I will also have to tell the wife of guy1 after I've fully recovered from the abortion

And just take the response I get and answer all her questions out of respect for the wife and potentially lose our friendship
She could potentially not believe me and believe him .

I will have to come back with a update after the 26/08/22
After another scan

With another update because the comment section is getting a bit negative
And I refuse to engage in negativity over the internet and focus on my surroundings and enjoy my peace in my home and live in the now and not feel and think negatively it's not good for anyone

Thankyou all :) x

Thankyou ever so much
I really really appreciate this so much

I have made a comment above about this I just had to squeeze in the last response here to you because this is exactly what I'm doing word for word

Have a lovely evening
And thankyou for taking out the time to write your response to me :) x

The only way you will find out is with an expense DNA test.
Is this something you would do?
And then what?
Terminate if its guy 1, keep it if guy 2?
Alturnitivly you could terminate now (that's what I'd do).
Or keep the baby whatever.
If you choose to keep the baby, with or without DNA testing, I would plan to be a single mum if I were you.

There is no point making a decision on which man is the father. You are not in a relationship with either. One is married.

your choices are not what man will be responsible for a baby. They wont be. Your choices will be raising a baby on your own, or termination and getting some counselling. What is your career situation and housing situation at the moment? Can you financially offer stability for a child at this point as a single mother?

your boundaries are poor. You can insist you have good boundaries, but your actions say otherwise. Having sex with two men so close together, one married, using no contraception with either, and deciding on termination or not based on the possible father, aren't the actions of a woman with good boundaries. You need counselling / therapy of some sort to improve this as it is certainly something you can improve.

UPDATE 2nd and last time I'm posting this same message

I'll just have to go for a termination

And try again after because I really didn't understand before this is something I would have really loved and hoped for with guy 2

And I can finally tell him I'm ready to take him serious and settle down and have trust in him and plan our next steps properly in our life and future

I didn't know this is something I really wanted yet with guy 2 until this situation I am in

I will also have to tell the wife of guy1 after I've fully recovered from the abortion

And just take the response I get and answer all her questions out of respect for the wife and potentially lose our friendship
She could potentially not believe me and believe him .

I will have to come back with a update after the 26/08/22
After another scan

With another update because the comment section is getting a bit negative
And I refuse to engage in negativity over the internet and focus on my surroundings and enjoy my peace in my home and live in the now and not feel and think negatively it's not good for anyone

Thankyou all :) x

OP - a regular cycle is 28 days and the person usually ovulates around day 14. The thing is women have little pouches inside their uterus that keeps the sperm in - male sperm tend to die quickly but guy1's female sperm could have easily hung around for you to ovulate around day 14. I know this from attending natural planning clinics! Because you have a 27 day cycle the only way you have kept the pregnancy viable is if the second half of your cycle was at least 10 days - you need at least 10 days of progesterone to maintain a pregnancy (I know this from many IVF cycles).
So in theory the latest you could have ovulated was day 17 if you were on a regular cycle of 27 days - which means you could in theory be pregnant from Guy2...but it would be unusual for you to ovulate on day 17 in a 27 day cycle - not impossible but unusual so I am sorry if I had to make a bet I would bet it's guy1.

I would say though if you are in a good relationship with guy2 would it not be worth telling him and see his response? I know many men who have started relationships with women pregnant to other men. I have also known men who are infertile so very happy to parent a child not biologically their own.

@random- you can pay £400 for. NIPT test which can tell you who the father is before birth usually at around 8 weeks. It's just a blood test for you and one of the prospective fathers.

@ittakes2 this is very informative, just curious though, doesn’t the egg survive up to 24 hours so could she not in theory of ovulated say a day late which isn’t too unusual and guy 2’s fastest swimmers made it?

I’m not sure this is the time for pseudo religious nonsense.

Not many things are beyond redemption, anyway, and a one off, regretted, fornication wouldn’t be one of them.

OP, could you just level with chap 2? That might ease the whole decision making process.

Impossible to know but if you taken the average, on a 27 day cycle, you are most likely to ovulate on day 13, with the fertility window, 6 days prior and one day after. This makes guy 1 more statistically likely.

However, you could have ovulated up to day 17, while we meant that the first time you slept with guy two could have just been inside the fertility window. Lesser odds but still not impossible.

If I had to guess, I'm strongly leaning towards guy one based on the fact that he had more days on the fertility window.

There's no way to know for sure without DNA.

If this a relationship & a baby is what you want with guy 2, give the relationship a real solid run and don't rush into a pregnancy.

@ramdom

Only think of what you want to do. I actually don't care about the situation with guy 1. It's your body and you decide what best for you. I know it's easier if it's guy 2.

Don't listen to people telling you to abort this pregnancy. Sorry I would tell this guys wife straight away now your pregnant he so eager for you to have an abortion.

People on here will be nasty because you slept with a married man and got pregnant. Really my only concern would be what I want to do not what's best for him.

If any point you feel you don't want an abortion please don't. Speak to someone first.
I hope you read my response because you need to think what's best for you nobody else.

You both were wrong but don't abort for him. His wife will know what kind of man she married too. Right now you can't think about him and his family. He wasn't when he slept with you.
I am not saying to keep the baby to spite him. Do what you want for you.

Thankyou ever so much for your response I really appreciate it

You are right
She deserves to know I will tell her once this is over
I can't bring up a baby knowing the baby broke up their home and the baby finding this out also wouldn't be nice

I am not going to rush anything with guy two I am just get into a proper relationship now and start building together like he says into our future and planning things properly over time

I hope you have a lovely night xx

Sperm basically needs to be in waiting in the Fallopian tubes, ready for when the egg floats down. This is where conception happens. I’m sorry, OP, but with a 27 days cycle I would be thinking it’s male 1. It takes 5 days from conception for the fertlised egg to become a blastocyst, which can then implant. HCG starts being produced a this point. I don’t think the maths supports male 2.

you need to think what's best for you nobody else
Not the baby who is being born into such a shit show? They are the one who will 100% pay for the OPs lack of boundaries and care 🤷‍♀️

Not helpful @CJsGoldfish

Why not use protection

They're too close together to be sure.

Please see a sexual health clinic, get yourself on contraception, and sort yourself out.

"I'll just have to try again"
For the love of god no - you don't need to try get pregnant again straight away with guy 2 when you aren't even certain about a relationship with him. Don't bring an innocent baby into this, it's a mess.

This is tough. Take a decision for yourself not guy one or guy 2. Because you already told guy 2, he would be aware that you terminate this pregnancy, this could be very significant to him. I think even if you decide you would have to come clean to him about your predicament. There is a dismal chance it might be his. I also bet on guy 1 sorry OP. But I would take a test to make sure. I think the money is worth it so that you can be certain about your decision and never have a what if. You might decide to keep it regardless. All the best OP.

My boundaries are far from off

You keep telling yourself that - doesn't make it true though.

Both guys are aware I want a abortion

Guy1 was suggesting from before I even mentioned

And guy2 is supporting my choice too he was a little but disappointed and even offered to come to my appointment with me

I don't get why everyone just assumes things from a post

and plan our next steps properly in our life and future

Sorry

Where does this say a timescale in the future please ?,

Please don't assume I was talking about right away

Thankyou